So I have the most amazing news. Saw my little bean with a healthy heartbeat. Never felt relief like this in my life. Aparently when I was scanned last Thursday it was done on a bedside scanner (as it was later on at night) snd these are not as in-depth scanners as you get in early pregnancy. I really really wish that had explained this as it would have caused a lot less worry also the person who scanned me wasn’t specialised in baby scanning and just basically wanted to check I wasn’t having an work pic pregnancy. So anyway regardless everything is fine and I’m measuring 6weeks 4 days which is only 2 days out from what I thought snd she said that can easily catch up. To say I’m over the moon is an understatement:) thanks so much for thinking of me ladies xx
Hi ladies, do you mind if I join you? I've been holding off posting as I've had a lot of losses so I'm very weary about being pregnant again but thought i would say hi now. I'm currently 7+1 and due on the 4th April. We were not ttc, I had a late miscarriage of a little boy at 16 weeks on 2018, then a 9 week loss due later in 2018 and then a 9 week loss in 2019. After that we decided to stop ttc as I was getting older and the 9 weeks losses were both due to chromosomal abnormalities. I wasn't tracking my cycle as we weren't ttc but I also know the date I conceived as we only had sex on the 12th July which was our wedding anniversary. Stupidly got a bit tipsy and didn't use protection and this is the result. I'm 42 so I know my chances of miscarriage are high anyway and with my previous history they are probably even higher than most. We were offered to be referred to genetics after the 3rd loss but decided against it as we couldn't stand the thought of another mc so took the decision not to try again. Really hoping deep down that this is a little healthy miracle been sent to us out of the blue but for now we are just taking each day as it comes. I've not even contacted my gp/midwife etc yet as im too scared to go for a scan. All my previous losses were missed miscarriages so it's like my body has no idea and I've found out at scans every time that their hearts have stopped. Anyway sorry for such a long introduction. I hope you are all well and that I get to continue being a due in April mum xxx
@ThatScottishMum welcome lovely! OF course you can join us! So sorry to hear of your previous losses. You sound like a strong woman! I haven't been through what you have but I would suggest getting booked in to see a midwife / gp sooner rather than later (easier said than done im guessing) as if they know your history then surely they are able to keep a careful watch? I guess it must be really hard for you to make that appointment however I have everything crossed for you that it is different for you this time and you have a happy and healthy pregnancy. xxxxx
Hey lovely! I am feeling good thank you. Just constantly hungry. Booked my 8 week midwife appointment yesterday for 6 September. I know its ages away but it gives me something to look forward to because at the minute other than having my positive hpts i dont feel pregnant and it all feels very surreal.
Welcome @ThatScottishMum what a journey you have been on can’t begin to imagine how you feel. Everything crossed for you that this is a healthy and happy pregnancy. I agree get urself booked in and you never know it could ease your mind for you to see a healthy little bean.
@Nat-ttc2 I’m very sicky 🥲 feeling nauseous literally all day every day it’s bloody horrid: only actually been sick 3 times. Hoping it eases although I was also very sick when I was pregnant with my little boy. Other than that snd tender boobs I’m ok. Xx
@Fee0806 ohhhhhh no sorry your sick. I felt nauseous with my daughter previously from 6 weeks until about 10 weeks but was never actually sick. Managed to figure out that it was related more to hunger so i just snacked on food constantly day and night.
im 5 weeks 1 day today so hoping nausea doesnt make a comeback this time round! LAck of symptoms is bothering me though!
Yeah I know what u mean but just be thankful that you don’t have any. I know where ur coming from tho no symptoms and ur wishing I had some and then u get them and u srewishing they r gone. cant win. I think every stage is just a new thing to worry about lol. X
Hi everyone. So amazing that our April group is growing quickly!
As this is my first, I’m finding myself questioning every twinge. I haven’t had any cramping now for a few days but started feeling a bit sick. So far, though, nothing major. Not sure if no cramping is good or bad. Anyway, hoping you are all doing well.
