Everyone looks great!! So lovely to see everyone’s baby bumps growing and progressing!!
Has anyone had any feelings of movement yet? I haven’t. But I know we are getting close to possibly feeling baby soon...
On my app, it says that at 15 weeks the baby can now see light through her eyelids! So if I were to shine a light on my belly she would see it through her closed lids, not that I will be doing that because I don’t want to disturb her or bother her!! But that’s so cool!!
I am feeling movements, 3am seems to be this one’s favourite time to have a wiggle but then I’m on third baby and feeling slight fluttering a since 7/8 weeks but getting stronger now. My two love feeling their baby brother or sister having a good old wiggle!! Mine also seems to like when I have a bath, the warm water seems to wake baby up lol!!
Nothing more magical then feeling baby move.
I’m 17 weeks today and still suffering with HG!! Was watching a programme recently about the studies they are doing into HG and they think it may be to do with a fault in the ladies gene so hoping that the more research they do the more they will be able to stop it being an issue for ladies going forward. Wish they had done this research years ago.
Hope everyone else is doing good. Loving all the baby bumps xx
@MrsP13 ooh not too far behind me then! This is one of the most exciting parts so far!! I'm counting the days too!!
@Nevesmummy aww, feeling the baby moving around must be so amazing! I cant wait to feel my little bean! I might have felt something while laying down last night but it could have been gas too! This is my first so not sure what Its supposed to feel like yet!!
So I need some advise ladies!! My job is to care for a non-verbal autistic boy (15yrs) and his kid sister who’s 10yrs. I work late afternoons to evening 3-7p. I’m 15 weeks pregnant and concerned about getting really sick and it harming my baby.
This week on Monday, the mother had the stomach bug. I happened to not go in Monday and Tuesday because I was ridiculously exhausted. Maybe my intuition steered me clear from exposure. I picked the kids up Wednesday and today. I came in today and the father was now sick with the stomach bug. I know I’m a caregiver and it’s my job to come in but now that I’m pregnant I’m so concerned with my health and the health and safety of my baby.
The mother felt we needed to have a talk about the whole sick thing and what’s expected of me. As a caregiver I’m expected to come in even when they are all sick, and they’d love it if I’d come in when I’m sick. But if I’m sick, I stay home, rest and take care of myself. I am not one to push through. They especially need me when they are sick bc that’s when they need me most. I totally get this. At the same time, being pregnant with a compromised immune system and needing to be careful not to let my core temp go above 100.4 when I’m already running higher, 99.9 due to being pregnant, makes me reconsider this whole job!
I explained my concerns with being pregnant and needing to be more careful around sickness and the mother dismissed me by saying she did all theses things when she was pregnant, she got sick most of the time, and was in the hospital at one point. Pushing through her limitations and not taking care of herself. She ended up on bed rest from falling off a ladder and breaking her ankle! This is not me. I’m the opposite. Self care and a healthy lifestyle, not over doing it, and listening to my body is my way.
We came to some understanding and since she was going to be home the rest of the evening, she said I could leave, but she said it very reluctantly. She would have liked it if I stayed so that I could keep the laundry going and clean their dishes. But I’m sorry, I am not going to expose me and my baby to the stomach bug just so I can keep their laundry going and put their dishes in the f***ing dishwasher! If I were sick with a highly contagious bug and had a caregiver who was pregnant or not, but especially one who is pregnant, I would not have them come in. Period. I wouldn’t want to expose them. I told her this very boldly, but in a nice way.
I feel frustrated and concerned. I feel they were inconsiderate of me and my baby and this feels awful. I know I am the employee and it’s my job, but I just wouldn’t ask someone to come in. I feel they don’t really care about my needs and only about their own. And of course, I am working for them and that’s how it is. But this a job where I’ve been working for their family, taking care of their kids for over 2 years. There is some bit of family vibes going on, but when this happened, it felt there were none.
I’m just really considering quitting bc of it all. I am at a higher risk working there while pregnant and I’ve been looking forward to moving on for sometime now. I was going to move on when baby came anyway, but now I’m thinking to go sooner. I have another job but will need to find something else so we can save before baby arrives and I’m not working. Sorry for the rant and for those that read all the way through, thank you! Any thoughts and suggestions are welcome 🙏
So I need some advise ladies!! My job is to care for a non-verbal autistic boy (15yrs) and his kid sister who’s 10yrs. I work late afternoons to evening 3-7p. I’m 15 weeks pregnant and concerned about getting really sick and it harming my baby.
