I fell out with mil :(
Don't know what's wrong with me at the moment - I seem to be really overreacting about things - sometimes I wonder if there's something wrong with me...
Anyway I've had an argument with mil which has never happened before. I'm gutted, not least because I'll have to live with her for the next X amount of weeks (no, we STILL haven't got a date for the house yet!!).
It was basically about lo and how I parent him (I was doing a bit of CC as he wouldn't settle, there was nothing wrong with him & if I keep going in to him it makes him worse....)...I won't say anymore, I think I bit her head off a bit really but I hate how she says never to spoil him but then will never let him cry...
She has said she is not looking after him for the next week as "I know him best apparently" (thats what I said; it's what started it all) ....which is fine....up to her. But I know she thinks I can't cope without her help (which is poop!!) and I know when we move she'll be worried about him and if he's being looked after properly.
She only does it because she cares but it's starting to get to me a bit so I just snapped, I'm not her daughter & thankfully my own mother butts out!! I spent my entire childhood wishing I had a family who gave 2 hoots about what I did & now I'm kinda glad they DON'T as they don't interfere!!!!!!! Mil is trying to be helpful of course it's not her fault....I'm really upset though...
Anyway I've had an argument with mil which has never happened before. I'm gutted, not least because I'll have to live with her for the next X amount of weeks (no, we STILL haven't got a date for the house yet!!).
It was basically about lo and how I parent him (I was doing a bit of CC as he wouldn't settle, there was nothing wrong with him & if I keep going in to him it makes him worse....)...I won't say anymore, I think I bit her head off a bit really but I hate how she says never to spoil him but then will never let him cry...
She has said she is not looking after him for the next week as "I know him best apparently" (thats what I said; it's what started it all) ....which is fine....up to her. But I know she thinks I can't cope without her help (which is poop!!) and I know when we move she'll be worried about him and if he's being looked after properly.
She only does it because she cares but it's starting to get to me a bit so I just snapped, I'm not her daughter & thankfully my own mother butts out!! I spent my entire childhood wishing I had a family who gave 2 hoots about what I did & now I'm kinda glad they DON'T as they don't interfere!!!!!!! Mil is trying to be helpful of course it's not her fault....I'm really upset though...
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Just remember you do know him best and you can cope without anyone.
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I'm not suprised you've snapped at all, and if there was really something wrong with you you wouldn't be upset.
Try and get some sleep and apologise first thing in the morning. Just remind her that buying a house is a stressful time and that you may have a quick temper between now and moving because you want to make things best for your family, and let her know you were upset about snapping. I'm sure even a hard hearted person could understand and forgive that.
Get some sleep and good luck in the morning xx
It will all pass and of course you can look after him without her help! You DO know him best!
Lara I think a lot of it is that, I think she'll miss him lots & worry that I won't look after him properly just because she keeps him cleaner than I do!!! xx
She may see herself as en extension of you in that she's the only other woman in the house and she's being maternal towards him. She's also going to miss him I bet so that's why there is tension as well!