Huggies Potty Training Webchat, 14 June 10, 12-1pm

Trying to potty train your toddler? Join our expert Huggies Heather Welford for our webchat on Monday 14 June, from 12-1pm.

If you can't make the chat, feel free to post your query below and Heather will endeavour to answer as many questions on the day...

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  • Hi Heather

    My son is 2yrs 11mths and we're deep into potty training at the moment.
    When he's naked on the bottom-half he's 100% reliable with the potty, when he has loose trousers/shorts or pants on he's 70% but when he's in pants & trousers he just forgets he's not wearing a nappy.
    Is it just a case of patience and perseverance or is there a way I could help him?

    Thanks
    Liz
  • Hi,heather

    my son is 3 and potty trained for the past month except night times,hes not wanting to wear a nappy at night but the week we tried without he was wet every night,luckily we have pads that go underneath

    Is there something were not doing right or could try/should try to help him be nappy free at nights,he goes to bed at 8 story them sleep for 8.30 and will go to the toilet before he goes to bed no problem,do we stop a drink after 7 or get him up in the night for another wee,hes not the most happiest child being woken lol i dont think he would be very impressed with that but I'm willing to try it

    thanks you Lisa
  • Welcome to today's webchat on Potty Training! Heather Welford (in association with Huggies) will be here in about 5 mins to answer all your questions...
  • My 2 1/2 yr old is doing really well with his potty training, but we're really struggling when out and about. He's petrified of going on the toilet so I take his potty everywhere with us, but if I take him into the toilets to use his potty he just cries and clings to me and refuses to go near the potty. Any tips on getting him used to going on the toilet or for using the potty when out & about?

    Thankyou becci
  • Hi, I am here - coupla mins late as I had log in 'issues' image

    Happy to answer your queries here and will get to work on the questions already posted.

    Do post in this thread from now on or I will drown in open windows!!

    Heather
  • Hi Heather

    My son is 2yrs 11mths and we're deep into potty training at the moment.
    When he's naked on the bottom-half he's 100% reliable with the potty, when he has loose trousers/shorts or pants on he's 70% but when he's in pants & trousers he just forgets he's not wearing a nappy.
    Is it just a case of patience and perseverance or is there a way I could help him?

    Thanks
    Liz
    Hi, Liz - your son is just about getting it, from the sound of it.

    I think you have it right - patience and perseverence with lots of reminders and praise when he keeps his trousers and pants dry. Think about staying inpants and trs all the time now - avoid the confusion.
  • Hi,heather

    my son is 3 and potty trained for the past month except night times,hes not wanting to wear a nappy at night but the week we tried without he was wet every night,luckily we have pads that go underneath

    Is there something were not doing right or could try/should try to help him be nappy free at nights,he goes to bed at 8 story them sleep for 8.30 and will go to the toilet before he goes to bed no problem,do we stop a drink after 7 or get him up in the night for another wee,hes not the most happiest child being woken lol i dont think he would be very impressed with that but I'm willing to try it

    thanks you Lisa

    Lisa, he is still quite young to be dry at night. Most three year olds simply don't have the mature bladder to go through, or to wake up with a full bladder. My suggestion would be to leave it for a few months - don't 'lift' him to wee at night. All this does is teach him to wee in his sleep, which is the opposite of what you want, I'm thinking!
  • My 2 1/2 yr old is doing really well with his potty training, but we're really struggling when out and about. He's petrified of going on the toilet so I take his potty everywhere with us, but if I take him into the toilets to use his potty he just cries and clings to me and refuses to go near the potty. Any tips on getting him used to going on the toilet or for using the potty when out & about?

    Thankyou becci

    Hi, Becci. This is such a common issue at the start of potty training and even a bit further in - you might already have thought of using training pants like Pull ups to help him through this stage and to avoid carting the blinkin' potty everywhere.....he might be ok about using the loo if he is comfortable on it, by the way, and you could practise at home with holding him on really close and comfortably. Some children feel ok about the loo if they have a seat they can sit on (the small seats that fit in the loo, which are easier than the potty to take with you). He will grow out of this, though, and you can help him by staying calm and confident.
  • Hope I haven't missed anyone's question out!