This week on Monday, the mother had the stomach bug. I happened to not go in Monday and Tuesday because I was ridiculously exhausted. Maybe my intuition steered me clear from exposure. I picked the kids up Wednesday and today. I came in today and the father was now sick with the stomach bug. I know I’m a caregiver and it’s my job to come in but now that I’m pregnant I’m so concerned with my health and the health and safety of my baby.
The mother felt we needed to have a talk about the whole sick thing and what’s expected of me. As a caregiver I’m expected to come in even when they are all sick, and they’d love it if I’d come in when I’m sick. But if I’m sick, I stay home, rest and take care of myself. I am not one to push through. They especially need me when they are sick bc that’s when they need me most. I totally get this. At the same time, being pregnant with a compromised immune system and needing to be careful not to let my core temp go above 100.4 when I’m already running higher, 99.9 due to being pregnant, makes me reconsider this whole job!
I explained my concerns with being pregnant and needing to be more careful around sickness and the mother dismissed me by saying she did all theses things when she was pregnant, she got sick most of the time, and was in the hospital at one point. Pushing through her limitations and not taking care of herself. She ended up on bed rest from falling off a ladder and breaking her ankle! This is not me. I’m the opposite. Self care and a healthy lifestyle, not over doing it, and listening to my body is my way.
We came to some understanding and since she was going to be home the rest of the evening, she said I could leave, but she said it very reluctantly. She would have liked it if I stayed so that I could keep the laundry going and clean their dishes. But I’m sorry, I am not going to expose me and my baby to the stomach bug just so I can keep their laundry going and put their dishes in the f***ing dishwasher! If I were sick with a highly contagious bug and had a caregiver who was pregnant or not, but especially one who is pregnant, I would not have them come in. Period. I wouldn’t want to expose them. I told her this very boldly, but in a nice way.
I feel frustrated and concerned. I feel they were inconsiderate of me and my baby and this feels awful. I know I am the employee and it’s my job, but I just wouldn’t ask someone to come in. I feel they don’t really care about my needs and only about their own. And of course, I am working for them and that’s how it is. But this a job where I’ve been working for their family, taking care of their kids for over 2 years. There is some bit of family vibes going on, but when this happened, it felt there were none.
I’m just really considering quitting bc of it all. I am at a higher risk working there while pregnant and I’ve been looking forward to moving on for sometime now. I was going to move on when baby came anyway, but now I’m thinking to go sooner. I have another job but will need to find something else so we can save before baby arrives and I’m not working. Sorry for the rant and for those that read all the way through, thank you! Any thoughts and suggestions are welcome 🙏
@Chloe87 oh no!! With bleach and down the toilet!! 🤦🏼♀️ No wonder you’ve been MIA! Glad it wasn’t anything too serious! Nice to hear from you and see you again!! Would love to see your proper belly bump shot next week with how far along you are! Any reason for losing weight?
@MrsP13 you look great! And based on your first pregnancy photo, you carry the way your supposed to carry and it’s beautiful and unique to you!!! I say embrace that fertile goddess body!
@CCH94 you look beautiful! Nice bump!! I think 15 weeks for some of us is when we’re really popping out! 🥰
@Allnewtome beautiful bump girl!! Love seeing everyone’s bumps!!
@Familyof3-soontobe4 yay!!!!! 💕❤️💕❤️💕❤️ A baby girl!!!! So far you and I have found out and we’re both having girls!!! How lovely!!! Is that what you wanted?! Sorry if you already said! I can’t remember 🤪
No particular reason for weight loss I've just been eating super healthy now the MS has gone and i can enjoy salads again
Where as before I was just eating whatever food I could keep down and it mainly unhealthy
I might do the photo ag the week end if I get time but I know it's a Busy one but I'll it in next week if not
Had the cats tooth done 175 quid later bought a replacement phone 130 Quid hated it sold it only the woman I bought it from lied to me and Told me it was unlocked and it wasn't so now phone is being returned & Having to refund the money it's all been stressful hope everyone else Is well
I work with challenging behaviour also I'm constantly around sickness and the other end cold and flu and at times shingles there ain't a lot you can do tbh carry anti bacteria gel with you at al times wesr ppe when u can u can and even face masks inwish work would provide them they would be so useful when people r coughing in your face are you taking supplements this should help help your immune systemup plenty of high vit foods and drinks xxx
@Mama2be9 in England our employees have to do risk assessment once we are pregnant. Is that not something you do over there? It helps protect you. I certainly would not be forced to work somewhere where they had a sickness bug but again maybe our policies are different over here. They don't sound like very understanding employers so I would perhaps look elsewhere. You don't need the added stress xx
@Mama2be9 in most cases you can avoid bugs by washing your hands thoroughly. I appreciate that if someone coughs in your face that can’t be helped. But as lilylov said above wear a mask whilst in working your concerned.
