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would you let her babysit?
Basically Hubby's mum (my mil) left his dad for another man last summer. She now lives with this man, who we've both met a few times. He seems ok, more interested in his two younger children aged 13 and 15, and the football than anything else really,
His mum has asked if she can have our LO for the afternoon tomorrow, she's had him twice before. Once when I was really ill following complications after the birth when he was 6wks old, and she mentioned that his children had been there and had fed him. (which i wasn't happy about, as i've never met them and I don't feel comfortable with them feeding my son) and the second time she was alone with our LO.
Well tomorrow I think the whole clan would be there, I don't really feel comfortable with her new partner and his kids playing happy families with my baby (he's 18wks old). I can't explain why, but my mil's partner and his kids have nothing to do with me, so should our LO be involved with them?
But the thing is, I could really do with a break, my mums on holiday and my hubby works long hours, and I'm pretty stressed out, as Lo has been teething all week and has been a little terror.
So would you let mil babysit if you didn't feel comfortable with her new family, but you knew LO would be totally looked after, or would you just wait until your mum could take LO so you could have a break?
His mum has asked if she can have our LO for the afternoon tomorrow, she's had him twice before. Once when I was really ill following complications after the birth when he was 6wks old, and she mentioned that his children had been there and had fed him. (which i wasn't happy about, as i've never met them and I don't feel comfortable with them feeding my son) and the second time she was alone with our LO.
Well tomorrow I think the whole clan would be there, I don't really feel comfortable with her new partner and his kids playing happy families with my baby (he's 18wks old). I can't explain why, but my mil's partner and his kids have nothing to do with me, so should our LO be involved with them?
But the thing is, I could really do with a break, my mums on holiday and my hubby works long hours, and I'm pretty stressed out, as Lo has been teething all week and has been a little terror.
So would you let mil babysit if you didn't feel comfortable with her new family, but you knew LO would be totally looked after, or would you just wait until your mum could take LO so you could have a break?
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It depends on how strongly you feel about her new partner and family, and if you think you could cope with waiting a bit longer for some 'you' time.....
what about FIL? Could he have lo for a bit?
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It might be worth meeting them tho coz i guess they will be part of your mil from now on so everytime your mil has him then there is a chance that they will be there too.
But then im very frazzled at the mo so babysitting sounds good lol
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Several times I've said your welcome to take him for an afternoon to see, but he never takes me up on that.
with mil, we hardly see her now, maybe once a month, whereas before we'd see her and the fil weekly.
I just don't see why we and the LO should have to have a whole new family just because she's decided that she wants someone else.
I think i'll suggest her coming over and sitting with LO if she wants to see him while I have a bath or pop out for abit. Then I've given her the opportunity to see her grandson.
Do you think an 18wk old would be aware that his mummy wasn't looking after him? (How sad does that sound)
Think EmmaLou puts this really well.
I'd say if you have doubts then wait till you know the new family a bit more.
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