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Funerals
I'm fuming
Sadly last week my hubbies uncle died and the funeral is today.
We went to the in laws last night to finalise details who's going in whos car etc only to be told its inappropriate for children to be at the funeral and that they where surprised I would be going as it's family only. I thought I was considered part of the family now as I'm married to thier son and have had thier grand child
Archie is 6 months old and still bfing what else where we meant to do with him FFS :evil:
Then my mother in law said well children are welcome to the wake to which hubbie said so what is lucie meant stay in the car till then (it's miles away and I don't drive)
I'm just really shocked and hurt and I can't be there for my hubby when he is upset.
I really thought I was one of the few that got on thier mother in law but now I may have to re think that.
I'm I being silly? would you have taken your child?
Sadly last week my hubbies uncle died and the funeral is today.
We went to the in laws last night to finalise details who's going in whos car etc only to be told its inappropriate for children to be at the funeral and that they where surprised I would be going as it's family only. I thought I was considered part of the family now as I'm married to thier son and have had thier grand child
Archie is 6 months old and still bfing what else where we meant to do with him FFS :evil:
Then my mother in law said well children are welcome to the wake to which hubbie said so what is lucie meant stay in the car till then (it's miles away and I don't drive)
I'm just really shocked and hurt and I can't be there for my hubby when he is upset.
I really thought I was one of the few that got on thier mother in law but now I may have to re think that.
I'm I being silly? would you have taken your child?
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I normally get on with them so well thats why I'm just so shocked by the response.
If I were you I would give oh's family a bit of space for a week or two and then talk to your mil (or ask oh to talk with her) and explain how upset you felt and how you are now wondering how you stand in the family. They probably don't mean to upset you, it may just be thoughtlessness and being wrapped up in their own feelings.
speak to ur oh, im sure he'll smooth things over
I lost my grandad recently and was told I couldn't take my lo, I had to leave her with someone I knew 1 hour from the service or leave her with someone she'd never met before. I left her with a friend in the end. It probably was the right thing to do although I did miss her lots.
Atleast your oh knows that you wanted to be there for him and you can give him lots of support when he comes home.
I probably wouldn't take my lo either (also Archie and 6months, lol) I just know that I get really emotional at funerals and wouldn't want him to see me like that. I wouldn't be able to give him the attention he needs. S x
It was definately the right thing to do for us as I needed to be there for my hubby and not worrying about what my toddler was doing! I would have been totally gutted though if my mil had said I wasn't part of the family!! That is so out of order! Plus I would have expected hubby to speak up for me if she had said that! xxx