Thank you ladies. I am struggling as this is my second loss now. The last week and a half has been awful. I was given the news at my 20 weeks scan that she had no heartbeat. I was admitted to hospital the day after to begin the process of delivering her. She was born sleeping at 3.30pm on Wednesday 12.09.18. Her funeral is on Monday. I have lots of people who I see everyday offering support, but not one of them is coming to the funeral. i come from a big family and only my mum and sister are coming. I need physical support from people but people just don't want to give it. Luckily my hubby is being fantastic. I hope you don't mind if I stay on here so I can see how you are all doing?
Im so envious and happy at the same time for you all. Much love xxxx
Sonia Whatever makes you feel better, I for one am more than happy for you to stick around. I think being envious is totally natural. I know that’s how I’d feel. It’s rubbish that your family aren’t providing the support you Need but I’m glad your husband is there for you.
i had wondered How you were getting on because the last thing you had said was you Had felt reduced Movements but you had your 20 week coming in.
genuinely so upset for you, if there’s anything at all I can offer you to help x
Thank you Chech. Yes I had felt reduced movements and for some reason I was dreading that 20 week scan. So much that on the way in I even said to hubby "what if baby has no heartbeat" he told me not to be so silly of course there would be a heartbeat. I think deep down I had a feeling/knew. I've been through so many 20 week scans that you just push all thoughts of anything wrong to one side, thinking you arent going to be one of those statistics.
Thank you Hun, just being there is helpful and means a lot to me xx
Sonia I'm so so so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful name for a beautiful angel. We are all here to listen if you need us, and you're always part of this group. No matter what you had a beautiful baby girl. If you are happy to stay, please stay. Do whatever you need to for yourself during this difficult time, and in the time to come. Lots and lots of love and prayers for you and your lovely family xxx
Sonia please do stay with us and check in when you feel up to it just like Brookes does... you are both part of our group for as long as you wish to be!
I'm sorry to hear many of those closest to you don't feel able to come to the funeral... babies' funerals are so hard... I've been to 2 of my friend's ones... one had the whole extended family there, the other just my friend and 4 of us friends to support her. Even her OH didn't feel able to go 😢. What I can say is both were beautiful and special in their own way.
The coming days and weeks will be hard I've no doubt but as long as you've got your hubby supporting you you will get through it.
I am 26 weeks today and starting to really struggle with my (lack of) abdominal muscles. Really painful to walk any distance- even round the supermarket! Even my support belt isn't helping much now so I'm pretty much out of ideas 😕 xxx
I was 25 weeks yesterday and I’m starting to be really conscious of his movements. I still wake up some days and feel like my bump had disappeared. I also have a lack of abdominal muscles but thankfully my back is holding up.
stranow thing Though, I have no stretchmarks at all on my stomach but I have maybe stretch marks on my thighs?! And the bottom of my back
We are only 22 weeks so still waiting to get to that stage of feeling big, atm I tend to still forgot I'm pregnant although I have a sizeable bump!
When are we meant to start tracking movements? I can feel baby when ever it moves now but I've no idea how I would go about tracking it consistently...
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Ive got a quick question for those having girls because I hear they are the most stubborn haha but I went in for my 20wk scan and apparently I have a tummy sleeper which means they can’t get the proper image of her heart that is needed because they need her to be chest up and each time it’s been the opposite and she won’t move. Therefore I’ve been asked to come in a third time to try and get this image. Is this normal? I’m seeing my OB in a couple days and will definitly discuss with her. I’m not certain if this is normal and I should be concerned
Bandaid there’s apps you can get. I’m sure he hospital investigate reduced movements after 24 weeks but could be wrong. I’m just going by the pattern, he moves around 10am for a while then sporadically through the day then he gets active a couple hours after dinner. I’m trying Not to stress myself out over it especially after sonia’s loss
Chech - that's exactly why I didn't want to download the app - thought it might be stressful! Yeah I guess it wouldn't make sense before the viability marker! xxx
Hi ladies. Looking for some advice 🤞🏼Just had our 20 week scan. I am now 21+3 and was told that my cervix is short. Length is 23mm and will now have to take progesterone suppositories until 34 weeks. Doctor said if it was 24mm he wouldn't be worried but best to keep an eye on it and I have to go back in 2 weeks time! this means that there is atm a chance baby could come preterm. I must admit had a little cry because I'm thi kingv the worst.
Has anybody had ant experience with this at all? Xxxxx
Dee2dee, I'm having girls but I have never had to go back for another scan as they have always just wiggled into the right position. However I believe there are different things you can do to try and get baby to shift position, not sure what though as I have never had that issue, hopefully someone can help soon.
