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Elective C section and annoying midwifes UPDATED
Hi ladies just need a rant
I'm so annoyed had my 25 week appointment today with a different midwife and yet again I'm getting asked my reasons for wanting an Elective C section and its really starting to pee me off.
I had my daughter 5 years ago by emergency c section due to her being back to back (this i only found out at my consultant appointment) It was a horrible experience something which i don't want to go through again i dilated fine but was left pushing her for over 2 hours then forceps and then before i know it my husband was rushed out the room and i was put to sleep.. I didn't get to hear my baby's first cry or to cuddle her i had her at 03.21 my husband left at 6am and i was left in a room by myself in total shock not able to move i could hear my baby cry i could see the back of the head but could not touch her or reach out to her, My first cuddle with her was at 8.30 nearly 5 hours after she was born and i really really do not want to go through that all again.
Now i feel like I'm a bad mother because i won't try for a VBAC nearly every midwife i have spoken to have given me the lecture on giving birth than opting for an elective c section and it's really starting to pee me off.
Does any one else feel the same way ? i Hate having to explain my reasons as every time i think of my daughters birth it brings back bad memories.. So far i have had to tell 4 midwife's my reasons and yet i feel as though my reasons are not great for wanting to have an Elective C section which really gets my blood boiling.
Sorry rant over just needed to get it off my chest
[Modified by: Novembermummy on 21 October 2010 13:28:33 ]
I'm so annoyed had my 25 week appointment today with a different midwife and yet again I'm getting asked my reasons for wanting an Elective C section and its really starting to pee me off.
I had my daughter 5 years ago by emergency c section due to her being back to back (this i only found out at my consultant appointment) It was a horrible experience something which i don't want to go through again i dilated fine but was left pushing her for over 2 hours then forceps and then before i know it my husband was rushed out the room and i was put to sleep.. I didn't get to hear my baby's first cry or to cuddle her i had her at 03.21 my husband left at 6am and i was left in a room by myself in total shock not able to move i could hear my baby cry i could see the back of the head but could not touch her or reach out to her, My first cuddle with her was at 8.30 nearly 5 hours after she was born and i really really do not want to go through that all again.
Now i feel like I'm a bad mother because i won't try for a VBAC nearly every midwife i have spoken to have given me the lecture on giving birth than opting for an elective c section and it's really starting to pee me off.
Does any one else feel the same way ? i Hate having to explain my reasons as every time i think of my daughters birth it brings back bad memories.. So far i have had to tell 4 midwife's my reasons and yet i feel as though my reasons are not great for wanting to have an Elective C section which really gets my blood boiling.
Sorry rant over just needed to get it off my chest
[Modified by: Novembermummy on 21 October 2010 13:28:33 ]
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Wishing you lots of luck xx
Em x
induced, hyperstimulation, back to back, had water broken, mec in waters, baby distressed, 2nd degree tear, episiotomy, focepts delivery and hemmorage (sp) left with pelvic floor problems
When i first saw my midwife i told her i wanted a c section this time and was told there was no chance and i should forget it. I was then allowed to see a consultant at 27 weeks due to the hemmorage and she was brilliant, talked me through everything and agreed that a c section was the best option for me this time.
I have anti natal again in a few weeks and im waiting for the funny looks/comments but also cant wait to tell her the consultant agreed with me lol
Dont worry about it hun, c sections are not given out lightly, like pp said just tell them to read your notes xx
good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and with your section x
I have now got my tough boots and think Hormones are kicking in ha ha ha so going to stick by my decision and tell them I'm not interested in what they have to say.
I wouldn't mind but i never even got a lecture from the consultant she was all for it and even said she had an emergency and with her 2nd opted for a Elective so didn't blame me.. Just hope the consultant at my 36 week appointment is as understanding.
Aww Emma babe that must be horrendous poor love xx Yep defo going to tell the next midwife that asks me why.. I'm too posh to push ha ha ha xxx
Thanks again ladies for all your replies cheered me up xx
at the end of the day its your choice, and you get it either way, i opted for a VBAC (which is less common than an elective section) and got sick of them saying, 'well done, you're trying for a natural birth'. BUT i only opted for a VBAC because i had had 2 vaginal births prior to my section so i know it can be done and also i had a just turned 2 yr old, if my section was my first birth i don't know what my choice would've been.
xxxxx
I sympathise with having a general anaesthetic as i found that the worst of all as waking up not pregnant yet not knowing if you have given birth is horrendous
It sounds like you had an awful experience with your first and seems a perfectly good enough reason to want an elective this time.
With the midwife I would just be really adamant that you do not wish to discuss it with her and to either read your notes or go and speak to the other midwives that you have had.
Ive got my appt with the consultant in 3 weeks (20week scan) and want to have an ECS due to hvaing a bicornuate uterus and the high possibility of baby being breech or back to back. So to save the stress and the anxiety of b-day i want an ECS. I just feel i need to convince everyone know that I know what I want and whats involved and Im not going to leave the appt till the consultant agrees! Oh the hormones!!!
Good luck sweetie, stay strong!
I'm now 32 weeks with No 2 & want a C-Sec again i did my back in at begining of yr so got trapped nerves & probs with a few of the bottom back discs we saw a vbac midwife in aug & she has said i need a C-Sec which i was really relieved with but we have an app on 29th Oct to c consultant & should get a date but terrified that they won't let me now have another C-Sec but i really couldn't do a natural birth the thought scares the shit out of me so hoping in 2 weeks i get the answer i really want
Sorry for the rant/moan just gettin scared now
Billie xx
I have my consultant appointment this Wednesday so everything crossed they say YES, How ever after my last 34 week Midwife appointment the midwife did seem to think little man is Back to Back and i really hope she is right so at least i have something to back me up as i don't want history to repeat itself.
Will keep you up to date, Good luck Mrsallen08 and Oaksmummy
The consultant was understanding she told me she would not bully me and if that's what i want then that's what i get
3 weeks 1 day and counting xx
The 2 consultants that i have had have been wonderful and understanding its the midwife's I have had a problem with GRRR but i know have my own way and one last appointment at the midwife then done
I was having a planned section from day 1 as I had identical twins who shared a placenta and, after much research, this was the safest route. My consultants (I saw a different one every 2 weeks but thats a different story!) all agreed with me (bar 1) and the section it was. However, the midwives I encoutered were all very critical (outwardly!) of my decision. I did say to the last one that she needed to do more research, as I had, because then she wouldnt even dream of questioning my motives! That shut her up! lol
Hope everything goes well for you xxx
Im seeing the consultants tomorrow for the first time so hoping they will agree with me for a PLANNED section! Writing down all my evidence today so I acn be prepared! Feels like I am going for an exam!