First IVF appointment - Q
MrD and I are having IUI treatment at hospital #1. If we don't get our BFP after four rounds of IUI, then we are due to start IVF in 2010, at hospital #2. (Both hospitals know about the other course of treatment, as it is all on the NHS - #1 referred us to #2)
We have received a date for our initial IVF consultation at hospital #2, which is at the end of this month. The appointment letter says MrD and I have to arrange some tests before that (nothing unusual - internal scan for me, and SA for MrD - after 12 months of investigations/treatment we're getting ever so blase about this testing malarky).
Does MrD need to come along to that consultation? The letter is addressed to me and doesn't make any reference to MrD being there (!!). It is difficult for him to get time away from work, and after my meltdown last month when he didn't want to come along to my IUI insemination, I am getting used to doing most of this fertility stuff on my own (him providing moral support and a pot of fresh swimmers when necessary).
Any thoughts? I've got no problem reporting the details back to MrD, and obviously he is interested, but just wondered if he needed to be there for any reason?
Thanks
We have received a date for our initial IVF consultation at hospital #2, which is at the end of this month. The appointment letter says MrD and I have to arrange some tests before that (nothing unusual - internal scan for me, and SA for MrD - after 12 months of investigations/treatment we're getting ever so blase about this testing malarky).
Does MrD need to come along to that consultation? The letter is addressed to me and doesn't make any reference to MrD being there (!!). It is difficult for him to get time away from work, and after my meltdown last month when he didn't want to come along to my IUI insemination, I am getting used to doing most of this fertility stuff on my own (him providing moral support and a pot of fresh swimmers when necessary).
Any thoughts? I've got no problem reporting the details back to MrD, and obviously he is interested, but just wondered if he needed to be there for any reason?
Thanks
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I'm very glad My husband came along to the first Ivf Appointment. There is so much information to take in, In such a short period of time... IVF is so much more detailed than IUI. With a lot more tests to be done.
We are just about to start our first cycle of ICSI. You just need your Mr D on 2 occasions lol...
Emma x
Your timing is impeccable. I am on CD 11 today, and having had the hcg injection yesterday (to trigger OV) I had the insemination today. I'm getting OV twinges as I type, so I guess the egg will be popping out shortly.
The insemination sadly wasn't at all comfortable - I was very unlucky, as they had to use the tenaculum to grasp my cervix. The whole thing took 20-25 minutes, which was not nice. The nurses were nice, but ow, ow, ow. It was a case of many deep breaths and reminding myself to keep focused on the end goal.
Hope you are doing well.
xx
On the other hand, I do think it was good that he was there at our initial appointment. He isn't much of a one for Google, and he hasn't read or learnt anything about the IVF process unless I've either told it to him or shoved a piece of paper under his nose. For that reason, it was really helpful that he was with me when the consultant and then the nurse went through all the basics with us and explained what would be happening.
So I suppose if your hubby is willing to do some research for himself and it's really hard for him to get the time off work, it should be OK if he's not there - but if he possibly can be, I would recommend it.
Good luck xx
I'm ok. Feeling pretty positive lately as we have or 1st IVF appt next week. Am getting nervous that something will stop us from doing IVF now. I literally worry about EVERYTHING!!! It's quite exhausting. Am pretty excited as well though....just nice to know we're getting one step closer xxxx
So thanks everyone and I feel glad at the way it has turned out.
(Of course, there is a chance we won't need it - there is this IUI cycle and a further two to go, so who knows).
Thanks and have brill weekends.
xx