66yr old mum to be, what do you think ?
I wasn't on over the weekend so maybe this has been discussed already, sorry.
I read in paper about the 66yr old woman who is 8months pregnant. She received eggs from a donor and had IVF to conceive. (I think she went abroad, maybe Austria)
Anyway what do you think ? I respect everyones right to have a child provided they are willing to love it and look after it to the best of their ability. But I must admit I'm not sure about being a mum at 66. I'm knackered a lot of the time and I'm 33, god knows how she'll feel. My mum helps out with childcare 2 afternoons a week, she is 58 and she is exhasuted by the end of it.
When the child is only 14 she will be 80. I'm not sure what life expectancy is exactly but it can't be much more than mid 80's I wouldn't think.
I'm absolutley not against woman having children later in life, I'm 33 no spring chicken. But I'm just not sure about 66.
Anyway, what do you think ? Suz x (healthy debate please)
I read in paper about the 66yr old woman who is 8months pregnant. She received eggs from a donor and had IVF to conceive. (I think she went abroad, maybe Austria)
Anyway what do you think ? I respect everyones right to have a child provided they are willing to love it and look after it to the best of their ability. But I must admit I'm not sure about being a mum at 66. I'm knackered a lot of the time and I'm 33, god knows how she'll feel. My mum helps out with childcare 2 afternoons a week, she is 58 and she is exhasuted by the end of it.
When the child is only 14 she will be 80. I'm not sure what life expectancy is exactly but it can't be much more than mid 80's I wouldn't think.
I'm absolutley not against woman having children later in life, I'm 33 no spring chicken. But I'm just not sure about 66.
Anyway, what do you think ? Suz x (healthy debate please)
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The menopause is natures way of telling us we are too old to have children and there is a reason why you cannot have fertility treatment after the menopause in this country.
Today's medical care and lifestyles mean that a 45 or 50 year old woman (post-menopausal) may be able to bring up a baby without any real problems but any older and there will be a lot of issues.
My mum is 62 and extremely fit. She has recently got a First in a Maths degree and is now completing her Masters. She runs 4x a week, goes to spin classes and pilates and takes my LO swimming. However she would find looking after my LO all the time exhausting. She has a tendency to get pain in her joints if she spends too long sitting on the floor or carries Abby around. She finds it difficult to get up off the floor whilst holding the baby. What I'm saying is that if my mum can't do it I can't imagine any woman of that age doing it.
On top of that as she gets older she will find it harder and harder to cope. I'm a secondary school teacher and I'll warn you all now that your beautiful, little babies are going to turn into disobedient, foul-mouthed teenagers who have major temper tantrums, break things, smell (mainly boys) and refuse point blank to do anything you tell them. I'm dreading coping with it at 45 never mind 80!!
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im gonna stop now cos im getting worked up!
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all of us have children, so maybe we are all in a position to say that we think it is wrong, as we have your family,and are not having to endure being childless. unless you are in that position, you couldnt ever understand what it must be like to want a child so desperately, that you were prepared to go to the lengths this lady has to have a baby. maybe it would only be ladies on here that have had IVF / treatment of whatever kind that could come close to feeling how this lady has that she is willing to do this at her age.
i know how very lucky i am that i have 3 healthy children that came along exactly when i planned for them, without ever having that disappointing period, at an age when it suited me (28, 31 & 34).
i can totally understand why she has done it, but......
i don't think she should have been given treatment !! - i'm not bothered on the cost issue - she paid for it- but i firmly believe that the menopause is for a reason- it is natures way of saying that women should stop having children. i would have concerns on the effect on her health - both physical and mental. i'm hoping that she will have had extensive counselling prior to the treatment, and that it wasnt just someone else requesting IVF!!
i do find some quotes quite laughable too- the current oldest mum was 63 when she had a baby, but thinks 66 is too old "there is a big difference between 63 & 66" ??????????
also the Dr who treated her says he thinks 66 is too old too. erm, so why did you do it then???????!