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What are the first steps when going to see a doc?

Hi ladies,

I'm hoping you may be able to help.

My husband and I have a beautiful daughter who is now 2. We conceived on month 3.

We've been ttc baby 2 for 10 months now, with a MC after 2 months.

I just don't understand what's going on now image

We're being realistic now and talking about seeing a doctor in the next few months to see what's going on.

Can you please tell me what the first stage is and what tests they do etc, and how long this takes, then what happens after that?

Thank you so much,
Amy xx

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  • Hi,

    The first step will be seeing a fertility specialist at the hospital who will go through your (yours & your hubby's) medical history. He will then ask you to do some blood test ( on day 2 or 3 and day 21of your cycle ) and a Varginal ultra sound to check the womb and the ovaries..etc; he will also ask your husband to do a Semine analysis. You will then return to see the doctor to discuss the result ( usually after 3 months on NHS) If the doctor is still not sure of the problem he will probably ask you to do a Hysterosalpingogram to see if the Fallopian tube are normal; and may be ask you husband to repeat his SA. These are the main tests and obviously there are more which the doctor will decide on them depending on your problem.
    The investigation process is quite long on NHS; I personally started to see the fertility specialist last year and still until now don't know what the problem is as we've being ttc'ing for almost 2 years.

    I hope you find this of help.
    I wish you all the best.
  • Oh Lady Mel, thank you for all that info.
    That's so so helpful and given me a clear understanding of what to expect. It seems such a long process though image

    Thank you so much xx
  • So sorry to hear about your mc

    However, 10 months isn't at all long to be trying. A lot of perfectly healthy couples take much longer than a year, and your doctor probably wouldn't want to see you until at least that point anyway. When I was seeing a specialist he pretty much said that we'd have to be trying 2 years before treatment (I've never been pregnant before and am in my early 30s). Seeing as you have a child, you may find them even more reluctant to refer you, though there is something called secondary fertility, which is struggling to conceive a second child.

    When / if you do see your doctor, they'll refer you to a specialist. You will find that everything takes months so don't expect immediate results / appointments. You will get referred for a few tests (bloods to make sure you ovulate, hsg, scan) and your OH for sperm samples. You will have to wait 3 - 4 months between appointments which really does drag on.

    It is a long process and not pleasant, which is why I think you should at least wait until you've been trying for a year. I feel tremendously lucky to have conceived after 18 months as some girls on here have been trying years.

    Good luck!x
  • I mirror what the other girls have said, it seems like a simple process but it drags on, it took me 10 months to get prescribed clomid and that was even hurrying things along with some private scans etc. I found that clinics were alway booked and it took months to get everything done. Of course if you can afford it and/ or are desperate you can always go private. It took 20 months in total for me to get BFP.

    I dont know for sure but I think like the others have said i think the fact you already have a child will make them even less sympathetic. Many of us have been told to go away and 'keep trying'. They may assume that because you have concieved naturally you will do again. I would wait a year and then stand your ground.

    Good luck

    Gem x
  • Hey, again to echo what the others have said. I had a similar experience, I got pg with my first June 08 after 3 months then sadly mc'd July, after that I was so desperate to get pregnant I honestly think I stressed my self out of it. I was obsessed. I finally went to the doctors in January (made it my new years resoltion) hubby had already had an sa come back fine, my tests all came back fine they just said you have been pregnant before, used the most annoying words in the long termers vocab "relax it will happen" god forbid they were actually right. This month I gave up, had sex for fun tisk tisk! Did loads for me and what do you know, bfp. What I am trying to say is that as annoying as it is sometimes relaxing is the only way, it is so hard, especially when you have had it robbed once and you spend every month trying to work out what you did differently that month, the truth is you were probably taking it easy, had only been trying for a few months and no previous loss.

    Our doctor was not very sympathetic at first, his attitude was "well you are obviously fertile you have conceived once" the mc didn't really help us get anywhere and if you are under 30 and trying for less than a year they may just send you away so be prepared to be pushy.

    I am sure you will have your dream soon, it is so hard to be patient though I know xxx
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