I work in a call centre and move desks so the risk to bacteria is high, I have to wash my hands after leaving for the day as well as anti bac the desk, but this doesn’t always stop it. Air can is a killer.
If you feel the job is more tress than it’s worth and you can find another job elsewhere whilst pregnant then go. I agree with you that resting is the best self care when I’ll and I would always stay home from any job if I feel rest would help. At the end of the day you have to do what’s best for your family.
@LilyLov no we don’t do any kind of risk assessment here. What do they do for that anyway?
Thanks ladies for your kind words and advice. ❤️
Yes I feel they aren’t being very understanding and that is the part that really bothers me and rubs me the wrong way. I just wouldn’t ask my caregiver to come in if I just had the stomach bug and now my husband has it. The stomach bug is the worst bc it spreads so easily and is so highly contagious. I would want my employee to stay away so they could avoid it. The dishes and laundry aren’t an emergency that needs to be dealt with. They can wait until everyone is healthier. The mother really kind of gave it to me yesterday about how I need to just deal with them being sick and if I can come in when I’m sick that would be great too. I guess when you need help, sick help is still help.
I just operate so differently and don’t push through. If I’m sick, I slow down, listen to my body and it’s needs, and I take really good care of myself. Now that I’m pregnant I practice that even more so. And I often do not fall sick.
My mom was always like this with me, taking really good care when I was sick and she also took really good care of herself. So it’s something I learned. My husband pushes through and gets really sick when he’s sick, every time. His mother does the same bc she thinks she has to. I understand that we need to push through sometimes bc we just have to. I’m just not sure I need to push through this one during this delicate time of my life. I think I can chose better and empower myself by bringing peace of mind and trusting that I can find something better that serves me and baby. I do have another job that will still be bringing in a chunk of income. I’ll just be losing a bit if I walk away from this job. I will give them plenty of notice of course and make sure they have someone before I leave. I do care for them. But I care more for my health and my baby’s health at this time then their health and getting exposed to things that could be dangerous for me.
I don’t want to work in an environment that doesn’t consider my needs and only considers their own. That is most jobs I know. I have been wanting to be done with this job for awhile now for a variety of reasons that don’t work for me, but have stuck with it bc it is easy work and I have been with them for over 2 years and thought it wouldn’t be so bad to finish it out until I have baby. I was planning to leave them anyway once she arrives. If I left now, I’d have peace of mind, better hours, and I could find something else that suits me where I’m at now. It’s 4 months earlier than I had planned.
I need to sit with it and mull it over with dh. He supports me in getting out of there bc they don’t have any concern for me and that just doesn’t feel good. I know I can be sick and be pregnant but I’d rather not if I can help it. It is dangerous to get a high fever and to lose fluids for too long so I don’t want to be forced into exposure to something that could be dangerous for me and therefore baby.
I’m open to further suggestions bc I’m trying to look at all angles at the moment. It would be awesome to stay so that we could have that continued income and save before baby comes. Just not sure the money is worth the risk? And I could possibly find something else to cover that loss. But I also could just be out of work. It’s a conundrum ladies!!! Lol!! 🤪
@Mama2be9 oh no, sounds like a rough week for you!! Sorry to hear about your employer not being so considerate to your feelings/opinion. It's always best to do what you think is right, our gut is usually right!!
Where I work there was a cold/stomach bug going around a little while ago, luckily I didnt catch it, but I was researching incase I did lol. Apparently the cold virus does not cross the placenta so baby will be safe, however as being pregnant and having a cold it might take us longer to get over it!
