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i need to rant x
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my OH gets in from work kisses LO on top of head then potters about, goes for a run comes back has a shower by then its time for her bath/bottle bedtime routine, he helps with the bath but the rest is left to me.
It really annoys me I have the broken nights sleep so am shattered I love my LO so much but by 6pm I just want to be able to have some time for me just to be able to cook or do some chores but no he ends up cooking and I am left holding her and settling her.
Before you ask yes I have spoken to him about it then he gets the hump and tells me how busy he has been that day blah blah
I go back to work full time in feb and am dreading having to juggle everything, i think we are heading for one big row, his comment as he went out for a run tonight was "if you are tired why don't u go to bed at 7.30pm when she does" mmmnn thanks for that
anyone else have this kind of situation, he loves us both to bits but it feels to me his life has not changed one bit since she was born
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It really annoys me I have the broken nights sleep so am shattered I love my LO so much but by 6pm I just want to be able to have some time for me just to be able to cook or do some chores but no he ends up cooking and I am left holding her and settling her.
Before you ask yes I have spoken to him about it then he gets the hump and tells me how busy he has been that day blah blah
I go back to work full time in feb and am dreading having to juggle everything, i think we are heading for one big row, his comment as he went out for a run tonight was "if you are tired why don't u go to bed at 7.30pm when she does" mmmnn thanks for that
anyone else have this kind of situation, he loves us both to bits but it feels to me his life has not changed one bit since she was born
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i'm actually fed up with the sound of my own voice moaning at him now. i guess he will just seriously regret it in years to come and that's something he will have to live with, not me.
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That I believe is the way to do it
I feel so much better now rather then sitting seething away I have just thought actually I should not have to check and book him just tell him and it has worked yay xx
H2B goes to work during the day, then he gets home, he might eat (if he hasn't gone to his mum's to eat before coming home) then he goes out again. I feel like he doesn't want to spend time with us and it breaks my heart. He was like this while I was PG too, but then he had the excuse that he needed to get it out of his system before the baby came (yeah right!)
He never changes nappies or feeds her, I asked him to feed her the other night and he said he was playing his PSP. So what?! If I was playing the computer and she was hungry I would have to stop playing!
I never expected him to do night feeds during the week as he had to go to work, but I don't get help on the weekend either.
If I do decide to go out without her he takes her to his mums. He is capable of doing it himself so I don't know why he doesn't.
My mum says to me that she is his trophy baby. He will take her and show her off to people, but when it comes to the hands on stuff he isn't interested. I have to agree with her
Oh and also, he has said that he doesn't think that taking care of her would be that hard! He leaves his dirty dishes and clothes for me to sort, and when I dare to ask more than once for him to sort it out I am a nag
Last night he said that it would change, but I have heard it too many times to believe him
As Alcott rightly said he will regret it in years to come, it is good to know that we are all having to put up with the same stuff
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