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Girls, I'm absolutely gutted. My OH just came home and told me he is applying for another university course that will mean he will have to move about 40 mile away, he will only be with me at weekends. This obviously means a baby is out of the question now for at least 3 years, I'm sobbing my heart out, I told him if it's what he wants to do then it's ok but I'm really devastated
I know if I tell him how I feel he'll change his mind about applying and I don't want to feel that guilt but I'm so angry at him as well, when we decided to start trying this was discussed and he was sure he didn't want to continue the course after this year.
I just wanted to tell someone how awful I feel
I know if I tell him how I feel he'll change his mind about applying and I don't want to feel that guilt but I'm so angry at him as well, when we decided to start trying this was discussed and he was sure he didn't want to continue the course after this year.
I just wanted to tell someone how awful I feel
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I'm so sorry that you're feeling so down. I have to say that I agree with wifey2479, I think you need to talk to your OH. It isn't a case of you being a spoilt kid, but you had both talked about it and decided to start trying as he didn't want to carry on studying. For him to just come home and say that he is carrying on and is moving 40 miles away is quite a big turnaround!! It isn't about you whinging or getting your own way, but I think you need a chat to tell him how you feel and also find out what's going on his mind, after all this decision is having a huge affect on your life - not just his.
Good luck chick, sending you a big hug.x.
Hope you can find a compromise xxx
We are going to have a proper chat tomorrow (everything looks better in the morning right?)
Thanks again for listening to me rambling girls, it has really helped xx
You have an awful lot to look forward to in your future hun, please try to remember that xxxx
Sorry to hear that. Studying and TTC is hard mainly if there might be a change of university, am currently doing MSc and applying for PhD but if I fall pg that is more important.
It is strange that your OH changed his mind(at least indirectly), being a student gives the impression to be young and fairly carefree so perhaps he doesn't feel entirely ready to have a baby. But you have to tell him what you feel, you seem very upset and it might damage your relationship
Could you not move somewhere in the between you current location and his uni? Or is that too expensive?
Also for the wedding, my hubby and me were both students and had the most amazing day for just under ??3000 so you can safe that up.
xx
Hope you have managed to talk to him this morning about this as this is a massive life changing decision that needs to be resolved. You were sooo excited about becoming a mummy, so I hope it turns out the way you want it.
If he had worries, he should have discussed them with you instead of making some random decision...at the end of the day just because he has a degree doesn't mean he will get work - there are so many people out there who are overqualified for the jobs available and so don't get taken on.
I hope it all goes well - you know where I am if you need me xxx