Chech & Bandaid, I used to jot down the times Chunk moved and how long the movements lasted for. They told me to look for a pattern but it caused me to panic as there was no pattern I could find sometimes it would be after I ate other times nothing. I found it helpful to know that they are more likely to move when you stop moving. When you are walking you effectively rock them to sleep so when you have been still for a while they wake up. So if you dont think you have felt movement for a while but have been moving this is possibly why. Sit down and just focus on your babies for a few hours and they will usually respond. I used to read him a book or have a cuppa. However with the twins I'm sure they are teaming up on me already and taking turns to sleep so the other can kick. Feel like they are constantly wiggling/kicking or punching me.
hi everyone havnt been on in a while. been back and forth from hospital was down last week to see consultant about my fluid agan seems to be rapidly increasing. my consultanat wasn't available so seen by someone else who scanned and said it had increased even more but sent me of and said come back on 15th when I be 28 weeks. so went to midwife this morning for my 25 week scan and mentioned I had reduced movements was sent back to hospital and seen by a nice doctor who said baby was fine but was concerned about the lack of care at last appointment he said water had increased even more and has sent of bloods to specialist to check for a list of infections im back monady to see my own consultant and will been seen weekly by her and no one else to monitor water and down Thursday for gtt test. im currently barely fit to walk with my spd in my hips the pain in my black and pressure and varicose veins on my vagina. its literally a nightmare when you have 4 kids under 10 at home. im currently 25+4
I hope you don't mind me posting I am 21 weeks due 5th February but have been told off my consultant I will be having a c section and therefore baby will be born in January so thought I'd join both boards if that's ok.
Zoenew I have weekly cervical scans and my consultant has said if it drops between 20-25mm before 24 weeks then she'd be wanting to put a cerclage in. Maybe worth asking about.
Hi Northerngal, Happy to have you here, I am doing the same my Due date is 8th Jan but due to twins I wont be aloud to go much further than 18th December so I'm in both the Jan and Dec groups. To be honest I have found it hard to post regular on both but its nice to be able to speak to those a little ahead of me and those that are still going through the same stage as me :-)
Zoe I think I sent you a message. I had my last cervical scan at 21 weeks and was told if my cervix had been short then I would of had a stitch so not sure on the 14week rule! And a friend has had a stitch for both her pregnancies at about the same stage!
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Thank you ladies. I am struggling as this is my second loss now. The last week and a half has been awful. I was given the news at my 20 weeks scan that she had no heartbeat. I was admitted to hospital the day after to begin the process of delivering her. She was born sleeping at 3.30pm on Wednesday 12.09.18. Her funeral is on Monday. I have lots of people who I see everyday offering support, but not one of them is coming to the funeral. i come from a big family and only my mum and sister are coming. I need physical support from people but people just don't want to give it. Luckily my hubby is being fantastic. I hope you don't mind if I stay on here so I can see how you are all doing?
Im so envious and happy at the same time for you all. Much love xxxx
Sonia Whatever makes you feel better, I for one am more than happy for you to stick around. I think being envious is totally natural. I know that’s how I’d feel. It’s rubbish that your family aren’t providing the support you Need but I’m glad your husband is there for you.
i had wondered How you were getting on because the last thing you had said was you Had felt reduced Movements but you had your 20 week coming in.
genuinely so upset for you, if there’s anything at all I can offer you to help x
Thank you Chech. Yes I had felt reduced movements and for some reason I was dreading that 20 week scan. So much that on the way in I even said to hubby "what if baby has no heartbeat" he told me not to be so silly of course there would be a heartbeat. I think deep down I had a feeling/knew. I've been through so many 20 week scans that you just push all thoughts of anything wrong to one side, thinking you arent going to be one of those statistics.
Thank you Hun, just being there is helpful and means a lot to me xx
Sonia I'm so so so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful name for a beautiful angel. We are all here to listen if you need us, and you're always part of this group. No matter what you had a beautiful baby girl. If you are happy to stay, please stay. Do whatever you need to for yourself during this difficult time, and in the time to come. Lots and lots of love and prayers for you and your lovely family xxx
Sonia please do stay with us and check in when you feel up to it just like Brookes does... you are both part of our group for as long as you wish to be!
I'm sorry to hear many of those closest to you don't feel able to come to the funeral... babies' funerals are so hard... I've been to 2 of my friend's ones... one had the whole extended family there, the other just my friend and 4 of us friends to support her. Even her OH didn't feel able to go 😢. What I can say is both were beautiful and special in their own way.
The coming days and weeks will be hard I've no doubt but as long as you've got your hubby supporting you you will get through it.
Thoughts and prayers to you both xxx
How is everyone doing?
I am 26 weeks today and starting to really struggle with my (lack of) abdominal muscles. Really painful to walk any distance- even round the supermarket! Even my support belt isn't helping much now so I'm pretty much out of ideas 😕 xxx
I was 25 weeks yesterday and I’m starting to be really conscious of his movements. I still wake up some days and feel like my bump had disappeared. I also have a lack of abdominal muscles but thankfully my back is holding up.
stranow thing Though, I have no stretchmarks at all on my stomach but I have maybe stretch marks on my thighs?! And the bottom of my back
We are only 22 weeks so still waiting to get to that stage of feeling big, atm I tend to still forgot I'm pregnant although I have a sizeable bump!
