Does anyone help??
Hi Girls
Oscar is now 4 months old and I am a bit annoyed with hubby for not helping out, but then I think that maybe I am being unreasonable and just wondered what help you girls recieve with babys from partners/hubbys.
Oscar has not slept for longer tan an hour 5 nights in a row this week so could just be being mean due to exhaustion!!
love very tired Viki and wide awake Oscar xxx
Oscar is now 4 months old and I am a bit annoyed with hubby for not helping out, but then I think that maybe I am being unreasonable and just wondered what help you girls recieve with babys from partners/hubbys.
Oscar has not slept for longer tan an hour 5 nights in a row this week so could just be being mean due to exhaustion!!
love very tired Viki and wide awake Oscar xxx
0
Replies
I have to say my OH helps where he can, i usually get a bit of a lie in on one of weekend days, but its is pretty much up to me to sort my DS at night as he will only settle for me and BF! So OH has perfect excuse!
See if your OH will take your boy out for a walk round the park for an hour and go back to bed! catch up on some rest, sod the shopping and cleaning a Sane Mummy is much more important!
PS don't ask your OH, strap son in pram, state plan and then go to bed leaving him no choice! x
Flirtyfilly love your plan think i will put into action after this feed!! BF also so again prob why i feel like hes not helping cause he cant.
Just need to sleep ............
Viki xxx
I get lots of help from Oh and I know I'm very lucky because our situation gives us the time that other couples don't have. My Oh is totally in love with our baby that to be honest I have to interrupt so I can have a cuddle sometimes.
I think men should help out when they can, they made the baby too and it's their responsibility too. Partners should help if only from the viewpoint that the baby didn't grow and live inside them for 9 months, they have bonding to catch up with.
However I am on here because otherwise I'm going to ring him at work at tear him a new one because I've just found all my Oscar's missing towels and flannels screwed up at the bottom of the wardrobe and all his clothes still screwed up in the wash basket despite telling me he'd tidied up yesterday - on top of not doing the washing up or making the bed. I have no problem him not doing this, just don't tell me you've tidied if you blatantly haven't!!
Sorry, hijacked your post...
Anyway, I had to point out that raising our son is a full time job so he was going to have to either do stuff round the house or live with it because I do what I can but I'm not superwoman and our son has ALWAYS come first. Housework will be there forever but he'll only be this young once and I'm not missing it.
Try telling your oh something similar.
Hope you manage to get some rest xxx
But in other ways he's great. I get to go out once a fortnight with my friends which is a godsend as i really do need the time out, and he's supportive when i have down days etc.
He can be a complete arse at other times though! Like arranging to do something with me (even somethin silly like get some junk food and watch a dvd together) and then he suddenly decides he needs to do his accounts, or go to the pub with his mates. I think its just men, they sometimes forget to let us know we're important!!
If i were you hunny i'd be having words about the sleep issue, even if he got up once and gave little one some EBM it would really help you out! You shouldnt have to survive on so little sleep! (says the woman who's husband woke her at 4am on saturday morning and said "your baby is crying") He got a serious telling off for that lol! xxx
viki x x
Andy works nights so I've never had any help at night or in the mornings which is OK as Gabe's a good sleeper. I occasionally get a lie in at the weekend, and have to admit, if Lo's in a bad mood or poorly, OH is very helpful.
But most of the time he is useless and whenever I need help with lo he miraculously has 1,000 'important' things to do :roll:
He looks after him when I'm at work but he won't change a dirty nappy, if lo's pooed then he will hand him straight to his mummy :roll:
Seriously though hun, think your oh needs a lecture too. You're not being mean!
i hate the well i work all week i need a lay in!! wth, what do i do all week? and its not just 9 till 6 either!! my oh likes to feel the poor hard dponme to one when i ask him to empty the dishwasher! men eh!
[Modified by: chloe123 on August 30, 2009 11:24 AM]
I've never had a lie in, he's never done a night feed, he can't get him to sleep, always gets out of changing dirty nappies and has fed him only a handful of times. I can't moan at him though because "he has to work all week"!
Anyway, not moaning or anything lol just telling you how it is for us!
I've got to say Riley does sleep for more than an hour at a time at night though so if I were you I'd probably insist that he did more so you can get more sleep.x
xx
He is getting better now pippa is getting older as he loves trying to make her giggle, but he does have a short attention span and gets bored quickly, but i know a lot of men like that lol
xxxx