1 year on

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• laurenfaith

  Oct 16, 2007 10:01AM

  hi im so sorry about your loss, i lost my baby too and the due date/ birthday is a really hard day i lost my baby at 13 weeks was due 3rd jan 07 which was a very hard day as i had to have a scan to see that my next pregnancy was ok . i still spend a lot of time wondering now about my baby i lost wondering if it was a girl or a boy at what stage it would be at now ect ,its hard to get my head around it all now with a healthy baby almost 9 weeks thinking he would not be here if my other pregnancy hadnt ended so please dont think in any way you are silly you are not you just are a very loving mum that cares maybe you could ge a special little something in memory of your baby? xx

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• froggitt

  Oct 16, 2007 11:43AM

  Hi Amanda,
  Ive had 3 Mc over the years my most resent was june this year. My first was 13 years ago and even now I think about him/her and wonder what they would look like would they be close to my eldest who will be 14 on Monday, and I still get sad.
  After my most resent Mc we buryed baby under a rose in the garden and its one of the first things i see each day and last thing at night b4 i check on the kids in bed and this has really helped me I never did this with the other babys and feel kind of guilty as if they think Ive forgotten them, I think when it comes round to aniversery of the others I may plant them a rose have you thought of doing something like that?.
  I sometimes feel like there are little angels sitting next to my children looking after them, this is my way of coping i guess and everyone of us deals with things in there own way, I hope things get easier for u, each year you will remember and it really does get easier but maybe talking with a really good friend or Oh? will help?, or even writing a letter to your baby if you feel unable to talk?.
  I dont know if Ive helped, but I send hugs your way
  Vikki XXoo

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• -kia-

  Oct 17, 2007 7:00AM

  Hey amanda
  Its just coming up to the time when we lost our little one last year too, not sure how we'll cope around that time but on the 7 may which would have been our due date, we went for a walk and released a balloon for our baby and had birthday cake. On monday (baby loss awareness day) we lit a candle in the evening and left it burning in our bedroom while we went to sleep (tealight in a sturdy holder out of the reach of the cat!!) and I expect we'll probably light a candle around the time of my m/c too (I'm not sure of the exact date, I miscarried naturally and tried not to pay attention to specific dates of things).
  
  Its not silly to be sad about your loss..please don't ever think that - I am sad about our little one as well as being happy I'm pregnant again, and I know we wouldn't have this baby if we hadn't lost our first.. its a whole lot of conflicting emotions - I just cry when I need to and know we won't forget our baby.
  
  I like to think of our lost angel watching over our baby and being a guardian angel for him once he's here.
  
  hugs

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• aa

  Oct 22, 2007 2:21PM

  Hi Amanda
  I can understand what you are going through we have lost 2 babies one last year at 7 weeks and one in july at 20 weeks. we were very fortunate with our little girl as we got to see her and hold her as i had to give birth to her. she was born the day after my birthday and was due in November.
  
  i will never forget her we have just found out we are expecting again we have no other children but we say that Grace is going to have a brother or sister. the 2 babies will always be with us and you can never replace them.
  
  thinking of you all
  
  Ann

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• sparkleXx

  Oct 27, 2007 4:44AM

  thanks for all your kind words, ive ben so busy so haven been online so not replyed, the day went well i found the days leading up to it worst, me and hubby chatted about it and how we will never 4get. it helped. igot really freaked out caue i realised on the day my baby was exactly 11 weeks old, i was 11 weeeks gone when it happened i said it was spooky etc my husband said it was coinicidence!! it helped me though strangely!!

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• LouMichelle

  Nov 16, 2007 4:19AM

  For me 1 year on was worse, I miscarried on exactly the same day (18th Nov) and to be honest I'm dreading it this year. I know it 2005 I was 11wks and 2006 6wks and I'm way past that stage now (32+2), but I can't help worrying if history will repeat itself for a third time. I'm trying to stay calm for the sake of this baby but its easier said than done...xx

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