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unhealthy children to working mums debate!
i have just read a news report on the latest research and i just thought a healthy debate on it might be interesting.
these reports make me so angry as im a working mum, i work 30hours a week and i dont have a choice. if i had a choice i wouldnt work but in the current economic climate, my partner was made redundant last year, has even created a job as he couldn't get 1 and even that has dried up so im the only one bringing in a regular wage to put a roof over our heads and pay the bills and little treats for lo. surely it would be more unhealthy for lo if we lost our home!!?i feel incredibly guilty about having to work, 1 day a week i work a 14 hour day so dont see lo at all that day, i certainly dont make it up to lo by giving him sweets and watching tv, i make the most of it by taking him out to play and to socialise, even when im utterly shattered. i was brought up by 2 parents who both worked full time and im not damaged, more independant but not damaged.well in my opinion.lol. i do think it is very interesting when these reports are highlighted as usually they happen when they need the jobs for the menfolk and to create gaps it would be easier if women stayed at home- they did the same after the war.
just wondered what you ladies thought.xxx
these reports make me so angry as im a working mum, i work 30hours a week and i dont have a choice. if i had a choice i wouldnt work but in the current economic climate, my partner was made redundant last year, has even created a job as he couldn't get 1 and even that has dried up so im the only one bringing in a regular wage to put a roof over our heads and pay the bills and little treats for lo. surely it would be more unhealthy for lo if we lost our home!!?i feel incredibly guilty about having to work, 1 day a week i work a 14 hour day so dont see lo at all that day, i certainly dont make it up to lo by giving him sweets and watching tv, i make the most of it by taking him out to play and to socialise, even when im utterly shattered. i was brought up by 2 parents who both worked full time and im not damaged, more independant but not damaged.well in my opinion.lol. i do think it is very interesting when these reports are highlighted as usually they happen when they need the jobs for the menfolk and to create gaps it would be easier if women stayed at home- they did the same after the war.
just wondered what you ladies thought.xxx
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The only thing I did think is that maybe children who go to nursery are more likely to catch colds etc as they are exposed to germs from more children, but long term that is good for their imune systems anyway.
Off now to read the report!
xx
To be honest, this kind of report really pisses me off!!! I think it's bloody hard enough bringing children up in this world and having to go to work (let's face it, most of us would prefer to stay at home, but it's not always an option..) and then to have some people writing crappy reports to make us feel even more guilty is a bloody joke.
I don't believe that Daisy-Mae will be any less healthy than other children whose Mum's stay at home. I am a good Mum, give her all the love and attention that she could ever need and would do anything for my baby. I think there are advantages to both being at home and going to work, and we all make our decisions based on what is best for our own families. I think the numptys who write these reports should get out of their bloody ivory towers and think about the harm they are doing to young Mum's like us all on here... Maybe come up with something useful instead like some new quick and easy recipes that we can cook for our children to keep them super healthy.
And, breathe..... I feel better now!
C xxxx
I would be a stay at home mum if it was doable with partners wages, but at the moment its not.
oooo it really annoyed me!
xx