How on earth am I supposed to deal with people telling me that 'its probably just stress' or 'there's probably nothing to worry about' or 'stop thinking about it and it will happen naturally'. All the while being totally dismissive of how I must be feeling. Typically these are people who have kids and have no spot of bother.
Now I'm not saying I have anything against these woman, but they don't understand how hard it is, to be ttc for 3 years....The one thing I want most in the world I am not getting.
Its so hard to smile, and put on a brave face when all you think about is why?
A little background about me. My OH and I have been together for 7 years. We are now in our 3rd year TTC after I came off the Depo jag. My cycle is mega messed up and my OH has been tested. All a-okay there... in fact above average which doesn't help my feelings but obviously helps the fertility side. We are now on the 7 month waiting list for our first appointment with the Fertility Clinic in Glasgow.
My mood has taken a spectacular dive. I am overweight, I am not oblivious to this so I am doing everything I can to lose the excess weight. But like my doctor said, overweight people fall pregnant too. I was caught up in nasty cycle of being unhappy, unhappy because im not pregnant, not pregnant because of my weight, eating because im unhappy.... not good. My mood has slightly changed but I still feel like I need to seek a professional to vent my frustrations and that's what I have done. so we shall see...Also telling myself that I am failing at the one thing a woman was put on this earth to do wasn't helping. Still doesn't.
How do people cope? we as woman have to much pressure, it sucks sometimes being a woman...is that why we are the stronger species? probably.