hospital visitors.... c-section
hi...
im having a c-section.. i had 1 with my first 2... soooo.... last time i had the entire family sat round my bed within hours of the emergency op- i was high on drugs, had a catheter bag hanging off the bed n jst felt awful.... so this time iv decided i don wnt any visitors for a few days, except oh, daughter and my mom (she will b there as my mom, not grandma)... so i txt my oh step mom yesterday just saying- im prewarning every1 that i wont b having visitors for a few days until im on my feet and had shower n started breast feeding, n nt feelin like a zombie..... so now, im in thr bad books.... his step mom is v 2 faced n i imagine she has worded it totally diff to my oh dad, as he txt oh 2 asky wr nt having visitors n was quite arsy... so i sent them duplicate txts, explaining, and had no reply!...
even if thy r a bit gutted tht thy have 2 wait a couple of days, thy cd atleast prtend thy r ok with tht, for my sake... im the 1 having a huge op!... they never ask how i am. how baby is, or even mention tht fact that im pregnant- thy never come over!...
if i was told this, i wdnt mind at all!!!!... id appreciate tht the mom needs time herself to recover!!!
im so mad rite now!!
im having a c-section.. i had 1 with my first 2... soooo.... last time i had the entire family sat round my bed within hours of the emergency op- i was high on drugs, had a catheter bag hanging off the bed n jst felt awful.... so this time iv decided i don wnt any visitors for a few days, except oh, daughter and my mom (she will b there as my mom, not grandma)... so i txt my oh step mom yesterday just saying- im prewarning every1 that i wont b having visitors for a few days until im on my feet and had shower n started breast feeding, n nt feelin like a zombie..... so now, im in thr bad books.... his step mom is v 2 faced n i imagine she has worded it totally diff to my oh dad, as he txt oh 2 asky wr nt having visitors n was quite arsy... so i sent them duplicate txts, explaining, and had no reply!...
even if thy r a bit gutted tht thy have 2 wait a couple of days, thy cd atleast prtend thy r ok with tht, for my sake... im the 1 having a huge op!... they never ask how i am. how baby is, or even mention tht fact that im pregnant- thy never come over!...
if i was told this, i wdnt mind at all!!!!... id appreciate tht the mom needs time herself to recover!!!
im so mad rite now!!
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see how you feel afterwards (although by the sounds of it the oh side dont deserve to be there!)
Rach
36+3
Could you perhaps say your hospital are enforcing the "rules" this time? Unless its too late depending on what your texts said?
I feel for you very much hun and hope you sort it out for yourself and nobody else. xxxxxxxxxxxx
Visitors are a bloomin nightmare!
I want at least 3-4 days at home with only visits from my parents, my sister & brother and hubby's Dad. If Angus arrives on a Friday you can bet your bottom dollar every man and his dog from hubby's family will turn up as its the weekend!!! gggrrrrrr!
31 weeks
I asked for immediate family only to visit but Bens family ignored this and turned up en mass, the midwife chased loads of them off! Then when I came home on the Friday I was inundated on the Saturday all day with visitors. I have told people this time that they will have to wait till I am ready and they are invited. I didnt sleep when I was hospital, I had just had an operation and I was breast feeding so had to go upstairs every 45 minutes (greedy baby that I had) as I didnt fancy getting them out in front of every one. Its tough this time, they will have to do as they are told and if they ignore me I will just not answer the door!
Its not fair when you have just gone through all that to have loads of visitors as well, you need to rest, and if they dont understand that then thats their problem not yours. Hope it all works out for you xxx
31 +4
now oh sis is being arsy with me! jeeeez i js dnt get it!.... how selfish of them
i ended up in tears- i was sick off the morphine and had drips and bags everywhere!
this time i'm saying no to anyone apart from grandparents hubby and my sis. don't care if it upsets anyone they can visit when i'm home!
When my son was born I had an emergency c-section under general anaesthetic. Prior to his birth we had discussed names, and if it was a girl it would be Jennifer, and if it was a boy he would be Daniel. Anyway, after coming round from the anaesthetic, I remember waking up to seeing my oh's family passing a baby round and saying to me "meet Jack" - I was so confused - and couldn't believe my oh had let his mum, brother and sister in to the labour room while I was still out of it. I passed out and woke up about an hour later - and realised that Jack was my baby - it hadn't occurred to me earlier cos I was so out of it from the surgery - but they'd written his name on all hospital documents, and I was too weak and pathetic to complain - but I was sooooo f*cked off with them all.
I was in the hospital for a week after the op and just wanted to be left alone - every time it was visiting time his bl**dy mother kept turning up with complete strangers - "this is Karen from the petrol station" - and even a woman she met at the bus stop - okay, so I understand she wanted to show her grandson off, but I didn't want my baby being passed around by strangers. So I told the midwife that the only people I want at visiting time was my oh and my mum, and all hell broke loose when his mum turned up.
I'm not with this bloke anymore - but this time round i have made sure with my husband that for the first couple of days it will be just us and Jack - and only when I;m ready can he start inviting hsi family (who he's not that close to anyway) and friends around. it has caused a bit of trouble, but I've explained what happened last time and that we just want time to ourselves for the first few days.
you just have to stick to your guns hunny - they'll get over it and when you're ready and you do invite them to meet baby - they'll forget everything as soon as they see how gorgous your new little bundle is!
Txxx 31 weeks
Good luck xx
(I have nightmare inlaws - so know the feeling)
Kittyboo 18+4
considering wot u r gona go through if they dnt like your decision them stuff thm. Its not them going throught it its u and they shud be more understanding y cant they w8 till u get home ffs give u chance to breath i h8 it wen u have a baby every1ns like flies round shit, and its bolocks to the mum whos gone through it , sorry hunbut it gets me so mad tc hun stick to ypur guns xxx