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Baby number 2
Hi I have a daughter who has just turned 2 last week. We have always said we want 2 children but due to childcare money etc we have to wait to get pregnant around the time my daughter is on her way to school or about to start.
Only problem is I hurrendously want one now to the point I think of nothing else to the point it's making me quite miserable at the thought of waiting what could be another 18 months.
Then I keep having these hurrendous thoughts I shouldn't have one cause what if something bad happens during or after pregnancy (god knows why) which I couldn't cope with.
Im worried im not giving my daughter the time she needs as im to busy thinking about number 2.
Am i just thinking this because in reality my little girl is a toddler and not a baby.
Then I think what if it takes me ages we were do lucky with out daughter we got caught first time but I am 31 so not getting any younger.
Have so many thoughts and bad thoughts running round. HELP.
Only problem is I hurrendously want one now to the point I think of nothing else to the point it's making me quite miserable at the thought of waiting what could be another 18 months.
Then I keep having these hurrendous thoughts I shouldn't have one cause what if something bad happens during or after pregnancy (god knows why) which I couldn't cope with.
Im worried im not giving my daughter the time she needs as im to busy thinking about number 2.
Am i just thinking this because in reality my little girl is a toddler and not a baby.
Then I think what if it takes me ages we were do lucky with out daughter we got caught first time but I am 31 so not getting any younger.
Have so many thoughts and bad thoughts running round. HELP.
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The bad feelings im sure will go away I hope but you do see so many bad things happening to children especially here about them a lot on facebook its just heart breaking.
I think I will have to see how things go but I would love one now. xxx
If you did have another baby in 9 months time, you would cope somehow. Money might be tight for a while, but somehow you'll cope. I have 2 girls and 2 boys and I am 37 now, otherwise I would love more (as my baby is only 19 months)
Would your husband feel more ready in another year? Could you meet halfway and wait another few months?
Good luck, whatever you decide.
Gosh 4 children my sister has 4 boys now cant see me wanting any more after 2 but never say never I suppose.
Thanks your help lets see if I can get past this lull im feeling have a few holidays and weddings next year so fingers crossed will go quickly and before you no it. xx
Hi. We struggled due to childcare cost but then we decided sod it, we'll find a way. With me staying at home the tax credits were adjusted & we actually work out exactly the same as we did before. Having said that my old job was on rubbish pay. We had Mia then tried again after 9 months & was lucky to get pregnant straight away. Since Ava arrived I'm a ful-time mum & part-time student & Lee has changed jobs to have better hours.
I know what you mean with worrying about random things. I bought 5 litres of washing up liquid & things like that in case I had to stay in hospital for ages as Lee can't drive. Things have a way of working out. I worried Mia would feel pushed out with having another but it actually seems easier now there are 2 of them.
I hope you are able to go with whatever you decide. Good luck & happy new year. X
Sounds like im answering my own question really in that i cant afford one but this gut wrenching feeling I have to have another baby is making me sick I want one so much. Suppose should be greatfull for the little health toddler I have and be patient. xxx
There never seems to be enough money spare to afford another child but it works out somehow! Our youngest girls were not planned and I panicked how I would afford too. It meant cutting back on some things and trying to live to a budget but it worked out in the end and you adjust to it. Don't forget you can have your daughter in nursery/pre-school for 15hrs for free once she is 3 yrs old and in my experience the eldest child costs a lot more than their younger siblings. You usually already have all the expensive basics you need from last time and can reuse them.
Hope it all goes well for you! xx
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Lucky with terms times as little girl born end of December so she will start January after that.
Im still terribly broody and so wanting and little baby and still worried bad things will happen but I have a busy year im going to enjoy my little girl and get saving for number 2 (very sensible i know)
Thanks for all the advise and help glad to know im not strange. x