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g/c sorry! Just want some advice from those with 3!!
Hi,
I have Henry who will be 3 xmas eve and Isabelle who will be 1 in October and hubby and I decided it would be best to settle at 2 seeing as we have one of each!! However we are both from large families and always wanted lots of children and now we are both feeling a little bit broody!
I sold most of my baby stuff as an attempt to convince myself not to have any no more babies! We are financially stable allbeit things are a little tight, but aren't they always! We have a fourth bedroom which is really a box room but still usable as a bedroom. Ideally I'd like a new baby to share with one of the older ones but it feels like we might be upsetting the family dynamic and squeezing another one in when 2 is just fine!
I also feel as though we may just be wanting to satisfy our broody feelings and not listening to our heads as I am so happy with the healthy children we already have and almost feel like having another would be greedy!!
Has anyone else had these feelings but persevered anyway? I'm sure if we did have another we wouldn't look back, it just feels like a daunting decision because it will affect more of us this time! We knew we wanted more than one for sure so decicing to have DD was a no brainer! Perhaps it's because this one would be a big change for everyone I'm worried about not having enough time for the two I already have as well as a baby! I know children are adaptable but still worry!
Is it really much harder to go from 2 to 3 and which age gaps work for you? Not sure whether to wait a few more years or go for it now!
Any experiences much appreciated!!
xxx
I have Henry who will be 3 xmas eve and Isabelle who will be 1 in October and hubby and I decided it would be best to settle at 2 seeing as we have one of each!! However we are both from large families and always wanted lots of children and now we are both feeling a little bit broody!
I sold most of my baby stuff as an attempt to convince myself not to have any no more babies! We are financially stable allbeit things are a little tight, but aren't they always! We have a fourth bedroom which is really a box room but still usable as a bedroom. Ideally I'd like a new baby to share with one of the older ones but it feels like we might be upsetting the family dynamic and squeezing another one in when 2 is just fine!
I also feel as though we may just be wanting to satisfy our broody feelings and not listening to our heads as I am so happy with the healthy children we already have and almost feel like having another would be greedy!!
Has anyone else had these feelings but persevered anyway? I'm sure if we did have another we wouldn't look back, it just feels like a daunting decision because it will affect more of us this time! We knew we wanted more than one for sure so decicing to have DD was a no brainer! Perhaps it's because this one would be a big change for everyone I'm worried about not having enough time for the two I already have as well as a baby! I know children are adaptable but still worry!
Is it really much harder to go from 2 to 3 and which age gaps work for you? Not sure whether to wait a few more years or go for it now!
Any experiences much appreciated!!
xxx
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I would have had another if we had the space/finance but it wasnt to be!
Anyway, I found the transition from 2-3 non excistant, I actually just carried on with my normal routine and baby just slotted in each time. while some things took a little longer to get done or it took more preparation while getting things ready it just worked.
I have 2yrs between each of my first 3 children and 4yrs between my last 2, I love having them close together but I also like having the 4yr gap as it means 3 are much more indipendant and not so needy when I have to deal with the baby.
I too had sold all my baby stuff after no'3 so just went shopping on a budget, looked for some second hand, brought only essentials and swapped stuff with other mums who's children were getting to be an age to use my childrens things for baby stuff for me! I think after 2 you realise exactly what you need and what you will use rather than getting everything and it sitting there for yrs lol!
Its a little hard, quite stressful alot of times, but it is without a doubt the best thing I have ever done in my life, as I am sure all the ladies on here will tell you..( oh and i cant get through a day without these girls support and understanding too, they are fab)!!
I have 4, 2yrs between the 1st 2, 4.5yrs between 2 and 3 and 2.5yrs between 3 and 4. I had to buy the essentials for no3 as we had gotten rid of a lot of baby things after no2, but i've reused them now with no4 lol.
Good Luck and Best Wishes
Jo xxx