Is this wrong?
me and Evie were at oh nanas house with our dog Evie kept pulling her tales so I told her no three times and she carried on at this point Shandy was going to snap so I tapped well not even tapped Evie's hand and said no for her own safety well oh grandad kicked off shouted at me that I was horrible etc Evie is nine months and very knowing I was only trying to teach her right from wrong I now feel like the worst mum in the world and am sat here crying over the whole thing was I wrong? xxx
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Ignore OHs grandad, I thought in that era though they used canes? ;\)
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People might not see it as one and the same but to me they are, which is why I call it smacking. Its a 'tap' thats hard enough to make them stop and think without hurting them. A light wiffy waffy tap isnt going to make them take any notice - or it never did with Ollie, it has to be a firm one that makes him take notice...
And to be frank sometimes there is no other way you can get a v v stroppy 2 yr old boy to stop biting you other than a smack on his leg.
But back to the OP, its your choice what you do, so dont let him get to you.
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did u ask oh's grandad if he ever ever slapped any of his children ??i bet u he did xxxxx
I think that you have to parent the way you think as everyone is different and the children are different. My lo is 21 months and for the past two months has been showing very challenging behavious but she understands no, and a flick means not at all. It really doesn't hurt her but it does mean she knows what to do. They can't understand reasoning at this age and you need to make sure they're safe.
It's a real shame that you feel like you're a bad parent for discipling your child.
Both my hubby and I are teachers and I would say that we have far more problems with children who haven't been taught that there are limits and things they mustn't do, than with those that have had the odd smack!