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Ectopic and angry (long sorry)
Hi
Not new to here but normally posting in response to my one-year old or 4 yr old. Anyway about 2 weeks ago I discovered I was 6 wks pregnant which was a surprise as I was on the mini pill. Anyway, finally got my head around the fact that despite having only returned to work two weeks earlier following the birth of my second child I was expecting little treasure number 3. I was still surprised I'd got caught as I didn't feel pregnant.
Anyway, I started spotting about a wk after finding out and immediately paniked, but it soon stopped and despite contacting my GP and NHS Direct was told it was common in early pregnancy. I mentioned during this first appointment that unlike my other two pregnancies I didn't feel pregnanct, and that the only symptons I had, had were dizzy spells (which I didn't have in either of my other two pregnancies). A week later (last wednesday) I had a slightly heavier bleed and again visited my GP (now 7wks) as I was concerned something was not right. Again I was told it was common in early pg and a scan was made for 1 wk later!!
Meantime, I knew something wasn'r right and frantically looked around for a private early pregnancy scan, but there were none local to us.
Two days later I was in the park with both daughters,
it was my eldest's 4th birthday and we were having a picnic with friends when suddenly my jeans were just covered in blood and my stomach was in agony. I managed to keep calm while my friends diverted the children, contacted my GP and husband. The GP advised I was probably miscarrying and that I could come and talk about what would happen next if it would help! I said I would as by now I was extremely concerned by the amount of blood loss. My husband dashed straight from work and together with my friends bundled me in the car and got me home. Once home I managed to get upstairs and change before collapsing on the floor. Hubby put me in the recovery position to bring me around and to this day I don't know how we quite got to the doctors as I was still bleeding heavily and feeling very lightheaded and in pain (could hardly walk).
Doctor examined me (sorry this is long feel like I need to share it) and despite ientifying pain down one side suggested I go home and sit it out!! Only when my husband asked how he should treat me if I collapsed again did he retake my blood pressure which was low and pulse and decide to change his mind and send me into the Gyne Assessment Unit providing I could get there within the hour. On arrival the hospital gave me an internal scan and confimed the pregnancy was ectopic. I was then placed in a relatives room whilst they made arrangements to admit me.
From arriving at hospital for a scan at 14:45 things then moved much quicker and I wasn't allowed to move a muscle. I went into theatre at 17:45 and my left tube and the ectopic pregnancy were removed. I came round at 21:45 so thought I'd been in theatre for hours and feared the worse. On Saturday morning I was told they had successfully removed the tube but there had been significant internal bleeding when they opened me up. Had the ectopic pregnancy been discovered earlier they could have saved the tube!
I just feel so angry that doctors risked my life by not scanning me straight away. I know they can't always see things on a scan but based on me being on the pill, bleeding, lack of symptons and dizziness they could have scanned earlier than the proposed 8 wks. I also feel really angry that had my husband not spoke up I probably would have been sent home to bleed to death. Sorry for being dramatic, I just feel so upset that i've lost a baby, a part of my body and my life was put at risk for what the cost of a scan. Sorry for going on, I just feel I need to share the experience so if anybody else feels they are not being listened too please speak up as it may just be important.
angie
Not new to here but normally posting in response to my one-year old or 4 yr old. Anyway about 2 weeks ago I discovered I was 6 wks pregnant which was a surprise as I was on the mini pill. Anyway, finally got my head around the fact that despite having only returned to work two weeks earlier following the birth of my second child I was expecting little treasure number 3. I was still surprised I'd got caught as I didn't feel pregnant.
Anyway, I started spotting about a wk after finding out and immediately paniked, but it soon stopped and despite contacting my GP and NHS Direct was told it was common in early pregnancy. I mentioned during this first appointment that unlike my other two pregnancies I didn't feel pregnanct, and that the only symptons I had, had were dizzy spells (which I didn't have in either of my other two pregnancies). A week later (last wednesday) I had a slightly heavier bleed and again visited my GP (now 7wks) as I was concerned something was not right. Again I was told it was common in early pg and a scan was made for 1 wk later!!
Meantime, I knew something wasn'r right and frantically looked around for a private early pregnancy scan, but there were none local to us.
Two days later I was in the park with both daughters,
it was my eldest's 4th birthday and we were having a picnic with friends when suddenly my jeans were just covered in blood and my stomach was in agony. I managed to keep calm while my friends diverted the children, contacted my GP and husband. The GP advised I was probably miscarrying and that I could come and talk about what would happen next if it would help! I said I would as by now I was extremely concerned by the amount of blood loss. My husband dashed straight from work and together with my friends bundled me in the car and got me home. Once home I managed to get upstairs and change before collapsing on the floor. Hubby put me in the recovery position to bring me around and to this day I don't know how we quite got to the doctors as I was still bleeding heavily and feeling very lightheaded and in pain (could hardly walk).
Doctor examined me (sorry this is long feel like I need to share it) and despite ientifying pain down one side suggested I go home and sit it out!! Only when my husband asked how he should treat me if I collapsed again did he retake my blood pressure which was low and pulse and decide to change his mind and send me into the Gyne Assessment Unit providing I could get there within the hour. On arrival the hospital gave me an internal scan and confimed the pregnancy was ectopic. I was then placed in a relatives room whilst they made arrangements to admit me.
