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need to let off steam, sorry!
Sorry for a Sunday grumble, nothing that everyone on here hasn't gone through I know. But I need a bit of a splurge....
So many of my good friends are pregnant. I've promised myself never to let it show that it's a bit upsetting to hear each time ... after all, it's not all about me, it's their wonderful news and I never want people to think I'm anything but ecstatic that they're expecting. But lately there has been such a run of 'good news announcements' and I'm exhausted with it. I know it's not a race, and I know it won't make a difference to me getting pregnant however many of my friends get pregnant. But so many are unexpected, or honeymoon babies, or second / third babies, or 'they only tried for one month' babies. And every time, I have to act really excited for them and then go off for a bit on my own, have a cry and then feel guilty because I'm being selfish. It happened again today, a really good friend hasn't phoned for a while and I just knew what it would be. So I picked up the phone, we had a long chat and, right at the end, she said she's pregnant again. Of course I'm happy. But now I'm on my own and I'm feeling so sad about the whole thing. I don't know how many more months I can do this and I'm dreading having to do IVF and I wish we could have done it as easily as my friends. I was always the one that was 'bound' to have children. Now even the people I know who were really ambivalent about kids have got there, and we haven't.
Nothing else really to say, just feeling a bit sorry for myself. Everyone on here is so positive and I wish I could get some of that PMA.
Right - time for a nice hot bubble bath, a bar of chocolate and a glass of wine .......
So many of my good friends are pregnant. I've promised myself never to let it show that it's a bit upsetting to hear each time ... after all, it's not all about me, it's their wonderful news and I never want people to think I'm anything but ecstatic that they're expecting. But lately there has been such a run of 'good news announcements' and I'm exhausted with it. I know it's not a race, and I know it won't make a difference to me getting pregnant however many of my friends get pregnant. But so many are unexpected, or honeymoon babies, or second / third babies, or 'they only tried for one month' babies. And every time, I have to act really excited for them and then go off for a bit on my own, have a cry and then feel guilty because I'm being selfish. It happened again today, a really good friend hasn't phoned for a while and I just knew what it would be. So I picked up the phone, we had a long chat and, right at the end, she said she's pregnant again. Of course I'm happy. But now I'm on my own and I'm feeling so sad about the whole thing. I don't know how many more months I can do this and I'm dreading having to do IVF and I wish we could have done it as easily as my friends. I was always the one that was 'bound' to have children. Now even the people I know who were really ambivalent about kids have got there, and we haven't.
Nothing else really to say, just feeling a bit sorry for myself. Everyone on here is so positive and I wish I could get some of that PMA.
Right - time for a nice hot bubble bath, a bar of chocolate and a glass of wine .......
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Sending you a big hug and a bucketload of PMA!
xxx
Hope you are enjoying the wine and chocolates and sending you BIG ((((((((HUGS))))))))
Hope you are enjoying the wine and chocolates and sending you BIG ((((((((HUGS))))))))
Feeling much better today. I think the hugs and nice comments helped even more than the wine! xx
Totally unselfish and just normal feelings there is nothing you want more and it seems so unfair, hope you are feeling better, I went through a phase last month where all I did was cry for about a week it was awful, think we all have our ups and downs, heres to a few ups for you xx