My daughter had a miscarriage - I am a sad mom and grandma

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• hayley_l

  Oct 20, 2008 7:41AM

  hi, just typed a reply and it didnt come up. Just be there to give her a hug, she may just want to cry on your shoulder and not want you to say anything, sometimes that is all that is needed, myabe you could try to ring her but dont take it to heart if she doesnt want to talk, to be honest when I had my miscarriages if people rang it was wrong and if they didnt it was wrong, just take whatever she throws at you but dont take it personally and stay strong for her. xx

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• Leanne859

  Oct 20, 2008 7:44AM

  oh i'm sorry to hear of your daughters loss.
  
  may i ask how it happenend what caused it?

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• momcrouse

  Oct 20, 2008 1:10PM

  Thank you so much for what you said - it really hit home, as that is exactly what she is doing. Saying she is fine and just wants to be left alone. She said she doesn't even know how to deal with herself let alone anyone else. I dont' want to be selfish saying I need any comfort, just want to be there for her. I appreciate that you said she will in time.
  
  I am there for her anytime, so please just keep us in your prayers.
  

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• RachelandBabies

  Oct 21, 2008 6:01AM

  Both you and your daughter are in my prayers.
  
  My advice... turn up at her door with open arms. After I suffered a traumatic experience recently (not m/c) I kept my Mum at arms length as I didnt want to worry her further. My Mum also lives 100 miles away. But the door bell went and seeing her was a huge blessing. Just sat drinking tea and walking the dogs made me feel better. Nothing will take away the pain, but having Mum there makes the pain a little more bearable.
  
  Sending best wishes to you all. I am very sorry for your loss.
  

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• momcrouse

  Oct 21, 2008 10:13PM

  She called me last night - talked about everything except losing the baby. I was just glad to have talked to her.
  
  Then tonite I called to leave her a message about something and she answered the phone. We talked and then she really opened up. It was awesome I felt good about sharing with her. We talked about alot of things. She is prone to depression and has talked about possibly going back on her medication, but it really working through things. I called her doctor and she said that she would recommend her waiting for a week or two to start the medication and that she is going through a grieving process and that is perfectly normal.
  
  I was so glad she talked and we shared, cried and really had a much needed conversation. I am going to try and get there this weekend. Thanks for all of your prayers.
  

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• Kazemma

  Aug 11, 2013 10:59PM

  Hello momcrouse

  I am so sorry about your daughter and for your loss.

  My daughter had a miscarraige yesterday - i feel so very helpless and devastated both for her and my unborn grandchild - she came to see me straight after her miscarraige - i didnt even know she was pregnant - her partner couldn't face seeing me so he dropped her off after she left the hospital - she said she justed wanted her mum - we hugged and i listened - i am distraught for her and her pain.

  The replies have helped so much - you are both in my prayers xx

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• sweetjudy21

  Aug 12, 2013 8:44AM

  Hi momcrouse and Kazemma,

  I'm so sorry to hear that your daughters had a miscarriage. I had one in April and know how you guys are feeling. I actually have't managed to get back to normal yet, it feels like my little world has fallen into pieces and I haven't managed to put it back together yet. I'm still very emotional There is one thing I really hate thou and that is when people say that it will happen (I will get pregnant again) when it is supposed to happen or when people say that I need to be patient! I am desperate to get pregnat again and it is just not happening

  xxx

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