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Bitter sweet moment- we're being referred for ICSI...

Hi ladies,

For those of you who were following last week I was gutted when I left my appointment having been told although achieving pregnancy naturally wasn't impossible ICSI was almost inevitable for us but that my PCT wouldn't fund us until I was 30 (20 months time) so no more could be done at that time for us.

But I had suspicions the wrong PCT had been checked and it had! Ichecked out the guidelines (with your help) and it seemed like we'd be eligible, I was just waiting on the consultant to confirm this.

Today he has, he feels we ARE eligiable and WILL be referring us image, just got to sign some paperwork that he'll then send with all my notes to the PCT who'll then hopefully give the go ahead to our chosen hospital (who don't have much of a waiting list image)

I'm not sure how long all this admin will take but I'm hopeful for the earlier half of 2010 for our first cycle of two....

Thanks for all the help, support and advice thus far, you've kept me (fairly) sane and I'm so grateful.

I may change by mind but I'm tempted to put the CBFM in the back of my drawer and put TTC to the back of my mind until the ICSI can start... not that I've given up hope of it happening naturally but that, that approach may even help but either way I can focus my energies on something else before the IVF journey begins and give my heart and mind a wee rest.

~OP xx
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  • That's great news - good luck with an early 2010 BFP xx
  • That's great news - good luck with an early 2010 BFP xx
  • Sorry to G/C, but just wanted to say how thrilled i am for you and wish you the best of luck with the ICSI!! Looking forward to your bfp announcement already image x
  • OP - this is fabulous news. Just goes to show that it can be worth checking and double checking the answers we are given. I'm so pleased for you.

    I know what you mean about the referal feeling bittersweet - no girl dreams of their child being created with the intervention of fertility specialists - but it is fantastic that these opportunities are available to us and you have a timeframe to work with.

    Along with others on the board, I start IVF/ICSI in the new year. I feel 2010 is going to be a great year for BFPs on this board. There is goign to be a whole gaggle of us who can support each other and cyber cheer as we graduate across to PG.

    Re what to do now - only you can decide. Myself, I put my CBFM into temporary hibernation in June, and I haven't really missed it. I have focussed instead on the healthy living part.

  • OP I am so pleased that ICIS is now being funded and the planning of it is now being started. As MrsD says there is a few of us starting in Jan/ Feb! I can completely see 2010 being the year of BFPs image
    xx
  • Im glad things are finally moving for you honey. Sending you lots of luck and baby dust X X X X
  • Fab news - well done you for doing your homework and standing your ground. You are getting closer to that BFP chick! I got my BFP the month I ditched my CBFM - it had helped me with my cycles and so I had an idea in my mind but it was definitely refreshing not to be dictated to by it. A month off can't do any harm x
  • OP, this is really very good news. I can understand why you feel it is a bittersweet moment right now, but think of the positives and how lucky we are that this sort of intervention is available to us in order for us to get the baby we dream of.

    I'm really pleased that things are moving for you now. Personally I would hide the cbfm and take it easy for a bit, you never know if you take the stress out of it you may even create your own little miracle before the ICSI even starts! x
  • aw op thats fab really pleased for you re the cbfm I think thats a good idea, thats what i doneimage but great that you can party have a good christmas and new year and then ready yourself for becoming a mummy, love to you and mr op
  • OP - I am soooo pleased for you! I know you feel it is bittersweet, completely get you on that one. But this is BRILLIANT news - just think of the alternative! I am so pleased that we may have been able to help, in the slightest possible way, with getting you to this point. I put my CBFM in the draw about three cycles ago and haven't missed it. In fact, it's been nice not to have the daily reminder that we are struggling to concieve.

    I'll be with you in the New Year - new year, new babies! That's is now my slogan!!!

    Good luck hun and I am over the moon for you.

    xxx
  • oh congrats honey, I bet you feel like things are really moving in the right direction now!
    oh really like the new year new baby slogan!!
    xxx
  • This is really good news - you are going to be on your way soon and it will all be worth it in the end. I can't believe your waiting time is so reasonable. I've been doing some research and it is a 3 year wait for NHS treatment in my area - this postcode lottery is a nightmare!
    Wishing you lots of luck
    xxx
  • Hey OP, just wanted to echo what everyone else has said. This is one step closer to your dream BFP and I'm really pleased you don't have to wait too long to get started. Well done you too for triple checking and getting the result you wanted.

    I'll keep everything crossed for you and I agree that 2010 is going to be off to a bumper start with lots of BFPs!!

    S xx
  • Thank you my darling girls, your overwhelming support never ceases to amaze me! xx
  • Oh wow hon im so pleased for you!! Im so glad you have been given the go ahead and well done you for double checking as 20 months is a very long time to wait!!
    I have everything crossed for an early 2010 bfp you deserve it so so much. xxx
  • Hello gorgeous lady,

    I was thinking of you this morning so thought I'd come and track you down to see how you got on at the hospital.

    You've certainly had a busy week, well done for looking into things further, I'm delighted for you at the results of your investigative work!

    Whilst I'm sorry you have been referred, I'm also really pleased for you that something is now happening. You've had a really tough year of it and I think your heart (and mind!) could do with a little rest as you say. Hey, you never know.... Roll on 2010 and the first appointment!

    Sending you the biggest hugs honey. You so deserve this and like the others, I can't wait to hear of your bfp post. I've said it so many times before, but it's meant from the bottom of my heart.

    Much, much love, Tipi. xxxxxx
  • Tipi- thank you darling girl, I got your email. Will reply just been so busy but that's probably for the best!

    Your kind words mean so much xx

    NewMrsB- You've been there from the start.... makes me realise how long I've been TTC!!!! Nice to know though that there will be some very genuinely excited girls when I FINALLY make that BFP announcement. Thanks for checking in even though you've had your beautiful girl, not everyone would but you've never forgotten your first pals xx

    Sanguine- i wish you and so many others couldn't echo these feelings so well, I wouldn't wish it on anyone but know that our time will come.

    Thank you for your words and best of luck to you too xx
  • HEllo hun,

    So sorry I havent replied earlier I havent been on much. That is great news about the ICSI hun so glad you dug a little deeper.

    I think a casual break is a good idea, we stopped ttc after our 3rd mmc in Aug as were undergoing tests for recurrent mc & we are due to get part of our results on Tues the break has done so much for us & my state of mind is in a much better place for the road ahead.

    Keeping everything crossed that you get on the list soon & your wait for a bfp will soon be over. xxxx
  • Hi OP, I don't pop into other forums all that much. But noticed your post.

    Wanted to say I am so glad something is happening for you. I hope it is successful. Try to relax a little in the time between now and when it starts, you have something positive to look forward to, but it may still take it out of you. Just enjoy Christmas! image

    Wishing you lots and lots of luck. xx
  • OP, I was thinking about you today so came looking for you (not a stalker I promise) to see how you are getting on, I am glad to come on to find some positive news for you. I will keep everything crossed for a speedy process and a well deserved BFP early in the new year!!
    Miss I
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