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Baby in our room
At our antenatal classes we were told the latest research suggests babies should be in the same room as their parents until they are a year old! Surely thats completely impractical and difficult advice to follow?
I know before that the advice was 6 months but we don't have room in our bedroom for the cot so baby will have to move into the nursery as soon as they outgrow the moses basket.
I just wondered what ages everyone moved or is planning to move their baby into their own room?
Miss I
38 weeks today
I know before that the advice was 6 months but we don't have room in our bedroom for the cot so baby will have to move into the nursery as soon as they outgrow the moses basket.
I just wondered what ages everyone moved or is planning to move their baby into their own room?
Miss I
38 weeks today
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i spoke to my health visitor about this and she said having baby in your room does nothing to reduce the chane of cot death and has no real benefit except not having so far to walk if baby cries for you. our dd has been in her own room from 11 weeks. she still had enough room in her moses basket but she got to the age where she slept better if there was silence so we were disturbing her. she sleeps for 9-10 hours in her own room. we have an angelcare movement monitor so we know she is ok.
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As soon as we moved him out he went from being up twice a night to once a night and he started sleeping through at 11 weeks exactly.
This was definately the right thing for us to do.
becca and jacob x
Lily was in her moses basket until about 10-12weeks then we borrowed a crib from our friends that she went in for a while but didnt sleep to well....so....out went our bedside tables and in came the cot, she is now 19weeks. I asked my HV if we should/could move her into her own room and she said cot death is more about going into a 'deep sleep' and when baby is in your room you all disturb ecah other and stop baby going into that deep sleep, if they are in own room with no disturbances what so ever then theres more risk. Which totally freaked me out so she is staying in woth us until at least 6 months xxx
newlook x
She moved into the only other room we have which she has to share with Ollie and tbh I'd rather have still had her in with me, as thats when the problems started!
She now wakes up much more than she ever did in our room, and I hate the fact that i get cold having to get up to sort her out (Me? Lazy? )
I had also been told about the deep sleep thing - and that if there is some sort of noise going on its better as it gives the baby something to concentrate, so to speak, on and not go into so deep a sleep that they dont wake up.... something like a ticking clock was suggested to me...
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I've heard of the deep sleep thing too and would agree that he didn't sleep as well when in with us , neither did we, but if that's what helps protect him against cot death then it's fine by me. And as Stephe says it was so much easier for bf and night feeds.
My lo grew out of his moses basket by 9wks but we had crib too which is much smaller than a cot which fitted in our room. We did still manage to fit a cot in though.
Our bedroom was really small (we've moved now) and to be honest we managed with a cot from Ikea which was smaller than most cot beds. S x
We never intended to have baby in our room for the whole 6 months, but we did intend him to be in there in his cot at night times, moses basket for nap times. Because he was early we hadn't put the cot together when he was born (it'd only been delivered the saturday before) we never bothered putting it together in our room. We would've had to take it apart to move it anyway, and we just couldn't be bothered, so we built it in his room when he was about 10 days old. Probably due to his birth being what it was, I didn't want him away from me for a second or I couldn't sleep, so from birth he slept in his moses basket right by my side of the bed. It worked out well, because I couldn't keep getting up for him, so having him right next to me helped immensely. Once he was about 5 weeks old he started going into his room every night. We just put the moses basket into his cot, mainly for ease, because he could be wobbled in it more easily and that comforted him!!! Personally, there's no way we could have kept Jak in with us any longer. We kept waking him up by going and getting into bed, and then he'd not want to sleep unless he was cuddled or with us in bed, and I just had to break the cycle. Now he's in his room he gets complete darkness (with no loud daddy waking him up by putting lights on/off) and it's peaceful for him. He hasn't outgrown his basket, he sleeps in that for nap times in the day. He's in there right now talking to one of his baby books when he really should be sleeping!
I was told that the theory behind having them in with you is that they can hear a constant noise (ie. your breathing) so it helps them regulate theirs. Apparently a clock or something similar can do the job, so Jak's got a lovely ticking clock in his room.
I had to stop following every bit of advice/guidelines because, apart from the fact that everything's so contradictory, I was going insane trying to get Jak to get enough sleep. day or night. Let's face it, they need it, they're so teeny!
Em x x x
To be honest I never worried about the cotdeath thing, we have a connecting door from our roomt o hers so I can always hear her and since being in her room i'm more relaxed myself and sleep better too.
We started putting her in the cotbed for naps from 3 months old to get her used to it first.
EmilyB it is starting to feel close now with extra BH and period pains and stuff, I am hoping it will mean D-Day is not far off but it may just be wishful thinking. Time is going so slowly now! I don't want to wish the time by because I have really enjoyed being pregnant (well most of it!) but I am getting fed up and sore now, I am so ready for him/her to be here!!!
Miss I
38+1
oh and we can be a bit more livelier in the sex department haha not worrying about waking her, (although of cause if i thought there wld be prob then wldnt have put her in her own rm.
sarah xx