    Main thing to remember about potty training is that it's a combination of physical and emotional maturity, and you're asking a toddler not only to remember what to do, but to recognise the sensations of needing to go, and to manage clothing, and to want to co-operate with you in something he may not be all that bothered about. You can change some of these things - making clothing easier, for instance, and making the learning fun and enjoyable, but you can't 'make' bladder and bowels 'grow up' any more quickly than they're able to do.
  • Just been browsing the threads in the potty training folder here. It's understandable when there are concerns, as sometimes, toddlers become a bit distressed about it, and parents, too, worry about school and nursery and 'what if he's not trained?'.....summer is a traditional time to have a go, or to have another go if you've tried before and stopped. Try the 'potty dance' - there's a link at the top of the potty training forum page - which is easy and fun (I've seen a whole bunch of toddlers joining in with this and they love it) and takes some of the pressure off you both.

    Don't be shy with your questions - I am raring to go image

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  • im not potty training as dd is only 5mths, but wanted to know what age is best to start? or are there any signs to look out for to know lo is ready?

    thanks in advance x

    Hi, miasmummy!

    Yes - you have a little way to go before thinking about doing anything active about potty training yet. It's a good question about signs, though - you can start looking for them from about two or so, and you'd be looking for evidence that your child is not weeing very often - this is an indication of bladder maturity. You'd also be looking for an understanding of language, so you can explain in words what you're hoping your child will do. There's a useful page which gives a checklist of 'what to look for' that Huggies Pull-Ups put together and I will find it and come back and do a link on edit.

    ON edit: here's the link [[http://www.pottytraining.co.uk/when-to-start]]

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  • Time is almost up but I will check in here later and pick up any further questions - thanks for the excellent and varied questions and happy potty training to all!
  • My daughter is 27mths and we are just starting out with potty training, in the house we now have big girl pants on, I ask every 10-15 mins is she needs and it's always no. After 2-3 hours of being dry I then start to worry she is holding it in as if she had her pull ups on / nappy she would have defo gone. Can she get a infection if she hold's the toilet in for to long and would this be a sign she is not ready yet? ON the other hand this monring without me prompting when I was getting ready I watched her get her toilet seat our and pull her pants down herself and sat on the toilet but no end result. Im in no rush to Potty Train as she is still young but also do not want to miss the boat. Many thanks in advance.
  • My daughter 26 months. She has been late doing everything, but gets around to it eventually. She now tells me when to change her nappy now and hides behind the curtain when she is doing a number two. However she refuses to not have her "nap nap" and creates quite a fuss if we don't put one on. As I said she was late crawling and walking and has hardly any language at all (which we are seeing a specialist about, she knows exactly whats going on but can't form sounds very well). So my question is should I push her gently into it or just wait until she is ready. Its just seems to be at exactly the right stage, but I don't want to make it traumatic for her. My mother thinks she should be clean now and it pressuring me (in a nice way!)
  • My daughter is 27mths and we are just starting out with potty training, in the house we now have big girl pants on, I ask every 10-15 mins is she needs and it's always no. After 2-3 hours of being dry I then start to worry she is holding it in as if she had her pull ups on / nappy she would have defo gone. Can she get a infection if she hold's the toilet in for to long and would this be a sign she is not ready yet? ON the other hand this monring without me prompting when I was getting ready I watched her get her toilet seat our and pull her pants down herself and sat on the toilet but no end result. Im in no rush to Potty Train as she is still young but also do not want to miss the boat. Many thanks in advance.

    Hi - just squeezing you in here! Just a hint - reminders every 10-15 mins are a little over the top, maybe? You probably don't need to be quite so attentive and the risk is she could get a bit bored with potty taIk. think it's really unlikely she is deliberately withholding urine at this age (it can happen with poos, but not wees) . I think a nice, relaxed approach, with occasional reminders and lots of praise when she uses the loo is the way to go (and well done to her for getting her seat and managing her clothing by herself - what a clever little girl!). I would think this is an issue that will resolve itself very soon.
  • Thanks so much to everyone involved in today's webchat.

