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Baby boys - Plans to create new age men???
Hi All,
I had just got to mentioning in another topic that I was totally going to bring my DB up as a feminist! (whilst ranting about my insensitive husband!). I am very serious about this and was keen to see Emma was on the same page, planning to bring her boy up as a new age man.....
I was wondering how many of you blue bump expectants feel the same way, or have specific character traits you will be looking to ensure LO doesn't have?
I have always been a (non ardent) feminist, but for some reason married a real blokie man (love him) - although I can take a lot of his actions with a pinch of salt, ensuring my little boy doesn't follow in his foot steps of his womanistic behaviour is going to be a challenge to say the least (which is why I dreamed of having a girl until 21 weeks!)
What are your plans ladies? Any good tips? Or do you think I have just completely lost the plot??
I had just got to mentioning in another topic that I was totally going to bring my DB up as a feminist! (whilst ranting about my insensitive husband!). I am very serious about this and was keen to see Emma was on the same page, planning to bring her boy up as a new age man.....
I was wondering how many of you blue bump expectants feel the same way, or have specific character traits you will be looking to ensure LO doesn't have?
I have always been a (non ardent) feminist, but for some reason married a real blokie man (love him) - although I can take a lot of his actions with a pinch of salt, ensuring my little boy doesn't follow in his foot steps of his womanistic behaviour is going to be a challenge to say the least (which is why I dreamed of having a girl until 21 weeks!)
What are your plans ladies? Any good tips? Or do you think I have just completely lost the plot??
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I will make sure my DS has manners, is polite and respects women completely! I work with a bunch of men who have none of these and think its funny to burp and fart infront of me and not even say pardon let alone do it anyway!
My boy will have manners, be considerate, not selfish, share and most of all respect adults!
Well that's the plan anyway!
GLK
22+6
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The step-son thing......hmmmm, touchy subject! I think they are a god send in that you have a marker line to aim passed!! My step son is not the worst kid in the world by any stretch of the imagination, but I wouldn't want my son to turn out like him (even in looks is my new panic!!)
The respect to women thing, I am very insistent on,I think I'll over sell our species a bit and make us God like creatures, so that he can meet me half way and get it right!!
My main fear is that Hub thinks he is hilarious and will make 'jokes' playing him off me and saying how wonderful men are and they are superior yadda yadda....just the thought of it infuriates me. Im thinking private chats about daddies mental illness problems!! lol
xxxx
28+2
I was amazed that he leaves the table without asking, doesnt sit properly at the table, eats with his knife and fork the wrong way and eats food with his mayonaise if you catch my drift. Other than that he is very polite and generally very good kid.
The only thing that sent me fuming once was when I was at the in laws, went to the loo and he has peed all over the seat and there was a MASSIVE puddle of wee next to the loo about 6 inches worth! i called my OH and said this wasnt you was it? He said it must have been his son and then OH cleared it up! Now this is where we differ and maybe if he was my son, I would summon him upstairs ask why he left it like that and why he didnt clear it up. He must learn to respect other peoples houses! I was livid OH didnt pull him up on this!
I think the thing that winds me up most with all kids, of all ages (my husband being a kid of 38!) is the WAY in which they talk to people - I will not tolerate this winning way of asking for things or complaining. I would like to think that my child will rarely get just a 'no' - that I will take the time to explain why something has to be a certain way - if they have an issue with that, then they can talk about it with me, but I think if I hear a 'ooooooooooooooh pleeeeeeeeeaaaaaaseeee muuuuuuuuum' or 'ittss soooooooo unfaaaaair, hmph' - my head will explaode all over them, that should be enough to put them off doing it again!! lol
i once told her not to mess about in the kitchen when i was babysitting and making something to eat her response was your not my mum so i dont have to listen! i was like like you'd expect that from a stroppy teen not a just turned 3 yr old!! i suppose you cant blame the kids as the parents are the ones teaching them morals/respect and what not.
I've had 6 years to work on my hubby so he's improving, but no son of mine (if I have one) is going to grow up thinking women have nothing better to do than run round after him :evil:
rant over
My OH's most irritating habit is not being able to think ahead or observe what needs doing or use his initiative - this is the basis of my sons training plan!
In my mind, this sums up men - I was a watching Topgear today and this *nobby* man had built a car in his kitchen.....IN HIS KITCHEN!!! Obviously it takes a little while to complete the building of a car, at no point did he consider how this car was going to leave the kitchen....... he's answer? Took out the wall.........honestly!!! No foresight, no common sense, mild initiative?
I do think Im a little worried that if I go over board on the feminist training that I will 'turn' my son gay (I know, irrational mother thoughts) and although I wouldn't have a problem if my child announced they were gay, I obviously wouldn't actively wish it upon them!! Im thinking I will have to even things out with sports and stuff!! Lol x x x