Green Eyed Monster
I didnt think I'd react like this but two of our close friends (they're a couple) have just announced on Facebook that they're expecting. Initially i was overcome with a wave of jealousy. Why did we suffer a mc and they havent? How come everyone else seems to be able to get preganant and we cant?
I'm very shocked at my behaviour and feelings. We would have been pregnant at the same time. To make matters worse I've found out that my sis is pregnant again for the third time and we would have been 2 weeks apart. It seems like everyone is capable of getting pregnant at the moment except me. Dont get me wrong i am genuinely happy for them too but i'm also suffering from the green eye monster.
Has anyone else suffered/is suffering from this?
I'm very shocked at my behaviour and feelings. We would have been pregnant at the same time. To make matters worse I've found out that my sis is pregnant again for the third time and we would have been 2 weeks apart. It seems like everyone is capable of getting pregnant at the moment except me. Dont get me wrong i am genuinely happy for them too but i'm also suffering from the green eye monster.
Has anyone else suffered/is suffering from this?
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you're definitely not alone there, I've felt like this a number of times since my mc 3ish weeks ago. I'm still coming to terms with it myself and the very last thing I want to see/hear at the minute are pregnancy announcements. As you said, deep down I'm genuinely happy for my friends/family who are expecting, but it doesn't make it any easier when you're dealing with mc yourself.
My husband has said that his best friend has invited us to stay for a weekend in a month or so, his wife is 24ish weeks pg, I don't think he realises how hard it is for me to be around pregnant people at the minute - but at the same time I really do want to see them. It's so hard!
Don't beat yourself up too much about it. It's totally understandable given what you've been through. For me, it's been a case of grinning and bearing it and talking it through later with OH behind closed doors.
Hope it eases for you soon xxx
I'm so sorry that you have gone through 3 MC. It's very unfair. I'm sorry that we have all gone through it. MC is the cruelest side of nature that i have ever encountered.
Jellybean - are you being sent for tests to see why you have had 3 MC...I know its probably no comfort but finding out exactly what is going on inside your body will, I hope, bring some answers and hopefully a BFP very very soon!
My hubby is very supportive and I couldnt wish for anymore but I cant help feel that he doesnt quite understand. I'm sure this is purely down to him being male and not female and not understanding how powerful hormones can be.....hence my rant on here.
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I was exactly the same!! I couldnt bare the sight of pregnant women & would get really mad, why can they have a healthy pregnancy & i lost mine? I'm in a happy stable relationship - they have been together 2mins etc etc...
I even had a right snap at my cousin for complaining about how hard her life was when she has a beautiful baby boy!! I just couldn't get my head round why they were complaining about their life & morning sickness & how hard pregnancy is when i would have given my right arm for that!!
I had a cousin who was preg & due 2 weeks before me & that was really hard too but she was amazing & knew that I would come round when i was ready & sent me the most beautiful flowers!!
It took me a very long time to start to feel better about seeing pregnant women again & a lot of talking... mostly to my hubby who is the same - just doesn't seem to understand, I think it is a bloke thing! he is amazing and tried to convince me that he wasn't bored of talking about it but I felt like he must be!! I also spoke lots to my close family & friends that knew what I had been through & that have also been through it.... they reassured me that it was completely normal!!
Once I had talked and talked and talked about it i started to feel better... but this took months and everyone is different! Give yourself time and space away from these people hun & just see them when your ready! Dont stop talking to your hubby... he will want to know how you feel!! I also hate to say this but one the other things that has helped is being pregnant again as well, but I think that this has just given me sommat else to focus on and worry about!
Sorry thats really long x I hope some of it helps if you get to the end of it hun x x
Like everyone says you are certainly not alone sweetie in feeling this way & it's perfectly natural!!!
When we lost our 1st baby my sil was also pg at the same time so every week up to the birth was a constant reminder, she had her baby a month after ours wouldve been due & on the day she went in too be induced we found out we had lost our 3rd baby!!!
Life is so hard at times but i think the hardest things are thrown at the strongest & we will all get there one day with our treasured bundles of joy.
xxxx
This thread is reassurance that we all feel the same and understand each other tho
I'm so sorry that you have gone through 3 MC. It's very unfair. I'm sorry that we have all gone through it. MC is the cruelest side of nature that i have ever encountered.
Jellybean - are you being sent for tests to see why you have had 3 MC...I know its probably no comfort but finding out exactly what is going on inside your body will, I hope, bring some answers and hopefully a BFP very very soon!
My hubby is very supportive and I couldnt wish for anymore but I cant help feel that he doesnt quite understand. I'm sure this is purely down to him being male and not female and not understanding how powerful hormones can be.....hence my rant on here.
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Hi sorry its took so long to reply it was my birthday weekend and ive been spoilt rotten!!!.......im so sorry you are going through a similar situation to me....no woman deserves to have to go through it....my docs have been good....because ive already got a 5year old boy im not seen as a priority case.....They are looking into something called Hughes syndrome(sticky blood syndrome) ...because i keep suffering recurrent miscarriages and i have epilepsy and there the two main contributing facts,by all accounts when we next conceive they will prescribe me a low dose of aspirin to thin my blood i think.my and hubby are still ttc tho...a good friend of mine had 8 miscarriages and went on to have 2 gorgeous girls.i wish you the very best and il keep my eyes peeled out for you.if you ever want to talk im usually lurking.....;\)