Big Decision **UPDATE**
Hi girls, (have also posted in due in july forum)
I really need yer help
Me and hubbie were talking last night and we now kinda wanta know what sex our baby is
So the question is WHAT DO WE DO
i know its up to us in the end but we were saying that it will save us having to buy any more neutral clothes, we will be able to pick a few names and we can buy sheets/blankets/grobags wardrobes in the colour of the baby.
How did ye decide what was best for ye that have decided to find out/not and have already found out. Any advise will be sooooooooooooooooooooooo appreciated. Sorry if this is hard to understand
Thanks in advance.
chaxxx
18/4days
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Well girls,
For starters i just want to say a BIG HUGE THANK YOU to all of ye for telling us ur opinion on this topic. It has help us to make up our minds by giving us both sides of the arguement.
As i'm typing this our little babs is doing summersaults in my stomach.
Just had a talk and we've decided to
FIND OUT WHAT SEX THEY BABY IS ) ) ) (we are telling none of our family what it is)
Now the only problem is, do we ask the consultant on the 4th of march (who i don't think will tell us, but not sure) or our amazing GP on the 16th of march ?
chaxxx
18/6days
[Modified by: cha and bump on 16 February 2009 14:34:45 ]
I really need yer help
Me and hubbie were talking last night and we now kinda wanta know what sex our baby is
So the question is WHAT DO WE DO
i know its up to us in the end but we were saying that it will save us having to buy any more neutral clothes, we will be able to pick a few names and we can buy sheets/blankets/grobags wardrobes in the colour of the baby.
How did ye decide what was best for ye that have decided to find out/not and have already found out. Any advise will be sooooooooooooooooooooooo appreciated. Sorry if this is hard to understand
Thanks in advance.
chaxxx
18/4days
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Well girls,
For starters i just want to say a BIG HUGE THANK YOU to all of ye for telling us ur opinion on this topic. It has help us to make up our minds by giving us both sides of the arguement.
As i'm typing this our little babs is doing summersaults in my stomach.
Just had a talk and we've decided to
FIND OUT WHAT SEX THEY BABY IS ) ) ) (we are telling none of our family what it is)
Now the only problem is, do we ask the consultant on the 4th of march (who i don't think will tell us, but not sure) or our amazing GP on the 16th of march ?
chaxxx
18/6days
[Modified by: cha and bump on 16 February 2009 14:34:45 ]
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just to add that if we do find out that we are not telling any of our family as mine would disapprove of us finding out, and the hubbies don't want to know until its born.
keep coming with ur comments please girls.
thanks again
chaxxx
18/4days
its so special having that massive suprise at the end after all the hard work and being able to look at your baby and find out the sex for yourself rather than some stranger in a tiny room tell you when your laying on a bed with your top up.
I think if you dont know the sex you still have something big to look forward to which will keep you going towards the end when your getting fed up etc, you know around the date its going to be born and if you know the sex too then it doesnt leave anything exciting (obviously the birth will be) but not know the sex makes it even better.
everyon is different though and this is just my opinion.
XxXxX
When she said that I changed my mind lol.
chaxxx
18/4days
Cat 15 weeks
chaxxx
18/4days
Cat 15 weeks
As it is i have bought a few neutral clothes ;\) and have hidden them in my house so that no one can see that i have bought them, as they keep say its too early to be buying anything, which has in return made me feel like something will happen. i've even had a little cry about it to my hubbie.
the reason we are buying little things now like milton/babywipes/nappy sacks etc is that we live in ireland and don't get paid from work for maternity (the state gives us maternity benefit of ???????200 :roll: ) and we won't have much money to be buying everything at the end!!!!
Don't get me wrong my family are brillent and have offered us help with childcare and my sis is even giving me her cot/moses basket etc.
Plus it might be nice to keep something that special between us (i hope)
Still haven't made my mind up yet so as i said GIRLS KEEP POSTING ) ;\)
I think it would be a lovely secret for just the two of you! xxx
Cat
Have u bought anything for ur babs yet?
chaxxx
18/5days
Cat 15 weeks
when she was born, it was just amazing!! i finally got to meet my girl.
chaxxx
18/5days
suzi 33+3
As far as clothing goes, I actually quite like buying things in neutral and probably would have done so anyway. I loathe baby pink with a passion, and won't dress a daughter of mine it it if I can avoid it if small thing turns out to be a girl. That being said, I have bought sweaters in navy blue and brick red and my mother, mother-in-law and I have knitted items in green, yellow and brown, as well as cream with various trims (red, peach, lavender). Again, I will probably stick with non-gender-specific colours even after the birth. But that, of course, is personal preference.
Oh, and we have a name for either eventuality - and we haven't told anyone what they are either!
In the end I think it is very much a personal choice for you and your oh. Good luck, whatever you decide.
Prior to my 20 week scan, hubby and I really didn't know whether to find out or not as curiosity was really getting to us.
We didn't find out am now I am really glad we didn't. We have bought a few neutral clothes but think that people will buy us so much stuff following the birth that we haven't gone mad. We have had a couple of friends offer us boy and girl clothes to so thnk we pretty much have both sexes covered when it comes to clothing.
I think it is half the fun picking a boy name and a girl name and waiting for that special moment whne we find out what sex it is. Just think that if you find out the sex at the birth at least you can be 100% sure that they are correct.
A friend of mine found out the sex beforehand and ended up having a C section so she knew what sex, her name and when she was arriving. She told us that it took all the surprise out of it and wishes she hadn't found out. That helped to convince us.
I also saw a programme where a midwife was saying that sometimes if you know the sex, maybe you can bond too much and all the worries are magnified as your bump already has a name and personality in your head. I thought that was quite an interesting theory that I hadn't heard before.
Also, I always felt that it would be like opening my xmas presents early if I found out!!
It is a very personal decision though that only you can make, so I hope you are happy with whatever you decide. At the end of the day, it won't be a disappointment so try not to worry about it too much!!
xx
My mum and DH have definately bonded with the baby a lot more since we found out it was a girl. I think it ie easier for them to imagine her being here, and somehow it makes it all a lot more real. Don't think it made as much difference to me, as it's easier for me to get to know her personsonality anyway.
If you still don't know what to do, flip a coin - and you'll know before you look at which side it landed on, which way you want to go! (that's how I make all my big decisions!)
xXx