Obviously we’re all super early days but r uz planning to find out what ur having? I’m in 2 minds. We didn’t with our first snd I loved it: my partner would like to this time but I’m so not sure xx
I've got my booking appointment next week, so that will be fun. Hoping everything is fine in there as I am one of those annoying ones who don't seem to have the usual pregnancy symptoms. Felt a bit ill late afternoon yesterday but think that was because I'd eaten all my lunch by 11 so was probably just hungry 🤣 I too am in two minds regarding finding out. We didn't last time, my decision hubby wanted to. So I don't know whether to find out this time for him or play the I'm doing all the growing card to have another suprise!
Hi ladies, hope it’s ok to jump on board?? I got my 1st BFP on the 13th so due around 24th April (my daughters birthday) praying for a happy and healthy 8 months xx
Hi ladies, do you mind if I join you? I've been holding off posting as I've had a lot of losses so I'm very weary about being pregnant again but thought i would say hi now. I'm currently 7+1 and due on the 4th April. We were not ttc, I had a late miscarriage of a little boy at 16 weeks on 2018, then a 9 week loss due later in 2018 and then a 9 week loss in 2019. After that we decided to stop ttc as I was getting older and the 9 weeks losses were both due to chromosomal abnormalities. I wasn't tracking my cycle as we weren't ttc but I also know the date I conceived as we only had sex on the 12th July which was our wedding anniversary. Stupidly got a bit tipsy and didn't use protection and this is the result. I'm 42 so I know my chances of miscarriage are high anyway and with my previous history they are probably even higher than most. We were offered to be referred to genetics after the 3rd loss but decided against it as we couldn't stand the thought of another mc so took the decision not to try again. Really hoping deep down that this is a little healthy miracle been sent to us out of the blue but for now we are just taking each day as it comes. I've not even contacted my gp/midwife etc yet as im too scared to go for a scan. All my previous losses were missed miscarriages so it's like my body has no idea and I've found out at scans every time that their hearts have stopped. Anyway sorry for such a long introduction. I hope you are all well and that I get to continue being a due in April mum xxx
I'm sorry you've had to go through this. I've "only" had the one missed- misscarriage and I feel apprehensive enough. It has taken nearly a year to get pregnant again after the misscarriage, so it's been a disheartening process.
I'm going to persuade my midwife to send us for an early scan, or maybe get a private one. The previous pregnancy stopped developing at 8+2 so I'd like to have one about 9 weeks for reassurance.
Would you consider booking a private scan at that it's in your own terms? Alternatively, you could speak to your GP, rather than a midwife and get a referral that way if need be.
If you were considering testing for genetic conditions, it needs to be done before 14 weeks, I think, so you'll need to be booked in to get the scan at 12 in order for this to happen. But I guess you know as this.
I was told by someone in a similar situation that your past doesn't control your future. Today, you are pregnant and it's ok to acknowledge that. I've felt a lot more like I can allow myself to feel positively about it.
We're not going to find out the gender. We didn't with my daughter and it was so special, all the midwives and consultants were excited too, because we didn't know.
I had a call from the midwife yesterday and she's booked my booking in appointment for 31st, which is actually only 7 weeks, despite me telling her i was only 5 weeks. I won't make a fuss about it though, I'll just go along.
I've only got really mild symptoms at the moment, but I suspect that'll change at the end of this week, going by previous pregnancies.
We've not told anyone yet. My sister has just had a missed misscarriage a week ago, so I'll tell her soon, but want her to have a bit of time to compute her own loss first. We both had our daughters within 12hrs of eachother, so we're at the same stage of pregnancy and then both struggled with secondary infertility since then, both having a modern misscarriage. Really strange how similar or experiences are. Just hoping I can hang on to this one
Hi ladies, hope it’s ok to jump on board?? I got my 1st BFP on the 13th so due around 24th April (my daughters birthday) praying for a happy and healthy 8 months xx
congrats hun! welcome to the group. How are you feeling? xx
@Griff001 sorry to hear about your misscarriage.... how easy is it to get an early scan on the NHS?
I had a chemical 1 week after period was due..... excuse my ignorance but at what point does a chemical become a miscarriage? the nurse told me it was a chemical as it was early..... but I missed my period and had progressing hpts for a few days which then slowly faded.
