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how did you feel? and how do you feel now?
hey girls
i found out that i was pregnant at 8 weeks and was so excited about my 12-week scan, but didnt even get 2 see the baby as i miscarried before the scan sate. Me and other half was so devastated. I still havent got over it and its been 5 weeks now. Went on holiday for a while (holiday was planned before baby came) and i jus didnt feel in the mood. I really thought it would help but it didnt and now i have come back, it has hit me again. The worse part is i have freinds who are pregnant so seeing them makes me so upset. My other half's friend's girlfriend is due 2 give birth a couple days after what my due date would have been and it seems so unfair: :x
how did everyone feel?
how did you cope?
how do you feel about it now?
Jade
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i found out that i was pregnant at 8 weeks and was so excited about my 12-week scan, but didnt even get 2 see the baby as i miscarried before the scan sate. Me and other half was so devastated. I still havent got over it and its been 5 weeks now. Went on holiday for a while (holiday was planned before baby came) and i jus didnt feel in the mood. I really thought it would help but it didnt and now i have come back, it has hit me again. The worse part is i have freinds who are pregnant so seeing them makes me so upset. My other half's friend's girlfriend is due 2 give birth a couple days after what my due date would have been and it seems so unfair: :x
how did everyone feel?
how did you cope?
how do you feel about it now?
Jade
xxxxx
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Really sorry to hear your story, I hope you are doing ok, loss takes time to deal with, I too had a mmc and that was just under 4 weeks ago we have been quite up and down and obviously very anxious about it happening again we had an early mc back in March too. We have found it really tough and Im dealing with it by focusing on the future and TTC again, I dont think you ever get over it you never forget, but it just becomes easier to deal with, some days are still tough like you say when your friends are pregnant and you want to be happy and support them, but it is really hard, I found the girls on here have helped me get through it as its nice to talk to people who understand how you feel and the suport they have given is immense
hope you are ok
Love Luc xxx
i went through a range of emotions at the time, but mainly anger. took me a long time to get past that (although if i'm honest i still get angry that my much wanted and tried for bean was taken away when 2 friends of ours are due in oct with accidents that they were "so upset about".
i named my bean (Alex) which helped me. made it real. and we planted a tree on my due date in our garden.
hth
i find it so hard, i blamed it on myself at first, because you fink to ureself that u were carrying the baby so it must be somethink that you have done for it 2 happen.
The thing that hurts the most is i see girls who are pregnant and there talking about how they dont even want there baby, an they only got pregnant for the benefits and cause they will get a house. people like that i just want to slap them.
Calleigh i never thought of that. Thats a really good idea. I had a feeling that it was going to be a girl so i fink i will name her chantai. I managed to get the lady at the hospital to give me a scan pic so that i can remember my baby always.
mrswilc, sorry bout the double miscarriage. that must be devastating for you, but dont worry. If you need to talk just message and we all will be available for you cause we have all been through and are going through the same pain.
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Take care an keep posting so that i no ure coping alrite
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My MC will have been 11 weeks ago this Friday and we started TTCing again last month (wasn't succesful) so BDing again now for OV next week but that in itself made me feel guilty last month for doing so though feel better about it this month.
Things still make me cry and I get very angry at chavs and articles in the paper of 'mistakes' and ill treatment of babies and children - as how can these idiots have them and not appreciate their babies/children and we all struggle to have one!!!
Plus things like Ben Fogle and his wife MCing made me cry on telly the other day as you horribly know exactly what they're going through and you wouldn't wish it on anyone.
I bought a bracelett to remember my angel and will also be releasing a sky lattern on the due date in January and when the time ever comes we can afford to buy our own home I will then plant something in the garden too.
It will get better hun xx
mrswilc - I am so so sorry for your double loss - huge hugs to you hun. In the day its like you feel you can cope as you feel you have to get on with things but night time is different and be can so very lonely when hubby asleep and the dark thoughts set in - as Jade says the girls on here are all here for each other so please come and talk to us when ever you like - thinking of you
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Thank you for being there, this site is a well needed tonic.
Hope you guys are all ok.
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