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What do you think works better - bigger or smaller age gaps?
Hi ladies,
I was just looking for a general opinion on how you find the age gaps between your children or what you plan them to be if you only have the one at the moment.
Basically, we have a 3 year gap between our eldest daughter and our youngest who will be 1 next week. We definately would like to try for a third and i always assumed that we would leave another 3 year gap between our youngest and the next one. However, i don't remember feeling so broody so quickly after my first as i do this time and I wonder if we should try sooner.
I'm only 25 so age is not an issue, nor is money or space it's just purely down to what age gap would work best. Even if we did try TTC again sooner it wouldn't be until the end of the summer as i'd want to prepare my body for another pregnancy which would make our youngest over 2 by then anyway, it's just a year sooner than we originally planned.
What do you ladies think? Those with 3 or more what are your age gaps and would you recommend them? Also does this broodiness ever stop because at this rate i can see myself with 15 kids by the time i'm 40!
Claire x
I was just looking for a general opinion on how you find the age gaps between your children or what you plan them to be if you only have the one at the moment.
Basically, we have a 3 year gap between our eldest daughter and our youngest who will be 1 next week. We definately would like to try for a third and i always assumed that we would leave another 3 year gap between our youngest and the next one. However, i don't remember feeling so broody so quickly after my first as i do this time and I wonder if we should try sooner.
I'm only 25 so age is not an issue, nor is money or space it's just purely down to what age gap would work best. Even if we did try TTC again sooner it wouldn't be until the end of the summer as i'd want to prepare my body for another pregnancy which would make our youngest over 2 by then anyway, it's just a year sooner than we originally planned.
What do you ladies think? Those with 3 or more what are your age gaps and would you recommend them? Also does this broodiness ever stop because at this rate i can see myself with 15 kids by the time i'm 40!
Claire x
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But then again this one wasnt planned and I was really shocked to find out I was expecting again so soon and I'm really scared about managing an 11 month age gap but I know alot of people who have done it and said it wasnt nearly as hard as they expected it to be.
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Incidently my mum has a 12 year gap between me and my brother, and he loves having an older sis, and I love having a little bro. Mum doesnt really like that much of a gap,
Everyone who I know who does have their LO's close together do not regret it.
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DEFFO NOT!
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The jury is still out here, not sure which is the better of the 2 evils
It's definately each to their own on this though as everyone is different.x
Thank you very much for all your replies. Much appreciated.
I suppose we're very fortunate in that although I have to work (mortgage etc) we can get by with me only doing 2 days & DH's work are very good in that they let him do his full time hours in 4 days which means he's at home with the girls the days that i work and we still get a family day at the weekend as well. Therefore childcare is not an issue for us.
I'm still not sure what we're going to do. The 3 year gap was good in that Abigail goes to pre-school 4 mornings a week so i get some one on one time with Olivia but at the same time, Abigail took it harder than i thought when Olivia came along. She was very excited during my pregnancy but in the hospital she had an accident in her pants (which she'd never done before) and it broke my heart. If i left a smaller gap this time perhaps Olivia would be too young to understand but at the same time I always wanted some one on one time with Olivia whilst Abigail was at school.
Oh i'm sorry i'm rambling now. I'll sit down with DH and see what he thinks.
Thanks again ladies.
Good luck with those TTC! xxx
I cant see me having another 12 yr gap (I'd be 42 with next one which feels a bit too old lol) but am unlikely to have another within the next few years as we just cant afford to (not sure i want anymore either). I think 6 years is the biggest gap I'm likely to have but I dont think it matters hugely anyway as different things work for different people.
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Let us know what hubby thinks is best. Will be interesting to hear a man's view on things.
I've got everything planned in my little mind and sometimes forget that hubby has a say too! Lol!
As you know Ruby turns one next week and in a perfect world i'd love to fall pregnant over Christmas, then Ruby would be 2 and a half by time baby number two arrives. I really don't want anymore of a gap than that, and don't really want any less of a gap either. So that is the perfect gap for me. Ruby will be out of nappies and old enough to be interested but hopefully not old enough to be jealous???
I think 2 and a half year gap will be best for me too, which is just as important as for the kiddies. I feel that my body would have recovered completely but I wont be so out of touch with the whole baby thing.
It will be nice for them to grow up doing things together. I have friends with a 4/5 year gap and they are forever doing seperate things to entertain their children, where as with 2 years they should both appreciate the same things, within reason, as they grow up.
Will speak to hubby about it when he's back in May. His thinking is that we've got all the time in the world so why rush! Lol! That's his view on everything. It's hardly rushing though and I would like to go back to my career at some point but that gets put on the back burner when you're married to a soldier and have babies! xx