after a C section???
Hi ladies...
has anyone felt cheated and upset about having to have an emergency c section?
it wasnt until about 2 months i really got upset about it...
They cleaned my baby up before i saw him so i got a little depressed about the fact i didnt see him come from my body... I feel like ive failed because i had the epidural which im sure is the reason why i couldnt give birth because i didnt feel a thing?... (know it sounds silly)..
Can anyone share these views?.. is it normal to feel this way...
has anyone felt cheated and upset about having to have an emergency c section?
it wasnt until about 2 months i really got upset about it...
They cleaned my baby up before i saw him so i got a little depressed about the fact i didnt see him come from my body... I feel like ive failed because i had the epidural which im sure is the reason why i couldnt give birth because i didnt feel a thing?... (know it sounds silly)..
Can anyone share these views?.. is it normal to feel this way...
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I must admit.. i do feel quite down about it sometimes and have been pretty upset. i know i have my son here no matter what but when other women talk of givig birth i cant relate to them which feels rather awkward too...
im in two minds whether to just opt for one next time.. so i know where i stand... as unfortunately i had a long labour then emergency section.
thanks for posting back. i know im not alone in thinking it but its nice to hear it from someone else sometimes (as everyone i know gave birth naturally without drugs etc)...
i feel a bit of a outsider sometimes
you shouldnt feel cheated ex-pregnant lady, your baby is here and is healthy and thats all that should matter xx
Don't feel cheated - just be thankful both you and your baby are safe and well!
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Take care
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Just remember you got pregnant to have a baby not a birth!!
I had emegency c - section a week ago and as long as Jack was okay thats all that mattered to me. The birth is a very short amount of time compared to the rest of he's life - so don't feel cheated or guilty just enjoy your baby.
Caz xxx
I know other people are far worse off so feel awful for even thinking this way..
I really appreciate all your responses. Its given me some comfort.
When I was in labour with my first child, I didn't progress after 15 hours of labour, I only got to 6cms by which time I was in agony (i didn't have an epidural!) and the contractions had no gap between them. I had to have my waters broken by the doctor during labour, along with a drip to speed things up (which obviously didn't work!). By the time I got to theatre, they could have cut me with a rusty knife, I really just wanted to get the baby out at that point. Anyway, my son was born weighing 9lb9oz, which is why he was stuck, but he was delivered safely and I was over the moon. When I got home, I did get upset about the 'feelings of failure' but everyone reassured me that it was more important to have a safe delivery. I have since had another boy, and I was recommended to have an elective section as the same thing could happen again, as I seem to deliver big babies! I had the elective section with him and didn't have the same regrets that I had with my first son. On the 1st October, I had my third child, a little girl and this time, I didn't have any choice, I had to have the elective section and although the recovery is harder this time, again, I don't regret it because my little girl was delivered safely and it was a calm atmosphere and my husband got to cut the cord which made it more like a natural birth. Please don't worry about the feelings you are having. I went through hell too, but I soon got over it and you will too!! You have done a brilliant thing, just by producing another human being...be proud!!
Love Anne-Marie X
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