I feel like there is so much more to worry about now being pregnant... Maybe you can start to look for another job and just do your best to stay healthy and avoid too much contact in the meantime?? In the 2 years you have worked for them have you gone in when they were sick before you were pregnant??
@thinkingpositive1 thank you for your kind supportive words. I’m starting to feel better and more clear after sharing here and with some friends and family about it.
Yes colds and viruses don’t pass the placenta. So that’s not really a big deal. What I’m worried about is core temp raising past 100.4 when I’m already 99.9 bc I’m pregnant and the complications of that. Also worried about catching the flu from them if they were to get it and I still needed to come in. And I’m worried about the stomach bug causing too much loss of fluids ending in dehydration and possible preterm labor or hospitalization. These things have potentially dangerous outcomes if they were to happen and that’s what my concern is about. Having to work and interact with their sick environment where the germs are everywhere and I’m having to basically clean it all up just seems like a risk that I don’t feel willing to take now that I’m pregnant.
What I’m thinking of doing at this point is giving them two weeks notice with some boundaries which are for them to please inform me if they are sick and for them to be clear of that sickness for at least 24 hours before I come in.
It’s a state law in our school systems that parents aren’t allowed to bring kids to school if they have the stomach bug or a fever. They must be clear of a fever or throwing up for at least 24 hours without the use of Tylenol. I am applying that same idea to me coming into their sick environment. I know they won’t go for it at all bc they expect the opposite, that I need to come in when they are sick especially. So we will see. I’m ready to be done and find something that doesn’t cause me stress, is safer for me, and isn’t such late hours in the night. I’ll keep you all posted on what I ultimately decide and it’s outcome 🙏
@Mama2be9 I can understand you concerns about your core temperature being affected, however it’s uncommon to have a stomach bug that leads you to hospitalisation or dehydration. That really would only happen if you didn’t look after yourself and from what you’ve said previously, you pride your self in doing just that.
I had a bout of food poisoning and a stomach bug with in 2 months of each other that lasted no longer than 48hours and did not end up in hospital due to dealing medical advice and keeping myself hydrated.
If the family are really not that supportive there isn’t much more that you can do other to find someone who is.
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@MrsP13 due date 8/7/20 gender tbc
I am feeling movements, 3am seems to be this one’s favourite time to have a wiggle but then I’m on third baby and feeling slight fluttering a since 7/8 weeks but getting stronger now. My two love feeling their baby brother or sister having a good old wiggle!! Mine also seems to like when I have a bath, the warm water seems to wake baby up lol!!
@MrsP13 due date 8/7/20 gender tbc
@Mama2be9 due date 16/7/20
💕Girl💕
@Mama2be9 due date 16/7/20
💕Girl💕
@Mama2be9 I'm due 24/07/2020 and gender tbc although I really think a little girl😘
@Nevesmummy aww, feeling the baby moving around must be so amazing! I cant wait to feel my little bean! I might have felt something while laying down last night but it could have been gas too! This is my first so not sure what Its supposed to feel like yet!!
@Mama2be9 due date 16/7/20
💕Girl💕
@Mama2be9 I'm due 24/07/2020 and gender tbc although I really think a little girl😘
@thinkingpositive1 due on 7/7/20
21 days till we find out the gender!!
So I need some advise ladies!! My job is to care for a non-verbal autistic boy (15yrs) and his kid sister who’s 10yrs. I work late afternoons to evening 3-7p. I’m 15 weeks pregnant and concerned about getting really sick and it harming my baby.
This week on Monday, the mother had the stomach bug. I happened to not go in Monday and Tuesday because I was ridiculously exhausted. Maybe my intuition steered me clear from exposure. I picked the kids up Wednesday and today. I came in today and the father was now sick with the stomach bug. I know I’m a caregiver and it’s my job to come in but now that I’m pregnant I’m so concerned with my health and the health and safety of my baby.
The mother felt we needed to have a talk about the whole sick thing and what’s expected of me. As a caregiver I’m expected to come in even when they are all sick, and they’d love it if I’d come in when I’m sick. But if I’m sick, I stay home, rest and take care of myself. I am not one to push through. They especially need me when they are sick bc that’s when they need me most. I totally get this. At the same time, being pregnant with a compromised immune system and needing to be careful not to let my core temp go above 100.4 when I’m already running higher, 99.9 due to being pregnant, makes me reconsider this whole job!