I would really like to have a reassurance scan on nhs even though ive had progressing hpts over the last week and clearblue digi has gone from 1-2 weeks to 3+ in the space of 10 days so im hoping that everythings all good but obviously you cant help but worry can you? xxx
No I agree I have to say having my scan earlier this week was a huge weight off my mind abs just gave me the reassurance that everything was where it should be and as it should be. Although I know anything can still happen it defo helped me. Speak to ur midwife and see if they can get you booked for one xx
@Griff001 sorry to hear about your misscarriage.... how easy is it to get an early scan on the NHS?
I had a chemical 1 week after period was due..... excuse my ignorance but at what point does a chemical become a miscarriage? the nurse told me it was a chemical as it was early..... but I missed my period and had progressing hpts for a few days which then slowly faded.
I would really like to have a reassurance scan on nhs even though ive had progressing hpts over the last week and clearblue digi has gone from 1-2 weeks to 3+ in the space of 10 days so im hoping that everythings all good but obviously you cant help but worry can you? xxx
I believe it stops being chemical at 5 weeks.
A missed misscarriage is when the embryo stops developing, but you don't spontaneously miscarry. So you could continue to think you are pregnant for weeks only to find out at the 12 week scan that it didn't get past a certain point.
I don't know how easy it is to get an early scan on NHS. I think you can if you've had lots of miscarriages in a row e.g. 3+ or if you've had an ectopic or anything else similar. Not sure about just because you are worried. You can get a referral by your GP if you bleed or something like that.
I've got my booking in appointment on 31st which means I'll only be 7 weeks, but she had my dates and that's when she suggested. I'll ask her about it.
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So sorry to hear of your previous losses. You sound like a strong woman!
I haven't been through what you have but I would suggest getting booked in to see a midwife / gp sooner rather than later (easier said than done im guessing) as if they know your history then surely they are able to keep a careful watch? I guess it must be really hard for you to make that appointment however I have everything crossed for you that it is different for you this time and you have a happy and healthy pregnancy. xxxxx
How are you doing? xx
im 5 weeks 1 day today so hoping nausea doesnt make a comeback this time round!
LAck of symptoms is bothering me though!
Felt a bit ill late afternoon yesterday but think that was because I'd eaten all my lunch by 11 so was probably just hungry 🤣
I too am in two minds regarding finding out. We didn't last time, my decision hubby wanted to. So I don't know whether to find out this time for him or play the I'm doing all the growing card to have another suprise!
I'm going to persuade my midwife to send us for an early scan, or maybe get a private one. The previous pregnancy stopped developing at 8+2 so I'd like to have one about 9 weeks for reassurance.
Would you consider booking a private scan at that it's in your own terms? Alternatively, you could speak to your GP, rather than a midwife and get a referral that way if need be.
If you were considering testing for genetic conditions, it needs to be done before 14 weeks, I think, so you'll need to be booked in to get the scan at 12 in order for this to happen. But I guess you know as this.
I was told by someone in a similar situation that your past doesn't control your future. Today, you are pregnant and it's ok to acknowledge that. I've felt a lot more like I can allow myself to feel positively about it.
Fingers crossed for you.
I had a call from the midwife yesterday and she's booked my booking in appointment for 31st, which is actually only 7 weeks, despite me telling her i was only 5 weeks. I won't make a fuss about it though, I'll just go along.
I've only got really mild symptoms at the moment, but I suspect that'll change at the end of this week, going by previous pregnancies.
We've not told anyone yet. My sister has just had a missed misscarriage a week ago, so I'll tell her soon, but want her to have a bit of time to compute her own loss first. We both had our daughters within 12hrs of eachother, so we're at the same stage of pregnancy and then both struggled with secondary infertility since then, both having a modern misscarriage. Really strange how similar or experiences are. Just hoping I can hang on to this one
A missed misscarriage is when the embryo stops developing, but you don't spontaneously miscarry. So you could continue to think you are pregnant for weeks only to find out at the 12 week scan that it didn't get past a certain point.
I don't know how easy it is to get an early scan on NHS. I think you can if you've had lots of miscarriages in a row e.g. 3+ or if you've had an ectopic or anything else similar. Not sure about just because you are worried. You can get a referral by your GP if you bleed or something like that.
I've got my booking in appointment on 31st which means I'll only be 7 weeks, but she had my dates and that's when she suggested. I'll ask her about it.