Ditch the baby monitor?
My oh wants us to stop using the baby monitor at night now Charlotte is 13 months. He says we don't need it and it gets on his nerves!! I only use it when she goes to bed, then switch it off when we go to bed so it's only on for about 3-4 hours. I never use it when she naps either.
We have a new house and the walls etc are quite thin so whenever she cries in the cot we hear her and she kicks a lot when awake and we can hear that too. I also check on her when she goes to sleep about 2 or 3 times before we go to bed. It's more about reassurance for me really, but oh says now she's not newborn there's no point. Especially as I check on her a lot and we don't have it on during the night - he says what's the difference as we don't have it on then?!
I do admit that the bm has been part of my anxiety problems earlier on before being diagnosed with pnd. Hearing her scream when put to bed, in stereo as we could hear her from downstairs & on the bm made me want to crawl up the walls. No though she settles quite quickly.
Do you still use your bm or are you thinking of not using it soon. Would I be a bad mum for not using it (that's my main fear in case something happened)? ?
I also don't want to end up like one of my friends who used her bm up until her son was 5!!!
We have a new house and the walls etc are quite thin so whenever she cries in the cot we hear her and she kicks a lot when awake and we can hear that too. I also check on her when she goes to sleep about 2 or 3 times before we go to bed. It's more about reassurance for me really, but oh says now she's not newborn there's no point. Especially as I check on her a lot and we don't have it on during the night - he says what's the difference as we don't have it on then?!
I do admit that the bm has been part of my anxiety problems earlier on before being diagnosed with pnd. Hearing her scream when put to bed, in stereo as we could hear her from downstairs & on the bm made me want to crawl up the walls. No though she settles quite quickly.
Do you still use your bm or are you thinking of not using it soon. Would I be a bad mum for not using it (that's my main fear in case something happened)? ?
I also don't want to end up like one of my friends who used her bm up until her son was 5!!!
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i imagine il use it until he comes out of his cot and into his big bed. it doesnt bother me at night and oh cant even hear it so il keep it for peice of mind)
why not try one or 2 nights without it and see how you go on? x
i would give it a little try and see how you feel. xx
Then again ive never really been paranoid about anything happening at sleep times, so didnt need it for any sort of reassurance.
Im sure you'll get on fine without one X
I never had one at all with dd as we were in a small flat and it never seemed necessary. I'm not too worried, actually cant wait to stop using it, lol!
It definitely doesnt make you a bad mum for turning it off.
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Everyone is different and you should do what you feel comfortable with.
I would consider one if I lived in a town house and baby was more then one floor above or below me or we slept on different floors. I hate having doors closed so I never had that problem.
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I could turn it down i suppose :roll:
My oh has never wanted to use a baby monitor he thinks it discourages people from actually checking in on the baby, if that makes sense xx