I explained my concerns with being pregnant and needing to be more careful around sickness and the mother dismissed me by saying she did all theses things when she was pregnant, she got sick most of the time, and was in the hospital at one point. Pushing through her limitations and not taking care of herself. She ended up on bed rest from falling off a ladder and breaking her ankle! This is not me. I’m the opposite. Self care and a healthy lifestyle, not over doing it, and listening to my body is my way.
We came to some understanding and since she was going to be home the rest of the evening, she said I could leave, but she said it very reluctantly. She would have liked it if I stayed so that I could keep the laundry going and clean their dishes. But I’m sorry, I am not going to expose me and my baby to the stomach bug just so I can keep their laundry going and put their dishes in the f***ing dishwasher! If I were sick with a highly contagious bug and had a caregiver who was pregnant or not, but especially one who is pregnant, I would not have them come in. Period. I wouldn’t want to expose them. I told her this very boldly, but in a nice way.
I feel frustrated and concerned. I feel they were inconsiderate of me and my baby and this feels awful. I know I am the employee and it’s my job, but I just wouldn’t ask someone to come in. I feel they don’t really care about my needs and only about their own. And of course, I am working for them and that’s how it is. But this a job where I’ve been working for their family, taking care of their kids for over 2 years. There is some bit of family vibes going on, but when this happened, it felt there were none.
I’m just really considering quitting bc of it all. I am at a higher risk working there while pregnant and I’ve been looking forward to moving on for sometime now. I was going to move on when baby came anyway, but now I’m thinking to go sooner. I have another job but will need to find something else so we can save before baby arrives and I’m not working. Sorry for the rant and for those that read all the way through, thank you! Any thoughts and suggestions are welcome 🙏
Where as before I was just eating whatever food I could keep down and it mainly unhealthy
I might do the photo ag the week end if I get time but I know it's a
Busy one but I'll it in next week if not
Had the cats tooth done 175 quid later bought a replacement phone 130
Quid hated it sold it only the woman I bought it from lied to me and
Told me it was unlocked and it wasn't so now phone is being returned &
Having to refund the money it's all been stressful hope everyone else
Is well
I work with challenging behaviour also I'm constantly around sickness and the other end cold and flu and at times shingles there ain't a lot you can do tbh carry anti bacteria gel with you at al times wesr ppe when u can u can and even face masks inwish work would provide them they would be so useful when people r coughing in your face are you taking supplements this should help help your immune systemup plenty of high vit foods and drinks xxx
I certainly would not be forced to work somewhere where they had a sickness bug but again maybe our policies are different over here.
They don't sound like very understanding employers so I would perhaps look elsewhere. You don't need the added stress xx
Thanks ladies for your kind words and advice. ❤️
Yes I feel they aren’t being very understanding and that is the part that really bothers me and rubs me the wrong way. I just wouldn’t ask my caregiver to come in if I just had the stomach bug and now my husband has it. The stomach bug is the worst bc it spreads so easily and is so highly contagious. I would want my employee to stay away so they could avoid it. The dishes and laundry aren’t an emergency that needs to be dealt with. They can wait until everyone is healthier. The mother really kind of gave it to me yesterday about how I need to just deal with them being sick and if I can come in when I’m sick that would be great too. I guess when you need help, sick help is still help.
I just operate so differently and don’t push through. If I’m sick, I slow down, listen to my body and it’s needs, and I take really good care of myself. Now that I’m pregnant I practice that even more so. And I often do not fall sick.
Sorry to hear about your employer not being so considerate to your feelings/opinion.
It's always best to do what you think is right, our gut is usually right!!
Where I work there was a cold/stomach bug going around a little while ago, luckily I didnt catch it, but I was researching incase I did lol. Apparently the cold virus does not cross the placenta so baby will be safe, however as being pregnant and having a cold it might take us longer to get over it!
I feel like there is so much more to worry about now being pregnant...
Maybe you can start to look for another job and just do your best to stay healthy and avoid too much contact in the meantime??
In the 2 years you have worked for them have you gone in when they were sick before you were pregnant??
me if they are sick and for them to be clear of that sickness for at least 24 hours before I come in.