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Love OH more than LO?
A few weeks ago, I noticed that hubby hardly ever told our LO Robert that he loved him. I asked my hubby if he loved him and he replied 'I must do'
To cut a long story short, we had a long conversation about this and hubby said he loved me more than Robert. I wasn't suprised by this really, and when I was pregnant I thought that I wouldn't be able to love another person more than my hubby but the love I feel for Robert is overwhelming and hubby understands this. (Ps. Hubby is fantastic with our LO, in case he reads like an ogre!)
Then I remembered reading an article about Kirsty Allsopp (From the tv programme Location, location, location) and she said her husband came before their two children because a marriage is forever and her husband will still be there with her when her children leave home.
So I just wondered if anyone like Kirsty, put their OH's before their LO's?
Or if anyone elses OH's love them more then their LO's?
To cut a long story short, we had a long conversation about this and hubby said he loved me more than Robert. I wasn't suprised by this really, and when I was pregnant I thought that I wouldn't be able to love another person more than my hubby but the love I feel for Robert is overwhelming and hubby understands this. (Ps. Hubby is fantastic with our LO, in case he reads like an ogre!)
Then I remembered reading an article about Kirsty Allsopp (From the tv programme Location, location, location) and she said her husband came before their two children because a marriage is forever and her husband will still be there with her when her children leave home.
So I just wondered if anyone like Kirsty, put their OH's before their LO's?
Or if anyone elses OH's love them more then their LO's?
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sarah
It's quite a personal one though and no one should be judged!
I have asked oh who would he save 1st if house on fire and lo & I inside......he said it would be the 1st person he could get to. When he asked me I couldn't choose!
I think i love them the same amount but just differently if that makes sense.
when i was pregnant i always worried about oh having to make the me or baby choice. I made him promise he would choose our little boy- but he said he would want to choose me! Well i just asked him again, now Isaac is here- he said he would choose him.
Must have been awful to be in that situation though QB
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In that sense I guess I do choose lo over OH. And in a way I totally see Kirsty Allsops point. Especially as I have a wee boy and we all know that when he grows up the relationship I have with him will not be the same as that of a mother and daughter. So in a way I see the logic in Kirsty's view and maybe I should be investing in the long term with my hubby and not the short term needs of lo. Nah, hubby can fend for himself for a few years !! S x
Well just asked oh and he said without a pause 'you of course' which has shocked me to be very honest. Not worried as I know he worships lo and they are such a little team together they make me so happy when they play together (getting all gushy sorry!)
He then asked me and really I don't know. Bless him he said in a jokey way 'don't tell me, I know the truth!!'
I agree its a different kind of love I have for oh and Alf. Without oh I wouldn't have Alf in my life but Alf makes me so very, very happy. Different and special and makes me realise with all the other crap going on (with work etc) how lucky I am!
If i had to choose one in a emergency i would pick cam because he is my child, its my job to keep him safe and he relies on me to do that! Plus the thought of him being in danger is horrible!
i know in labour, stef would of saved me without a doubt but now i would expect him save the little man!
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vikki xx
I can see KA's point of view - OH will be there once the kids have grown up and flown the nest so maybe it would be wiser to choose OH over LO (and then maybe so many MILs wouldnt be unhealthily attached to their sons!) for the long term, but for the immediate future - at least until they are old enough to understand things - then its my LOs.
Difficult one!
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