From arriving at hospital for a scan at 14:45 things then moved much quicker and I wasn't allowed to move a muscle. I went into theatre at 17:45 and my left tube and the ectopic pregnancy were removed. I came round at 21:45 so thought I'd been in theatre for hours and feared the worse. On Saturday morning I was told they had successfully removed the tube but there had been significant internal bleeding when they opened me up. Had the ectopic pregnancy been discovered earlier they could have saved the tube!
I just feel so angry that doctors risked my life by not scanning me straight away. I know they can't always see things on a scan but based on me being on the pill, bleeding, lack of symptons and dizziness they could have scanned earlier than the proposed 8 wks. I also feel really angry that had my husband not spoke up I probably would have been sent home to bleed to death. Sorry for being dramatic, I just feel so upset that i've lost a baby, a part of my body and my life was put at risk for what the cost of a scan. Sorry for going on, I just feel I need to share the experience so if anybody else feels they are not being listened too please speak up as it may just be important.
angie
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to lose a baby is bad enough, but to lose one of your tubes unnecessarily, and to have your life put at risk like that is just awful.
I hope you are healing well, take it easy and get lots of rest and cuddles from your hubby and lo's.
Good luck hun x
Obviousley u need to take time to heal and grieve for ur treasure, but if i were u i'd think about making a complaint toyour surgery as well cause it may help another woman not to be placed in such a terrible situation where she could die!!
Good luck for the future honey, take it easy and rest up.
lots of love to you & your family.
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My auntie went through a similar thing 10yrs ago but she didn't know she was pregnant. She just started bleeding heavily, passed out and hit her head on a door handle and was knocked out cold. Her kids were at there dad's and if it hadn't have been for next door hearing a massive thud she would've died.
Take time to grieve and rest, it'll be a long process but with the love of your family you will get through it.xxx
Anyway, two years down the line and I now have an 8 month old little girl, Freya, and I couldn't have wished for more. There is still a sense of pain when I think of the babies I have lost and the way I was treated but I just concentrate more on what I have than what i've lost. There is something in 'positive thinking' I believe. I really hope you start to feel better soon. Take your time to greive for your baby, you'll never forget, but also be thankful for what you have. x
I too have found that you get ignored when you complain of no symptoms, bleeding, pain in first 12 weeks as they just say it's common, or to wait and see. Even after going to a&e with bleeding, pains and all symptoms disappeared they wouldn't scan me and just sent me home. We actually went for a private scan the next day which confirmed mmc. I really felt quite abandoned by nhs as I then called 2 local epu's to ask what to do - one actually hung up one me which I was horrified by (going to write and complain) Another didn't seem bothered and just told me to go to gp. When I got to gp she just called the epu herself and they finally listened. I was furious though. I mc'd naturally on Monday night and when I got to epu on Tues morning they had a right go at me for not keeping the sac. No one had bloody told me to though otherwise I would have. They really should offer more advice etc on what to expect/do with mc. I felt totally on my own and am really angry about the way the whole thing was treated.
I hope you recover soon. Take care hun. xxx
I just wanted to say that I am so sorry for what happened to you.
It sounds like your doctor was pretty useless! I think it is fine that you feel so angry, I would feel the same way if I was in your position.
Hope you can take some time off to heal both mentally and physically.
Big hugs
Frankie x
I had an ectopic 6 years ago and nearly died because basically it was the weekend and my consultant was only a mon-fri,specialist,and because he wanted to do a better job than princess sophie,(she had an ectopic at the same time as me!)
As you can imagine i was disgusted by his lack of care and thought.
I was left for 3 days in a side ward,and the only reason i knew something was very wrong was because by this stage i couldnt pee,and was told that if had any pain in my shoulders should call for help immediately!
In the evening this was the sunday my hubby and mum came to visit,and something happened that i cant explain except that i knew i was very ill,apparently, it was the blood filling up inside me and starting to flood my internal organs!!!!!!!
The consultant has since left the hospital,and when he let me out on the wednesday he hadnt even told me or my family,so had to leave in my night clothes..
I know exactly how you are feeling love and my heart goes out to you,just because its an early pregnancy that they know will not survive does not mean we dont feel it any less,and as you say its our bodies and our health they are playing god with!!!
But my doc told me that the pain an ectopic preg can cause can be worse than labour, and after 2 normal deliveries, I can say that I agree...
I was depressed for weeks and my body took a long time to recover.
I hope you feel better real soon Angie. Losing a baby is hard enough...
So sory for your lose, about 5 years ago I had an eptopic and like you only when I collapsed did anyone do anything about it. I didn't know I was pregnant and was told it was just bad period pains or a grumberling appendix!!
I've just suffered a silent mc and again no-one listened to me, I expressed concern for about 10days and when I finally visited a&e with pain and bleeding, they said it was a bladder infection!
Only on monday at my 12 week scan did they tell me that my baby had been dead for about 4-5weeks! still i was sent home with OH to discuss what i wanted to do, although we had already decided on a D&C. I was admitted 9am tues morning but didn't go for surgery until 8pm that night, I ahve to say once I came round, the nurses were fantasic and the ladies in the same room as me were lovely, we were in a different part of the hospital to those who were pg.
OH has said should we become pg again, we're going private, but it comes to something when you have to pay for a service the goverment charges you for out of your wages every paypacket! Sorry to rant but what a bloody state to let the nhs get into.
Love and best wishes to you
-x-x-