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Traumatic birth

milomitchellmilomitchell
in Labour & birth
Hi I gave birth last saturday to a beautiful baby girl after what I feel was a totally horrific labour (to me anyway - I'm sure there are a lot worse stories out there).

Unfortunately, I feel very upset and keep having flashbacks and remembering lots of little details that suddenly pop into my head.

I feel that i am struggling to bond with my baby, although I think she's lovely, I also could take her or leave her...how awful is that??

Does anyone know of any support groups that you know of that I might be able to contact or talk to, I feel I need to work through the story of the birth and work through how I feel about what's happened so far in order to enjoy my baby and start enjoying motherhood.

Thanks. x

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  • twins1twins1
    Hi!

    Firstly, I just want to say I'm sorry you had a bad experience. I also had a very traumatic birth with my last child and am dreading the birth of my next one in August.
    It's great that you recognise the problem and want to do something about it. Your local hospital will have a counsellor available if you feel talking about it will help. Or try www.birthtraumaassociation.org.uk/
    I really hope this helps. xx
  • KerrySept14KerrySept14
    Hi.

    I know exactly where you are coming from as had a bad birth and similar feelings in November last year. My health visiting team were fantastic and helped and supported me so much. I no this can be hit and miss depending on area but it might be worth a phone call to your nearest team.

    Hope it gets easier for you soon, if its any conselation it does get easier with time (well it did for me anyway).

    Take care xxx
  • ThatScottishMumThatScottishMum Regular
    Hey mrs. I cant really help you but saw this post and realised you havnt been posting in the dij forum. I just wanted to say sorry you had such a hard time and hope you get some support that you need. Sending love and hugs xxx
  • WoWbabiesWoWbabies
    hi, sorry u've found the birth difficult. i had what i think was a traumatic birh with ds and my hv put me in touch with a specialist midwife counsillor for a 'borth after thoughts' scheme, it was fantastic, she wnet through all my labour and birth notes to help understand what had happened and why, that lady then referred me for further councilling where i was then diagnosed iwth post traumatic stress. ask ur hv or mw about this, as most areas have a similar service, or contact the haed of midwifery/labour department at ur hospital to see if they an help arrange soemhting. hth xx
  • MillieMoosMummyMillieMoosMummy
    Aaaaw hunni. We are here when you are ready to talk and share x

    Sending you and Jennifer lots of (((HUGS))) x x
  • carysypoocarysypoo
    Hi,

    I had a very similar experience, i had a unexpected ventouse delivery as baby was well and truly stuck! The delivery was truly horrid and although i had the initial 'new baby' glow, that was soon replaced by tears and feelings just like yours.

    I cried every evening at same time and both midwife and health visitor advised this was completely normal. But that didn't make me feel any better about wishing my baby would disappear!!

    he's 4 weeks old now and still cries a lot is suffering from colic, but i feel better! i spoke to birth after thoughts and relied on family and my partner to relieve me when id truly had enough.

    i would recommend having someone help you occasionally with looking after small person, its amazing how sleep helps a lot with making the world seem better!

    your not alone, its wonderful to know i'm not either
  • JFC333JFC333
    Seek help from your GP and HV as this is normal, but don't suffer alone ! babies with traumatic births often suffer colic....our baby girl was born with forceps and had been back to back etc...luckily Cranial Osteopathy cured the colic and I was able to move on. Severeal friends had similar experiences...
  • AlexxanaAlexxana
    Hun i cant help u mutch but can say thi to you u should speak to your doctor about this is bether somethimes talk about this with a porfessional when i had my son i did not felt like this but belive me having a baby is the best thing a woman will have in her life somethimes we have stress but is normal and with time will all get mutch bether wish u really good luck you will see this will pass
  • AlexxanaAlexxana
    Hun i cant help u mutch but can say thi to you u should speak to your doctor about this is bether somethimes talk about this with a porfessional when i had my son i did not felt like this but belive me having a baby is the best thing a woman will have in her life somethimes we have stress but is normal and with time will all get mutch bether wish u really good luck you will see this will pass
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