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Options for how to give birth (sorry long post)
With my 1st I ended up with an emergency c section following failed induction due to pre eclampsia not being diagnosed until the very end of the pregnancy.
We ended up in hospital for a week after due to my still being poorly after giving birth then baby having an infection. Due to all of his I ended up with PND as well.
This time I'm under consultant care and being monitored every week, so far we've had no problems.
My dilemma is how to give birth I personally would like to try VBAC but everyone else around me keep pushing me to have another section as they think this will be easier. I personally would rather not as we have a toddler at home who is used to it just being me and him as husband works away during the week. I don't want him getting upset because I can't pick him up like I normally do etc, everytime I mention all of this I just get told we're all here to help etc.
I feel like no one is listening to what I want, and maybe I should just have a section to shut people up.
Any advice would be much appreciated.
We ended up in hospital for a week after due to my still being poorly after giving birth then baby having an infection. Due to all of his I ended up with PND as well.
This time I'm under consultant care and being monitored every week, so far we've had no problems.
My dilemma is how to give birth I personally would like to try VBAC but everyone else around me keep pushing me to have another section as they think this will be easier. I personally would rather not as we have a toddler at home who is used to it just being me and him as husband works away during the week. I don't want him getting upset because I can't pick him up like I normally do etc, everytime I mention all of this I just get told we're all here to help etc.
I feel like no one is listening to what I want, and maybe I should just have a section to shut people up.
Any advice would be much appreciated.
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I'm pregnant with my second. Had an emergency section, and was hospitalised with pre eclampsia after birth. I'm hoping for a VBAC, and that's what my midwife and doctor have recommended. My section went well and my recovery was good too. If I end up having a section again, that's fine (can't control everything!), but I'm hoping for a VBAC as that's what makes me feel better mentally.
If it's friends and family recommending the section, maybe you could look into the medical pros of why a VBAC will benefit you. This might make sense to some people and get them to see things from your point of view.
Definitely try and be strong and choose what you want. You do to want to look back and regret anything. X
"Easier" isnt a reason. C section would be easier for them, and better paid. But might end you with pnd again and that's not easy. If you're physically healthy and the pregnancy is easy have a natural birth.
You can even look into hypno birthing and have an uneducated birth.