Am I doing something wrong...................
Hello
This is probably quite trivial compared to some issues but I am feeling really low at the moment and just wanted to vent some of my frustrations.
My baby is 5 months old, and I am starting to get a little bit annoyed with everyone asking if she is sleeping through yet, and as she isnt, they insist on making comments about it! I just spoke to the SIL and she said 'oh she must be a hungry thing if she is not sleeping through by now'. It has just made me feel like I am doing something wrong. I had always assumed that expecting her to sleep through at 5 months is a bit much, however, people I speak to are making me feel like she should be by now. She is only waking once and sleeps from 8pm until 4am, has a feed and then sleeps until 8am again which I always thought had been quite good. What really annoys me is that SIL is pregnant and I think lives in fantasy world of how babies will be and what they will be doing at certain ages. Grrrr.
It's not even like the waking at 4am is bothering me particuarly. Its other people. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
xx
This is probably quite trivial compared to some issues but I am feeling really low at the moment and just wanted to vent some of my frustrations.
My baby is 5 months old, and I am starting to get a little bit annoyed with everyone asking if she is sleeping through yet, and as she isnt, they insist on making comments about it! I just spoke to the SIL and she said 'oh she must be a hungry thing if she is not sleeping through by now'. It has just made me feel like I am doing something wrong. I had always assumed that expecting her to sleep through at 5 months is a bit much, however, people I speak to are making me feel like she should be by now. She is only waking once and sleeps from 8pm until 4am, has a feed and then sleeps until 8am again which I always thought had been quite good. What really annoys me is that SIL is pregnant and I think lives in fantasy world of how babies will be and what they will be doing at certain ages. Grrrr.
It's not even like the waking at 4am is bothering me particuarly. Its other people. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
xx
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If it was bothering YOU to get up at that time then Id of said try getting that last feed a little bit later in the evening by 10 mins each day then eventually the timings would shift around a bit but there is no need to do if you are happy and as QB says just try to ignore them, trust yourself, you know what is best for you and your baby and NO ONE else xx
My LO is 5 months next week. She also goes to bed at 8pm, will wake between 3-4am for a feed and then goes back to sleep until 7-8am.
I also have the odd person say "oh my LO slept through the night without a feed at that age!"
I just tend to ignore it. All babies are different. My LO is perfectly happy and doing a quick 10 min feed at about 4am doesnt really bother me. Im sure they will go through the whole night at some point.xxx
It's other people that seem to have a problem with it. Why does other people think that it is some kind of competition - 'Look at how 'good' my baby is, he/she sleeps ALL night'. They act like they have the next child prodigy on their hands
PS Don't listen to your SIL, my sister is the same and annoys me furiously!! Every baby is different xx
Also ppl have different ideas of sleeping through, if baby just wakes for quick feed and goes back down again id call that nearly sleeping thru anyway
xxDBxx
i have 3 kids..
2 aged 11 months
and 1 aged 3 years....
none of them sleep ALL night!
my bedroom is like paddington station - one out another in!
i think your baby is VERY normal!
My daughter is just over 2 and very rarley will she sleep all night (and its not because shes hungry)
My sil was saying exactly the same thing to me when holly was 5 months, she then went on to tell me everything i was doing wrong and that i was to let holy cry all night and not give her a feed. I left her house that night and burst into tears as i thought i was the worst mum ever with the worst baby ever, (funny how holly doesnt really like going to visit her now)
Anyway, there is nothing wrong with your lo and if only waking once a night, well, i think thats amamzing for 5 months. As i said holly doesnt sleep through all the time, but its only once she gets up and i do the ultimate no-no apparantly, i go into her room to settle her back to sleep.
I would try not to worry to much about other people ( easier said than done) but dont let it get you down. I let it get to me and ended up on meds for depression.
Sorry i went on a bit but it annoys me when others think they have the perfect baby and that us mums who dont have a child that sleeps all night are doing something wrong.
Take Care
Lynda