When are we meant to start tracking movements? I can feel baby when ever it moves now but I've no idea how I would go about tracking it consistently...
Hi everyone, we’re giving away 7 pairs of free tickets to The Baby Show at at London Olympia, from 19-21 October 2018. To find out how to win them, head to this thread.
Hey ladies I’m 22+3
Ive got a quick question for those having girls because I hear they are the most stubborn haha but I went in for my 20wk scan and apparently I have a tummy sleeper which means they can’t get the proper image of her heart that is needed because they need her to be chest up and each time it’s been the opposite and she won’t move. Therefore I’ve been asked to come in a third time to try and get this image. Is this normal? I’m seeing my OB in a couple days and will definitly discuss with her. I’m not certain if this is normal and I should be concerned
Bandaid there’s apps you can get. I’m sure he hospital investigate reduced movements after 24 weeks but could be wrong. I’m just going by the pattern, he moves around 10am for a while then sporadically through the day then he gets active a couple hours after dinner. I’m trying Not to stress myself out over it especially after sonia’s loss
Chech - that's exactly why I didn't want to download the app - thought it might be stressful! Yeah I guess it wouldn't make sense before the viability marker! xxx
Hi ladies. Looking for some advice 🤞🏼Just had our 20 week scan. I am now 21+3 and was told that my cervix is short. Length is 23mm and will now have to take progesterone suppositories until 34 weeks. Doctor said if it was 24mm he wouldn't be worried but best to keep an eye on it and I have to go back in 2 weeks time! this means that there is atm a chance baby could come preterm. I must admit had a little cry because I'm thi kingv the worst.
Has anybody had ant experience with this at all? Xxxxx
Dee2dee, I'm having girls but I have never had to go back for another scan as they have always just wiggled into the right position. However I believe there are different things you can do to try and get baby to shift position, not sure what though as I have never had that issue, hopefully someone can help soon.
Chech & Bandaid, I used to jot down the times Chunk moved and how long the movements lasted for. They told me to look for a pattern but it caused me to panic as there was no pattern I could find sometimes it would be after I ate other times nothing. I found it helpful to know that they are more likely to move when you stop moving. When you are walking you effectively rock them to sleep so when you have been still for a while they wake up. So if you dont think you have felt movement for a while but have been moving this is possibly why. Sit down and just focus on your babies for a few hours and they will usually respond. I used to read him a book or have a cuppa. However with the twins I'm sure they are teaming up on me already and taking turns to sleep so the other can kick. Feel like they are constantly wiggling/kicking or punching me.
hi everyone havnt been on in a while. been back and forth from hospital was down last week to see consultant about my fluid agan seems to be rapidly increasing. my consultanat wasn't available so seen by someone else who scanned and said it had increased even more but sent me of and said come back on 15th when I be 28 weeks. so went to midwife this morning for my 25 week scan and mentioned I had reduced movements was sent back to hospital and seen by a nice doctor who said baby was fine but was concerned about the lack of care at last appointment he said water had increased even more and has sent of bloods to specialist to check for a list of infections im back monady to see my own consultant and will been seen weekly by her and no one else to monitor water and down Thursday for gtt test. im currently barely fit to walk with my spd in my hips the pain in my black and pressure and varicose veins on my vagina. its literally a nightmare when you have 4 kids under 10 at home. im currently 25+4
hope everyone keeping well.
Sonia im so sorry for your loss.
Hello Ladies
I hope you don't mind me posting I am 21 weeks due 5th February but have been told off my consultant I will be having a c section and therefore baby will be born in January so thought I'd join both boards if that's ok.
Zoenew I have weekly cervical scans and my consultant has said if it drops between 20-25mm before 24 weeks then she'd be wanting to put a cerclage in. Maybe worth asking about.
Hi northerngal 👋🏻 Welcome to the forum. I think we have a few members due at the very end of January so youre in good company
Hi Northerngal,
im 24mm now. Are you in the uk? I’ve only read that they do the stitch early like 14 weeks ?
Hi Northerngal, Happy to have you here, I am doing the same my Due date is 8th Jan but due to twins I wont be aloud to go much further than 18th December so I'm in both the Jan and Dec groups. To be honest I have found it hard to post regular on both but its nice to be able to speak to those a little ahead of me and those that are still going through the same stage as me :-)
Zoe I think I sent you a message. I had my last cervical scan at 21 weeks and was told if my cervix had been short then I would of had a stitch so not sure on the 14week rule! And a friend has had a stitch for both her pregnancies at about the same stage!
I’m London based