Would you tell someone else's LO off?
I never thought I would but yesterday I told off someone else's kid! We were in a soft play area and a little boy was in there (tbh he was a bit too big to be in there) he was being horrible to the other kids and just being a pain. Anyway, Evie walked near where he was, she wasn't bothering him at all, but he suddenly roared 'nooo' and slammed into her with his elbow and knocked her down :x she was crying so much and she's a pretty tough cookie. So I got down to his level and said 'Hey! We don't do that to babies, it's naughty.' He didn't do anything else after that.
Afterwards I felt a bit mean but still think I did the right thing, especially as the boy's mum wasn't even aware of what had happened. She was standing nearby but drinking coffee :roll: Can't understand why people aren't watching their kids!
Personally if it was my LO doing something similar, I wouldn't mind another mum telling her it's not okay to do that.
What does everyone think? Is it okay to tell off someone else's LO or was I just over-reacting? Just thought it was an interesting subject.
Afterwards I felt a bit mean but still think I did the right thing, especially as the boy's mum wasn't even aware of what had happened. She was standing nearby but drinking coffee :roll: Can't understand why people aren't watching their kids!
Personally if it was my LO doing something similar, I wouldn't mind another mum telling her it's not okay to do that.
What does everyone think? Is it okay to tell off someone else's LO or was I just over-reacting? Just thought it was an interesting subject.
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I'd fully expect another mum to do the same if rhys had hurt or done something to there child too.
some people make me mad if my lo was older and i never saw him do anything but someone told him off i would go over to the mum/dad and say i am so sorry for my childs behaver some people have no clue!!!:x
sorry its long this is one thing that really grates on me!!!!
A little boy near us roared at Charlotte the other week holding a play sword and scared her so I told him off (in fact I also told him I'd shove the sword up somewhere)!!!!! Couldn't help it.
It's exactly these kind of examples that put me off going to soft play areas with Kade as 9 times out of 10 the kids that are playing rough are the ones who's parents are not in sight or are sat in a huddle with a bunch of other mums not paying any attention!
A while back Kade was on a bouncy castle type thing and there was this kid who not only was a lot older but quite a large boy too. Anyway he was literally throwing himself from one side of castle to the other, which is fair enough as that's what kids do on bouncy castles, but I was grimacing every time he landed inches away from Kady. In the end I couldn't stand it any longer and scooped kade up to take him to a (safer) part of the soft play, lol.
I just think it's a shame that some parents just leave their kids to get on with it without supervision!
If they aren't going to keep an eye on what their kids are up to, then they can't complain if someone else has to help them discipline their child! You go for it!! I've had to tell off a couple of kids before for being too rough with my baby at these places, I felt bad doing it, but they did listen to me and didn't do it again, so it does work!
That being said i have always told off children when they behave badly....guess thats the teacher in me. I just can't stand bad manners and if the parent isn't around to correct (or can't be bothered) then i think its important that child learns that you can't behave in certain ways.
MJx
27+6
I've also marched a child back to his mum before with my lo screaming as this other boy had hit him over the head twice he was probably 4 months older than my lo. tMy lo then moved away to play with something else. This other boy followed and hit him again, so I grabbed both of them and went to his mum obliviously drinking coffee. His mum asked him what he did, it was so cute he confessed he was too young to lie! He then apologised. She had to take him home 5mins later as he was hitting someone else, never seen her at that toddler group again.
Shame
lo 21m and 34+6
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I just felt I'd been a bit harsh but I was so cross. It was 1st time we've been to this soft play place and it was great fun, but not enough staff to make sure kids were in the right places. The big kids kept coming into the baby area, I don't know why as the big kids bit is ace with loads to do!
Tbh, I was more annoyed with his mum for just ignoring him and being so clueless as to what he was up to. I was right in there with my girls, partly to make sure they were safe but also to make sure they played nicely. Lily accidentally bumped into a little girl who was sitting at bottom of slide, but because I was there I saw what happened, said sorry to the girl and her mum and told Lily to be more careful. Surely this is how kids learn to play nicely?
I really want to go again, so will probably be telling more children off in the near future!
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My friend once apologised profusely for telling Spence off cos he threw sand at her daughter. She seemed genuinely surprised that I was pleased she'd tackled him over it.
Liz x
22+4
I have told a couple of children off in my time lol when floyd was a couple of weeks old i was looking after a friend little boy he was 3 1/2 at the time and wass quite a rough boy.he wanted to hold floyd so i let him sit on the floor with him on his lap then he started squeezing him really hard and floyd started screaming so i aske if i could have him back and he sqeezed harder the whole time he was looking me straight in the eye i was so angry i eventually got floyd off him and i shouted at him and said that he was a horrible little boy, he just said u i dont care GRRRRR
Also at playgroup there is one boy that doesnt like floyd for some reason he just a really mean horrible little boy his mum doesnt really do much when he's been horrible just says dont do that and carries on talking to her friends, I try and let them get on with it if he hits floyd floyd will hit him back but he gets so upset and a few times i have told him to go away, to leave floyd alone and that he is nasty because he is.. its not his fault its his mums for not doing the right thing when it comes his behaviour!
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Teenagers aren't safe from me either, do exactly the same to them!
Felt something soft hit me in our local co-op then again. 2 evil chavy girls were throwing grapes at me! Gave them a huge ticking off the store manager came over made them apologies as well.
Keep it up ladies, you are doing the right thing!
When at park with lo all the other kids just push lo out of the way and off the toys and I feel really uncomfortable to say anything. One time a little boy almost jumped on top of lo's head!
I can't understand parents who just sit on the bench and let they're children misbehave!
Sorry moan over!