Sterilisation, your views?
Hi
As many of you know im pg with no4 and i want to be sterilised (have to have section due too two failed labours so 2 previous sections so figure may as well tie tubes at same time)
My dh agrees but my dad keeps saying how stupid i would be to be sterilised as im only 26 and you never know what is around the corner and how would i feel if dh and i split up.
I feel that 3 sections is more than enough for one body and i feel that 4 is pefect for me, just wondered your views
xxDBxx
As many of you know im pg with no4 and i want to be sterilised (have to have section due too two failed labours so 2 previous sections so figure may as well tie tubes at same time)
My dh agrees but my dad keeps saying how stupid i would be to be sterilised as im only 26 and you never know what is around the corner and how would i feel if dh and i split up.
I feel that 3 sections is more than enough for one body and i feel that 4 is pefect for me, just wondered your views
xxDBxx
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I understand your reasons for wanting to be steralised, however is there no other way i.e pill, injection, etc just until your 100% sure.
Thats what I'm gonna do, whether he likes it or not! I'm too scared to get sterilsed in case I change my mind, sterilisation seems so final. I had one son 7 years ago and swore blind I would never have another! and here I am remarried and 3 months preggers!! lol.
The pill is no good for me, the mini pill (athough I was on it for YEARS!) made my migraines a lot worse, the coil makes me squeamish, Depo didn't agree with me and took 5 years for periods back to normal and conceive, implants dont appeal to me and as for condoms........... ewww yuk!
So its either Sterilisation or the snip or this new injection for men!
and I'm ALL FOR THAT lol its his turn to be jabbed every month full of weird chemical hormones! but if he starts getting PMT, spots and nicking my chocolate he'll be going in the wheelie bin lol!
You have had four children and serious body trauma with the C secs, so I totally see your point. I can see what your Dad is saying, but even if (god forbid it doesn't) you did split up, would you WANT anymore children? would your new partner want another one as you already have four?
Go with your gut instinct, its your body and you know your own mind
Emma xx
you know me - i'd say go for it!!!
i'm a little of the opinion that if something isnt recommended (ie more than 3 c/s), if the only way to make sure you dont have any more is by sterilising..... then go ahead!! as you say, your tummy is open, they check your tubes anyway, so what is the extra bit of a snip?!!
people asked me if my last had have been a boy, would i have tried again for a girl (already had 2 boys). although i would have really liked a girl (did get one too), i love my existing children too much to ever consider putting myself at risk, so it was an absolute NO! - my tubes were being snipped regardless!!
as you already have children, more than likely you would have to pay privately to have it reversed - unless you got a very very nice dr on the NHS.
it also means having a laparotomy (where they cut open your tummy the same way they do a c/s) to reverse it in the majority of cases - major surgery!!
i do personally think that unless having a c/s, that it should be blokes that have it done - after all, there bits are just hanging around, waiting for that little nick that will sort the tubes - probably under local anaesthetic instead of a GA (women have to have GA). it is a lot more involved for a woman!
Just make sure that you are 100% sure before you do anything. OH and me are still young (both in our 20's) and we discussed this but never wanted it to be so 'final'
I hope you make the right desicion for you hon.
So prob in the end it will be oh or me that gets the snip!! I'm hoping oh will step up to the mark tho!! x
You know I don't have any experience at all but I still want to offer my opinion! Honestly, I'd say don't do it and I agree with your dad, you never know what the future may bring. I don't want to spell it out for you with some horrible scenarios but think of your worst nightmare, how would you feel then?
You obviously love having children and you are still so young. Can you say without any doubt whatsoever that when you are 37 (like me) that you won't feel the urge to have another try?
There are good alternatives, injections, implants, etc. that can last years, have you considered all of the options?
Ultimately it is your decision and one that only you will have to live with. Therefore it really doesn't matter what we or anyone else says. I hope I haven't totally put you off me and have added weight to the debate.
Wishing you lots of luck in making the right decision for you xx
But do know a girl in the village who was sterilised aged 26 after having her 4th (although her situation is different because she is on her own) she told me she didn't regret not being able to have anymore but thought being sterilised made her already heavy periods much worse. Not sure if being sterilised caused this or if it was just the result of having 4th mind!
I keep trying to persuade dp 2 go for the snip but he won't have it at all but like you say if they've already got you opened up!
Jo 17+2 x
xxxxMKB 25+1
thanks again
xxDBxx
I would agree with lawso and your Dad, you never know whats round the corner so I would wait
Gxx