Are we cruel??...
Hi
Jaimi-Lee is now 12 days old (already!! omg! lol) anyway... She is already not settling in her moses at night, so HV suggested we put her to bed on her own and awake so she learns to settle herself. We have done this for the past 2 nights now and tonight and she has settled herself after 10 mins of crying. We put her upstairs at 9pm and she hasnt been waking until 3am for a feed then back down at 4am til 8ish so she is doing great!!
But i feel sooo cruel doing this soo early! Does it sound like were being harsh? We have a camera baby monitor so we watch her from downstairs and i have to admit it breaks my heart seeing her crying, but after 10mins she is sound asleep, so i know she's fine, but i feel so guilty that were not cuddling her in at such a young age. Has anyone else done this?
Sharon xx
Jaimi-Lee is now 12 days old (already!! omg! lol) anyway... She is already not settling in her moses at night, so HV suggested we put her to bed on her own and awake so she learns to settle herself. We have done this for the past 2 nights now and tonight and she has settled herself after 10 mins of crying. We put her upstairs at 9pm and she hasnt been waking until 3am for a feed then back down at 4am til 8ish so she is doing great!!
But i feel sooo cruel doing this soo early! Does it sound like were being harsh? We have a camera baby monitor so we watch her from downstairs and i have to admit it breaks my heart seeing her crying, but after 10mins she is sound asleep, so i know she's fine, but i feel so guilty that were not cuddling her in at such a young age. Has anyone else done this?
Sharon xx
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If Jaimi-Lee is only crying for 10 minutes and then sleeping then it's fine. She is obviously not getting distressed and you are so doing the right thing as she will be a brilliamt sleeper and seems to be already!
My Mum has always said she let me cry it out from birth and asked me if i remember, which obviously I don't (!) and we have a FAB relationship so it didn't do me any harm!
It is hard though.
xxx
We had a musical and lights toy to go in lo's cot and he always falls asleep watrching this without any fuss. Might be worth trying? We have the Baby Eintstein baby neptune. He loves it!
Don't beat yourself up about it and like those above say, she is your baby, if you don't feel right about letting her cry then try something else.
we never really tried this as when Louise cried we could hear if we left her for just a few minutes then she became really distressed. I cant say she's always been a great sleeper but she is sleeping through the night now.
I think it depends on what sort of a cry it is - Louise has a 'protest cry' she does quite often when she is tired but fighting sleep, she has another cry when she is distressed . I think only you can decide what sort of a cry it is and if you feel right by leaving her.
12 days is very young to be worrying too much about her settling herself to sleep, my hv encouraged it from 3 months - she encouraged lots of cuddles and said that you cant spoil a baby until they're 9 months ish. She also gave me an article that said that babies who's cries are answered quickly early on become babies/toddlers that cry less because they know their needs are going to be met and feel very secure.
She's your baby and you need to do whats best for your family. Also, quite a lot of babies dont like moses baskets!
You won't be forming any bad habits now and if you want to cuddle her then you should. S x
However if you do feel guilty do what feels right for you. Stoke her head for a while she's crying until she settles. Then when she is older do if for less and then over time you can leave the room whilst she's still awake and can settle herself. That's what we did with our lo (now 1) and she goes to sleep by herself.
My 16 week old wouldn't go in her moses basket at night to sleep but would go in her crib next to our bed, I think she could tell the difference.
On the other hand she is your baby and only you know what works for you and your baby. xx
I also had him in my bed for quite a while before when he was ill and it NEVER became a habit and he went back in the cot with zero probs. xxxx
Having battled with colic for 10 wks with Faye and we have had nights upon nights of her crying absolutely inconsolable there is no way I could leave her to cry in her bed, but on the other hand obviously there are times when mummy just has to do things and they have to wait!!
As some of the others have said I wouldn't push for a routine just yet, enjoy these days as they fly past..... you have weeks in front of you to get things right, she is even too young for crying/cuddling/stop crying to become a learnt behaviour
[Modified by: **Tiger Lily** on February 13, 2009 08:57 PM]