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Feeling a bit down
This sounds horrible, but I'm not enjoying being a mummy right now. Charlotte is being very difficult. I know she's teething but that doesn't explain all her behaviour.
She seems to not like me very much. I try and play with her and she throws her toys around. If she gets angry she slaps me. She's always whinging. I don't know what else to do. OH comes back from work and her face lights up and she's all happy again which makes me feel worse. I tell him what she's been like all day and I'm sure he thinks I'm telling porkies! Does she prefer Daddy to me?!
She will cruise but not walk. If I try and hold her up by her arms so she can try to walk she'll just plop down on her bum which is worrying me. I thought she would want to try & walk more now she cruises - but no.
She's also started to have tantrums during feeding her. One minute she's fine then she's off on one.
I know you're reading this probably thinking this happens every day to others etc etc, but all I want is a happy lo that will enjoy playing with me and not hit me! She's only 14 months, God help me when the terrible 2's arrive.....:\(
She seems to not like me very much. I try and play with her and she throws her toys around. If she gets angry she slaps me. She's always whinging. I don't know what else to do. OH comes back from work and her face lights up and she's all happy again which makes me feel worse. I tell him what she's been like all day and I'm sure he thinks I'm telling porkies! Does she prefer Daddy to me?!
She will cruise but not walk. If I try and hold her up by her arms so she can try to walk she'll just plop down on her bum which is worrying me. I thought she would want to try & walk more now she cruises - but no.
She's also started to have tantrums during feeding her. One minute she's fine then she's off on one.
I know you're reading this probably thinking this happens every day to others etc etc, but all I want is a happy lo that will enjoy playing with me and not hit me! She's only 14 months, God help me when the terrible 2's arrive.....:\(
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cant really help.. but just wanted you too now my lo going through days like this, roll on 18 LOL
How old is she now? Shea went through this when he was about 10/11 months and I think it was more through frustration of wanting to do more but they can't.
he is now 18months and we have the full blown tantrums and some wonderful whinging sessions that really get me down sometimes.
I work 4 days a week and he never has these at nursery, just with me and his dad, but more so me. I know he loves me as I get the best snugs but I think they just "take it out" on the person closest who tends to be their mother.
I ahve learnt to ignore these outburts (v hard tho) as even if I shout or tell him off he's getting what he wants - attention - albeit negative attention, he's still got his own way.
So now we ignore him he soon shakes himself out of it. I just walk out of the room and let him get on with it!
Good luck honey but I know its hard, I have times where I think I'm better off at work LOL!!! only kidding!
xxx
The other thing is she's not very cuddly. Never has been really. I try & hold her and read a story but within 2 minutes she's struggling to bugger off! Yet my sister's 21 month old will sit on my knee and cuddle up really close. I miss that with Charlotte.
QB - Our 2 lo's do sound similar. Hope they are easier when hormonal teenagers??!
im struggling at the minute too. she just seems whingey all the time and i cant get anything done.
she is also a kid that lashes out she hits me loads. she is only 10 months but so determined. i said to my mum the other day that she is really violent and she just had hysterics saying how can she be, she is only a baby. i dont think people understand what they can be like as they just see a little angel
as soon as Graces daddy walks in she lights up and puts her arms straight out to him, saying dadada. i am yey to still heat mamama.
i hate myself for it but have over the past few days been counting the hours till she goes to bed.
people have said it will be a nightmare when she can walk but i cant wait cos by back is bloody killing me from walking her round for 8 hours a day!
xx
I'm sorry you don't get snugs either, I don't really have that with Shea as he's always been very loving and cuddly and he comes up to you now and give me a big snog!! But I can imagine how hurtful that can feel! Hopefully as she gets older she'll turn more affectionate
xx
The head butting and kicking is hurting-have had bruise's in the past but he seems to get my cheekbones the most while sat on my knee. Have to wear a bra when first thing when I change him as he was using me as a kick bag!!!
He isn't an especially cuddly boy either he'd much rather be off climbing something which is fair enough. I always know if he is unwell or tired if he snuggles in.
As for oh well he is the best thing since sliced bread who gets lo to scream with laughter I'm just the one who cleans bums, washes clothes, takes lo out and about. Do feel lo favours oh but I know oh feels the opposite!
Like Lara say's I'm sure its a phase they grow out of-right? I bloomin' hope so as boy it does get tough somethimes!
Sorry, you're having a tough time hun but I hope it helps a bit to see you are soooooo not alone! x
sorry, i just got worried that it crossed ur mind that i'm horrible to JJ (
Secondly I think we all go through stages when he kids are doing naughty things to think things. I also call my George little fatty or meat head like his dad or his new one is cheeky git but I have learnt not to say them around the girls as I would never dream of them saying it to him or others. I think when you do have chubby babies its hard not to call them chubby or fatso in a cute way not a horrible way. Bitch I dont agree with anyway and even though my girls behave like them already I have changed it to witches as I think this is a bit more agreeable and understandable for a 2 and 4 year old as they know a witch isnt very nice so when they are not being very nice and I call them it they know its wrong.
I think when they are babies its acceptable to call them fatso or chunky but not when they get old enough to understand as it will give them a complex about weight at an early age I was a proper chubby toddler and have gone through life being reminded of it and always worried and felt bad about being called that.
Sorry if anyone doesnt agree but like everything in life everyone has different ways of thinking, doing things etc etc x
Zoey there's nothing wrong with what you said....oh calls Gabe 'little b*****d' if he hits him or pinches him (Gabe doing it to OH not the other way round!) and it gets on my nerves but i'd be lying if I didn't think it myself sometimes...
Mrs j bourne - we call Gabe 'block head' sometimes
To make you all laugh - we have bought her a pink cowboy hat as she loves wearing things on her head. It came this morning and I've been calling her Calamity Charlotte. it fits her brill as it's a kiddies one.
Lots of people, inc my hv & sister have all said for a long time that Charlotte is very strong-willed. I'm not a laid back person and can be quick tempered so maybe she gets it off me?!
Think lo is becoming stong willed too and I know he'll get it from me as I'm a 'postivie' person as me old Nan used to say when she was being polite!! My lo is only 8 months old so looking forward to the terrible twos and the teenage years etc.....!
Bless her in the cowboy hat! xxx
She lay her head on my tummy yesterday which I thought was sweet then I realised she was biting me!!!!!!! Obviously I dealt with that and told her NO! But this age must be pretty frustrating for them and I bet our lo's, love them as we do are as confused as we are.
Sorry - I don't think my post has helped at all but I don't think anyone with a child doesn't understand where you are coming from.
Cowboy hat sounds great by the way.
x
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