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how would you feel about doner eggs?
hi ladies
well Im currently on 2ivf at moment.
been told if i get same result i would need to consider doner egg option. this is a hard decision i am hoping i don't have to make.
would you ladies do it? bearing in mind we have no children. its a scary option am praying it won't come to it. what are your thoughts? x x
booey
well Im currently on 2ivf at moment.
been told if i get same result i would need to consider doner egg option. this is a hard decision i am hoping i don't have to make.
would you ladies do it? bearing in mind we have no children. its a scary option am praying it won't come to it. what are your thoughts? x x
booey
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I'm sure it won't come to that booey for you, when is your egg collection?
I assume they use hubby's sperm whenever possible?
xx
it now looks like this is my route. can't believe it.
never in a million years would i thought i would be in this boat. but when your faced with your only option, what do you do?
life is cruel sometime. but life is short also and i only get one attempt at living so to live without being a mother i just can't do. i have so much love to give to my baby that my answer is yes i would consider doner eggs x x
yes need lots of info etc. .
doner egg seems to be light at end of else tunnel now x x
At least with donor eggs, you still carry that baby inside you and feeling it growing and moving, and it lives off YOU. It will FEEL like it is 100% yours and it will be. You are the one you will give birth to it, look after it and make sacrafices for it. You don't even need to tell people. And at least they can use your hubby's sperm. It is deffinately without a doubt still your baby.
If I was in the same situation as you, then I would deffinately use donor eggs.
Lots of luck for you next IVF attempt. xxxx
I know a family who used a donor egg to have their child... Im not 100% sure of the circumstances around it, but they know of the women who donated her eggs... it was all arranged through the ACU, but theres something now that donors cant be anon... and it turns out the donor lives very very very locally!! (5 min walk.. same town).
Yeah i agree it would take alot of thinking over, but at the end of the day you carry that baby for nine months and make the sacrifices for it.
xx
Its absolutely your baby and I would give anything to carry my own baby, so take ay chance you can xx
just been reading through your posts and im sure there's nothing i can really say to make you feel better at the moment. I'm just so sorry things went the wrong way again You sound like the most amazingly loving and maternal person and i think it would be wrong for a child not to receive all that love you have to give him/her, however that child comes to you. You have some unbelievably hard decisions to make and i can't pretend i know what you're going through - but i will say that i have a friend who has had a baby using a donor egg and she's never looked back. Her gorgeus little boy is her whole world and, although she had fears when she made the initial decision, she now has a firm belief that fate intervened to bring him to her. Sometimes through the worst knocks life has to give us we get the most wonderful blessings, she could not be any less his mother, she's grown him, her husband is his daddy, she has fed him and nurtured him and now he's here, like all mummies, she can't bare the thought that she might have had any baby but him.
I know this doesnt mean it would be the right decision for you but im sure once you had got to the end of the road with it, and were holding your child, you'd feel the same, though its understandable you have doubts and fears now.
I know its easy for me to say as i have my baby, but have shed a tear for you today as i can't imagine how painful this must be for you sending big hugs and lots of strength to you and your husband, im sure you'll make the right decision together xx