2 C-Sections and VBAC?
Hi Ladies,
Jus after a little advice. Iv had two children my son is 2 and after a long labour and getting all the way 2 10cm i had to have an emergency c-section coz he got stuck and was then in distress. I was convinced i wanted a natural birth after that coz i felt like id failed first time round, however with my second baby after been promised a sweep at 39wks and then been messed around by my hospital i decided i didnt trust going for a VBAC and at the very last min i opted for a planned section. At the time i was pleased i had dun because my daughter weighed a whooping 8lb 14oz, however now im kind of regretting having another section especially now me and OH have been talking about having another baby in a couple of years time. I dnt want to have another section i want to have at least had one of my children naturally coz i feel like iv missed out on the most natural thing in the world and i really want to experience child birth (i know that mite sound strange).
Any way my question to u ladies is, is it possible to have a natural birth after two previous sections and im a the only one who feels like abit of a failure having 2 children and not yet given birth naturally. Any advice and comments wud be greatly appreciated, thanks xxx
[Modified by: kerrymc on 27 March 2009 17:24:57 ]
Jus after a little advice. Iv had two children my son is 2 and after a long labour and getting all the way 2 10cm i had to have an emergency c-section coz he got stuck and was then in distress. I was convinced i wanted a natural birth after that coz i felt like id failed first time round, however with my second baby after been promised a sweep at 39wks and then been messed around by my hospital i decided i didnt trust going for a VBAC and at the very last min i opted for a planned section. At the time i was pleased i had dun because my daughter weighed a whooping 8lb 14oz, however now im kind of regretting having another section especially now me and OH have been talking about having another baby in a couple of years time. I dnt want to have another section i want to have at least had one of my children naturally coz i feel like iv missed out on the most natural thing in the world and i really want to experience child birth (i know that mite sound strange).
Any way my question to u ladies is, is it possible to have a natural birth after two previous sections and im a the only one who feels like abit of a failure having 2 children and not yet given birth naturally. Any advice and comments wud be greatly appreciated, thanks xxx
[Modified by: kerrymc on 27 March 2009 17:24:57 ]
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I know how you feel, i really wanted to experience a 'proper birth' and felt like a failure even tho i knew i was lucky to have my beautiful children.
I am ttc and have been told that they recommend a planned c section and i wldnt go against medical knowledge but thats just me. I have read accounts of ppl that have had VBA2C but most of them had had a sucessful v birth before the two sections. i have researched it a bit and there are some new postive research however i have other complications which rule it out.
look at http://www.vbac.co.uk/stories/story.php?s=zoe and
http://www.caesarean.org.uk/ but there are loads of sites
good luck
xxDBxx
what the others have said is spot on - it is not really recommended to have a VBAC after 2 c/s.
however, you cannot be forced to have a c/s! i would seriously consider what your Dr tells you though!!
i dont want any of this to appear patronising at all, so please dont take it like that - i suppose i'm just trying to look at things from a different angle for you to stop you feeling guilty / regretful.
think back to why you got pregnant - it wasnt to experience pregnancy / labour / childbirth but to have a baby.
you had a toil with your first, before having little option but to have the c/s, to get the safe delivery of your baby - you gave it a damn good shot before having the c/s - not just because (the saying i hate!!) "too posh to push!". although i appreciate you feeling you were pushed into the elective c/s (that wasnt fair), you still got what you came for - a healthy baby.
like i said, i dont mean any of this in a patronising way, and i'm not saying think yourself lucky you have your children, because that is nowhere near the mark, i'm just trying to say (i suppose) that you did what was best for yourself or your baby at the time. it doesnt matter how they got out, all that matters is that you love them! (and i know you do!!)
please dont be offended by this, like i said i just dont want you to feel let down at all.
xxxxxxxxxx
Thanks for ur veiws i think its really gud to see it from somebody elses point of veiw, if i mention it to anyone in my family they just look at me like im mad for wanting to go thru labour and child birth (i just feel like im missing out on a big part on the having babies experience) xxx
Feeling are not right or wrong, they just are.
I feel like a failure even thou i know i am not, it will take many years to get over my 2 sections emotionally as they are something i never wanted.
I want to try for VBA2C even though i will be told of the risks. I was induced after my first section so i really dont feel that i would be in any more risk next time if i dont get pre-eclampsia again and go into labour naturally. I think i might see a consultant before i next get pregnant to see what he says about trying for a natural birth.