Returning to work? or not?
I'm kinda in two minds about going back to work. I had planned to go back part-time, just to get out of the house really (the extra money would be nice to, but not essential) I feel that because I've been off so long alot of 'work-mates' have forgotten about me and I really like the social side of work, Christmas nights/birthdays ect.
My OH on the other hand, wants me to stay at home and bring up Jax, his Mum stayed at home and brought up him and his 2 siblings and as nice as it sounds to be at home all day with my baby, I'm sure the novelty will wear off when he's getting into things and I lose touch with the 'outside world' I currently work for a bank and enjoy my job most of the time, I suppose I'm worried about my only role is life will be Jax's Mummy.
If I did go back, OH would have to get set shift (he works a 6 week rota) so he could look after Jax while I worked which he isn't keen to do because he's trying to work his way up the company so needs to seem as willing and flexible as possible. His job means alot and I know I'm never going to get the chance to work my way up anymore, I don't want to hold him back so I can return to my job (which doesn't really have any prospects anyway) I just don't know what to do, I want the best for us - which probably means me not working, but really need to do something to feel like 'me' again!
Sorry, didn't mean for it to be that long!!
Any advice? What are you ladies planning on doing?xx
[Modified by: McGillair on 28 September 2009 11:00:43 ]
My OH on the other hand, wants me to stay at home and bring up Jax, his Mum stayed at home and brought up him and his 2 siblings and as nice as it sounds to be at home all day with my baby, I'm sure the novelty will wear off when he's getting into things and I lose touch with the 'outside world' I currently work for a bank and enjoy my job most of the time, I suppose I'm worried about my only role is life will be Jax's Mummy.
If I did go back, OH would have to get set shift (he works a 6 week rota) so he could look after Jax while I worked which he isn't keen to do because he's trying to work his way up the company so needs to seem as willing and flexible as possible. His job means alot and I know I'm never going to get the chance to work my way up anymore, I don't want to hold him back so I can return to my job (which doesn't really have any prospects anyway) I just don't know what to do, I want the best for us - which probably means me not working, but really need to do something to feel like 'me' again!
Sorry, didn't mean for it to be that long!!
Any advice? What are you ladies planning on doing?xx
[Modified by: McGillair on 28 September 2009 11:00:43 ]
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We;re probably a bit back to front from you though, i would prefer not to return to work again, but am having to look for part time jobs as we need that extra cash top up, however hubby also works a rota, and never knows one week to the next when he will be working, so it's difficult looking for a job, but not knowing when i will be able to work. I'm just hoping my mum will be able to have Oliver when we're both working, otherwise we'll have to look into child care which we don't want to use if we can help it.
I think if you feel you need to return to work to keep yourself sane you should try and do that, it can be so draining being at home with our babies all the time, that you need that break every now ang again. I don't think hubby's understand that though as they get to have regular breaks to recharge. Or maybe look into working from home sometimes if that's possible? Or maybe finding something you can do other than work to recharge your batteries and socialise a bit.
I know what you mean about losing contact with people, it's amazing how many people forget that you might still actually consider going out when you have a baby!
Im gonna go bk full time but work 4 days and take one day hol per week for the first few months to ease me back in.
However my hubby just been promoted so well see the increase from start of next yr its an extra ??90 so i mayyyyyy work 4 shifts per week then
I work shifts which works out well and weekends so ill prob work fri sat sun and one day in the week
i dont think i could be a stay at home mum. id miss the interaction and socisl side of work. I actually love my job !! lol
maybe just see how u feel after christmas ? cause everything still all new ... maybe feel ready or not in a few more months...
or keep doing the lottery
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I think OH will just have to deal with me going back!! I could always go back for a bit and if it doesn't work out I can just leave!! It is a drain being at home all the time, even though we go to every baby group in the area and surroundings, Motherhood can be a lonely old game!!
Thank goodness for BE eh?!xx
I do love bringing the babies up but it does feel sometimes that all I am is mummy and have nothing just for me. Once Jamie starts play school I fully intend on going back xx