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Impossible situation
Hi,
I'm just 8 weeks pregnant and currently living with the father. Initially I thought we were both happy with the pregnancy and looking forward to becoming parents.
However a few nights ago he told me that he needed to talk to me like an adult and went on to say that the only reason we are still together is the pregnancy, he doesn't even like me anymore and he doesn't love me either.
This is not the first time he has said something like this and in the past I have given him the benefit of the doubt when he apologises and asks for us to remain a couple. But now I am making choices not just for me, but for the little thing inside me too. I need someone to support me through this and he is clearly not willing/able to do it.
I'm devestated. All of my family are back home in Australia and I don't know what to do! After speaking with my sister she told me to come home and she would help look after me and the baby when it comes. My Dad said pretty much the same, but also asked me to consider a termination.
The father is now saying that I misunderstood what he said and is asking me to stay. I have no-one here aside from him and his family and I don't feel that I can trust what he is saying now. I feel as though I am in an impossible situation - I want to keep the baby and do the right thing by it, me and him. I feel so alone and have no idea what the right thing to do is.
So do I cut my losses now and split from him to head back home or do I try again and hope that he is up to the task of being a good father? I know being a single parent isn't an easy thing to do, but is staying with this guy who says he doesn't even like me worth it?
I'm just 8 weeks pregnant and currently living with the father. Initially I thought we were both happy with the pregnancy and looking forward to becoming parents.
However a few nights ago he told me that he needed to talk to me like an adult and went on to say that the only reason we are still together is the pregnancy, he doesn't even like me anymore and he doesn't love me either.
This is not the first time he has said something like this and in the past I have given him the benefit of the doubt when he apologises and asks for us to remain a couple. But now I am making choices not just for me, but for the little thing inside me too. I need someone to support me through this and he is clearly not willing/able to do it.
I'm devestated. All of my family are back home in Australia and I don't know what to do! After speaking with my sister she told me to come home and she would help look after me and the baby when it comes. My Dad said pretty much the same, but also asked me to consider a termination.
The father is now saying that I misunderstood what he said and is asking me to stay. I have no-one here aside from him and his family and I don't feel that I can trust what he is saying now. I feel as though I am in an impossible situation - I want to keep the baby and do the right thing by it, me and him. I feel so alone and have no idea what the right thing to do is.
So do I cut my losses now and split from him to head back home or do I try again and hope that he is up to the task of being a good father? I know being a single parent isn't an easy thing to do, but is staying with this guy who says he doesn't even like me worth it?
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Other than that I have nothing to add, but am sure that you will make the right decision by you all. all the best with the pregnancy x