Why can't I do this?
I'm sorry, I feel a bit like a stuck record, but I just don't know how to cope with Barney. It has just taken me 10 mins to put his nappy and pj's on for bed. In the end I had to sit on him, pin his legs down with one hand and put the nappy on with the other, all while he screams and fights like a bloody caged tiger. He's like that at every single nappy change, and every time we have to dress him. If we try to do it standing up he refuses to put his feet down on the floor, if we try and do it lying down we have the mother of all fights. I know it sounds stupid but it is really starting to get to me. I'm terrified I'm going to hurt him, either by restraining him too hard, or by loosing my patience with him. I starting to wonder if there is something wrong with him, surely it's not normal for a 13 month old to be able to fight so hard that I actually can't restrian him? It's not like I'm tiny, I'm 5ft 8in and pretty strong but I just can't hold him when he flips. I'm sick of fighting with him, I'm sick of him screaming and I don't know what to do with him any more.
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the other night i completely gave up and left him nappiless, smug little so and so rewarded my defeat by pooing on the floor!
Sorry can't offer advice but can sympathise and say we're not in a much better position so will be watching for more helpful posts offering tips!
Sometimes something as simple as a wipe would take his mind off things while I got on with changing him.
Sorry if you've already tried it but worth a go if not.
Hope it gets better soon xx
Sorry I don't really have any helpful suggestions, but I do have sympathy - mine isn;t too bad at the moment, we seem to get through about half the changes ok, and I still try to keep up the praise, although he does do a runner as soon as I get the changing mat out!
She seems to have got past this phase and I just pop a toy in her hand and make sure her nappy is open and wipes out before i quickly lie her on the floor!
Have you tried doing his nappy sitting on your lap. To wipe her I would lift her up in my right hand and wipe with left. She to used to put her legs in the air!
My little girl doesn't scream or fight but thinks it's hilarious to try and crawl off if i try and bring her back she laughs hysterically.
What i do is either put her trousers on her head (in a non suffocating way!) which prompts a game of peek a boo or give her a soft book.
This works a treat! Hope it works for you.
My little girl doesn't scream or fight but thinks it's hilarious to try and crawl off if i try and bring her back she laughs hysterically.
What i do is either put her trousers on her head (in a non suffocating way!) which prompts a game of peek a boo or give her a soft book.
This works a treat! Hope it works for you.
you have my sympathy I hope the phase passes soon for you, i wish i had some better advice xx
FlirtyFilly, thank you for making me laugh, that's exactly the sort of thing Barney would do, probably accompanied by his best evil snigger.
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i think its definately 'just' an awkward stage - although cole still has his moments where he won't put clothes on etc etc and unless we are going out I just leave him to it as its warm-ish at the moment.
Hope the remote works
I've seen me holding him upside down by his ankles while one handed trying to get nappy on.
Probably not an ideal soution but would he be still if you gave him a rice cake or something to eat while you changed nappy ? S x
Sunflower, you are right, he is mostly still adorable. I didn't peek in on him last night becasue he is the only baby I know that doesn't look angelic while he's asleep. He sleeps with his bottom lip out and his hands clenched into fists, he always looks like he's on the verge of starting a fight
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I feel your pain! my little boy Lochlan who is 9 months does this every bloody change aswell it stresses me out so bad I could cry, the minute i lie him down he starts screaming then when im trying to change him he kicks his legs wraps them around me to try n stop me from doing what im doing he trys to scratch me and throws the mother of all tantrums, he striaghtenes out his arms so i have to bend them (which im frightened incase i hurt him too ) he goes mental if i even try to wipe his face, I end up all flsutered! my mum told em just to say right fine then and put him down as is, which is easier said than done especially if your going anywhere!! but when im not going anywhere i pick him up and put him on the floor and say there you do then even if his clothes are hanging off him and he has no nappy on lol but the only time i ever have a tantrum free change is when he's really exhausted, which is hardly EVER!! arrrgh!
So maybe if your not going anywhere and he starts just put him down and tell him fine away you go!
xx Lyns
In dire need I have pinned his arms with my legs and changed him as quick as I can. Doesn't always work but helps as I can't pin him down as strongly with my legs so I don't worry so much about hurting him. I do worry about him biting my toes