Vowed I never would!!!!!!!!
in Baby
HI Girls
Bring out the bad mother brigade. From before I ever had any children until today I always vowed that I would NEVER smack them, because i cant see how it works, although i was always smacked as a child which did me no harm.
Anyway, this morning had Stevie Louise on my lap as she is teething and not very settled and Caitlin (2) was having a massive tantrum for absolutely no reason whatsoever, when all of a sudden she punched Stevie Louise right in the face. I Shouted at her to stop and she did it again, so i put Stevie down and without thinking smacked Caitlin's hand. I now feel so terrible that i have given her a pack of chocolate buttons and sat in the kitchen like a blubbing mess!!!
I just feel like a total failure, i mean she is 2 years old bless her heart.
ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH:x
Bring out the bad mother brigade. From before I ever had any children until today I always vowed that I would NEVER smack them, because i cant see how it works, although i was always smacked as a child which did me no harm.
Anyway, this morning had Stevie Louise on my lap as she is teething and not very settled and Caitlin (2) was having a massive tantrum for absolutely no reason whatsoever, when all of a sudden she punched Stevie Louise right in the face. I Shouted at her to stop and she did it again, so i put Stevie down and without thinking smacked Caitlin's hand. I now feel so terrible that i have given her a pack of chocolate buttons and sat in the kitchen like a blubbing mess!!!
I just feel like a total failure, i mean she is 2 years old bless her heart.
ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH:x
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[Modified by: Beebee on February 09, 2009 12:57 PM]
To be honest i was smacked as a child and i know for a fact if the only punishment i had coming was a good telling of or being sent to my room i probably wouldn't have stopped doing most things.
I dont smack them often but some times its needed,
I felt bad, by Isaac forgot about it 2 mins later.
Please don't beat yourself up about it. Sometimes lo's do need a smack (not too hard and after a warning) if their actions are endangering themselves or others and I think punching another child in the face is a prime example - whether it's a sibling or not. With some children they just don't listen to words and understand that you really don't want them to do what they are doing - a smack on the hand, leg or bottom with your hand is the only thing that makes them stop, take notice and allow you to get through to them that their behaviour will not be expected.
What do you do if your lo is getting into the habit of running into the road (despite your best efforts)? Keep saying no, explaining that they mustn't do it, only for them to run into the road and be injured or killed - or do you go through the usual warning etc then next time give them a smack to make them take notice and listen to you, even though they may cry for a little while.
It doesn't always have much effect with some children, but if used very sparingly it could just save your lo's life in the future - or at least make them listen to you rather than risk another smack.