Just Need A Moan...Sorry
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i feel like everything is perfect with me, OH and JJ but everything else seems to be going wrong and getting on my nerves!
at 9pm last night OH was just about to put JJ to bed and i'd just got out the shower and put my pj's on...MIL phoned to say she was on her way round!!! this happens all the time with his family and i've just had enough...his dad phoned late the other night and said "are u going to open the door then" he was at the front door!! arghhhhh i just can't take it anymore, OH works long hours 5 days a week, i don't even see him at weekends so when he has his 2 days off i just wanna spend time with him and JJ but we always end up with his family round at lunch time and they don't go home til after JJ has gone to bed, all they do is make him cry when they're here!!
i'm due to go back to work in 6 weeks and i REALLY don't want to, it's 100% the best thing to do cuz i've been offered a promotion and after training i'll be earning ??30k a year so i know i have to think of the future but i just don't wanna leave JJ...i cried yesterday cuz we have this perfect little morning routine that i love cuz he's so smiley and happy eating his porridge and i know we won't have that when i go back to work cuz he'll fit in with what OH thinks is best, it's gunna kill me leaving home every morning
we're not getting married for a while after all the problems we had with families etc and i'm sorry for everyone that's excited planning their weddings but i just can't be happy for you because i'm so jealous i don't want anything big or special, all i want is OHs surname so i can feel part of this family, it just seems like too much to ask (im crying as i write this)! doesn't help that OHs mum is currently sorting her wedding out, it's in a few weeks and she seems adamant that JJ will be there all day...she's expecting him to be dragged around on a bus, have rushed feeds and random sleeps and still be in a great mood for the evening, i was told by her that i shouldnt let him rule my day and that he has to fit in with what we do...that may be true but most of the guests will be there in the evening and if she wants to play pass the parcel with a baby that hasnt been fed properly or had proper sleeps in his usual surroundings all day then shes going to get a shock!! u wouldnt think she's had twins!!
on the plus side, JJ seems to have had a major development boost this week...he's sitting up more, rolling back to front and then back again round the floor in seconds, i can hardly keep up with him, have stopped bothering to put a blanket or play mat on the floor cuz a few seconds after i've put him down he's rolled to the other side of the room lol...he's eating lumpy food (7 months+ jars) and toast...yesterday started saying baba and dada and this time i know it's not a coincidence cuz when i say it he says it back...really proud of him )
at 9pm last night OH was just about to put JJ to bed and i'd just got out the shower and put my pj's on...MIL phoned to say she was on her way round!!! this happens all the time with his family and i've just had enough...his dad phoned late the other night and said "are u going to open the door then" he was at the front door!! arghhhhh i just can't take it anymore, OH works long hours 5 days a week, i don't even see him at weekends so when he has his 2 days off i just wanna spend time with him and JJ but we always end up with his family round at lunch time and they don't go home til after JJ has gone to bed, all they do is make him cry when they're here!!
i'm due to go back to work in 6 weeks and i REALLY don't want to, it's 100% the best thing to do cuz i've been offered a promotion and after training i'll be earning ??30k a year so i know i have to think of the future but i just don't wanna leave JJ...i cried yesterday cuz we have this perfect little morning routine that i love cuz he's so smiley and happy eating his porridge and i know we won't have that when i go back to work cuz he'll fit in with what OH thinks is best, it's gunna kill me leaving home every morning
we're not getting married for a while after all the problems we had with families etc and i'm sorry for everyone that's excited planning their weddings but i just can't be happy for you because i'm so jealous i don't want anything big or special, all i want is OHs surname so i can feel part of this family, it just seems like too much to ask (im crying as i write this)! doesn't help that OHs mum is currently sorting her wedding out, it's in a few weeks and she seems adamant that JJ will be there all day...she's expecting him to be dragged around on a bus, have rushed feeds and random sleeps and still be in a great mood for the evening, i was told by her that i shouldnt let him rule my day and that he has to fit in with what we do...that may be true but most of the guests will be there in the evening and if she wants to play pass the parcel with a baby that hasnt been fed properly or had proper sleeps in his usual surroundings all day then shes going to get a shock!! u wouldnt think she's had twins!!
on the plus side, JJ seems to have had a major development boost this week...he's sitting up more, rolling back to front and then back again round the floor in seconds, i can hardly keep up with him, have stopped bothering to put a blanket or play mat on the floor cuz a few seconds after i've put him down he's rolled to the other side of the room lol...he's eating lumpy food (7 months+ jars) and toast...yesterday started saying baba and dada and this time i know it's not a coincidence cuz when i say it he says it back...really proud of him )
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JJ sounds like he is coming on leaps and bounds! Molly is rolling all over the place but can't sit unaided yet (she can with her chin on the ground )
I think it costs about ??90 to get married in a registry office, you should just grab a couple of your mates, get married, have a little celebration and then have a big blessing in the future!? Then at least you would have you oh's name...?
I hope it all works out for you guys soon, x
i've noticed a huge difference in JJ this week, it's incredible, he seems to know that he's able to do more too cuz he's soooo much happier which i didn't think was even possible cuz he was happy anyway lol!
i've considered doing the registry office thing but i'd feel really upset not having my mum there, she's like my best friend but at the same time i couldn't just have her there, it's so complicated grrrr families hey!!
We have decided to go to Las Vegas for our 10 year anniversary and get married dressed as zombies, or star wars characters or the like. it will be such a laugh!
Keep your chin up hun, you are a fab mummy! x
As for the wedding thing why not tell everyone you are getting married in registry office then going pub afterwards for a few drinks. Just close family and friends. If they wanna come good, if not its their loss. You need to put your foot down. You are a grown up now with a family of your own and you need to make everyone see that.
Hope you feel better soon and glad JJ is coming along really well.
Think you need to set some ground rules with the family. That's not fair to just come round like that at that time.
love it!! hehe x
We planned a wedding for about 50 close friends and family only, then fell pregnant so told everyone it was cancelled. On the day it was supposed to be, we invited 20 people for a meal as we were leaving the area, but secretly they walked in to find us getting married! Everyone was so pleased that we were doing it that no one was annoyed at being left out, even those we couldn't invite, and I had the most perfect day just chilling with my favourite people who I could speak to without moving from my seat (was 33 weeks preg so wasn't moving anywhere lol)
And also think Kirsty's idea about telling both families is a great way to keep the peace while getting your point across!
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sam jess an max xxxx