    Thanks to Heather for all your advice and support.

    To help get your little one into the swing of potty training, Huggies have devised the Potty Dance, a teaching tool that make potty training something you and little one can enjoy and have fun with. For more information and for your chance to win a holiday, courtesy of Huggies click the link for more info: http://www.babyexpert.com/Toddler-&-Preschool/It's-potty-time!/v3

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  • My daughter 26 months. She has been late doing everything, but gets around to it eventually. She now tells me when to change her nappy now and hides behind the curtain when she is doing a number two. However she refuses to not have her "nap nap" and creates quite a fuss if we don't put one on. As I said she was late crawling and walking and has hardly any language at all (which we are seeing a specialist about, she knows exactly whats going on but can't form sounds very well). So my question is should I push her gently into it or just wait until she is ready. Its just seems to be at exactly the right stage, but I don't want to make it traumatic for her. My mother thinks she should be clean now and it pressuring me (in a nice way!)

    Hi, Truly-G. It sounds like your daughter's behaviour is well within normal - no need for your mum to be thinking anything else, and if she starts to say these things in front of your little girl she needs to be asked to stop doing so. The hiding behind the curtain could be a modest need for privacy or a feeling of embarrassment that she's doing something not approved of - and that's not helpful.

    Your daughter knows when she has done a poo and she knows when she is about to do one - excellent start. She is aware of her bodily functions and connects what is in her nappy with what comes out of her. Sometimes, toddlers at this stage can be encouraged with Pull-Ups, as a halfway house between nappies and pants. Or they will happily sit on the potty with a nappy on - another halfway house. They can then move to a stage where the nappy's on but not fastened on both sides...step by step to actually not having a nappy on at all.

    This is all easier for you because you know, and she knows, when she has the urge to go, which is useful.

    Good luck with this - I don't think it will be long before you make progress. You have the right idea about not pressurising.

  • Lisa, he is still quite young to be dry at night. Most three year olds simply don't have the mature bladder to go through, or to wake up with a full bladder. My suggestion would be to leave it for a few months - don't 'lift' him to wee at night. All this does is teach him to wee in his sleep, which is the opposite of what you want, I'm thinking!

    thanks Heather,i wasnt sure really on what age to start,i was just going by him not wanting his "horrible nappies" on,seems he does actually listen to me haha Lisa
  • HI Heather

    I am probally way too late but if you do pick this up any help would be appreciated.

    Sorry, this will be a long one.

    Reece was 3 in Feb and I have tried over several months to train him without success. When we first got the potty he sat on it, weed, said mummy Ive weed in my potty and then refused to go near it since. If you try and place him on it he just fights with you.

    I've previously had a package of care from the hv but she advised me to leave it as it wasnt working. He is a very clever little boy - he can read all his letters and numbers, can count piles of things up to 10, and his speech is amazing, the hv at his 2 year check said he was like a 4 year old. I think he is using the potty to control me, and that he has realised that he is getting more attention by not going on it than going on it.

    A few months ago I decided no more nappies and it was a nightmare. 9 weeks later and after not one wee on the potty I gave up. I have tried to coax him on the potty - bribary, things in it to wee on, sitting on my knee with the potty underneath, weeing in a bucket, weeing on a plant outside.

    I've tried saying that I expect more from him and he can do better than this, no difference.

    Ive ignored him. When he weed on the floor I changed him without speaking to him at all and cleaned it up without any comment, so he is not getting any attention from me for this behaviour. Then I sat his sister on the potty and sang Amber's on the potty and did big cheers. He didnt like this one little bit, but he still wouldnt go near it.

    I have honestly never met another child that is as stubbon as he is. He was doing really well with his manners until his great gran pulled him up on not saying please and has refused point blank to say please or thank you since. He says that he cant say it. He knows what he is doing to the point that he can stop a wee midflow if I try and catch it.

    Any advice would be much appreciated and sorry again that its so long. Jo xx
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