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Just doesnt seem fair...
Hey
Im new on here i was expecting my 2nd set of twins on Oct 1st but i was dated a week later at my scan so i was 12+3 when i lost my twins yesterday! I cant believe this has happened im healthy and i did what i could it was so sudden and im not sure i quite accept wat has happened now! I shouldnt have too!!
People have said i shudnt be so sad as i have twins already who are 15mnth! They are beautiful and are giving me strength but that doesnt mean i loved my bambinos less!!
It would have been my partners first kids and he is distraught just wants to try again straight away and i now he isnt being insensitive but at the same time im oo scared to even think of that yet!
They have asked me if i want to attend a memorial at the end of the month but i dont know if i can!!
Does that make me a bad mother not wanting to remeber my babies??
I dont know what they will do to my babies and i dont know if i want too either....:/
I cried all thorugh the night and i am now just numb and so tired but i can not sleep! I passed the twins at 10pm last night.......will i ever feel better??
How do i explain to my girls what has happened as they new mammy was going to have more babies?? We told the family on mothers day and 2 short days later here we are mourning our angels the speed of it seems just unreal
Any help, support, advice greatly rcieved....
Eve, Ella, Ruby & My 2 Angels xxxx
Im new on here i was expecting my 2nd set of twins on Oct 1st but i was dated a week later at my scan so i was 12+3 when i lost my twins yesterday! I cant believe this has happened im healthy and i did what i could it was so sudden and im not sure i quite accept wat has happened now! I shouldnt have too!!
People have said i shudnt be so sad as i have twins already who are 15mnth! They are beautiful and are giving me strength but that doesnt mean i loved my bambinos less!!
It would have been my partners first kids and he is distraught just wants to try again straight away and i now he isnt being insensitive but at the same time im oo scared to even think of that yet!
They have asked me if i want to attend a memorial at the end of the month but i dont know if i can!!
Does that make me a bad mother not wanting to remeber my babies??
I dont know what they will do to my babies and i dont know if i want too either....:/
I cried all thorugh the night and i am now just numb and so tired but i can not sleep! I passed the twins at 10pm last night.......will i ever feel better??
How do i explain to my girls what has happened as they new mammy was going to have more babies?? We told the family on mothers day and 2 short days later here we are mourning our angels the speed of it seems just unreal
Any help, support, advice greatly rcieved....
Eve, Ella, Ruby & My 2 Angels xxxx
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My heart goes out to you and your partner and your 2 little girls.
I know it may not feel like it now but you will feel better.
Keep posting and if this forum is quiet, go on over to ttc after mc - tehy are lovely.
sending you lots of love
xxxxx
Of course you are grateful for the children that you already have - I have 3 other children too but it doesn't make you mourn the ones you've lost any less.
However you feel about the ones you have lost isn't wrong - we had a burial for my 2 previous mc and it really helps us to visit the grave once a year but everyone is different. My friend lost twins the same time I had my last mc and she didn't feel the need to have any sort of memorial for them.
Also, although it is obviously a joint decision, don't feel pressurised into trying again until you are ready. My way of dealing with my 1st mc was to get pregnant straight away then I had another mc and tried again straight away resulting in my wonderful daughter.
Since I have found out about losing this one I know that I have really focussed on the children that I do have which has helped me.
Hope some of this helps - and that you're not alone at this awful time going through this horrible loss xx
You're not alone though hun - we're here if you need us. I've found this forum to be really helpful when I've had my bad days (and there've been a few!).
((((big hugs))))
Big hugs to you xx
I'm so so sorry sweetie, I know that no words can make you feel at all better. I'm sending you so many hugs and the only advice I can give is to take the day an hour at a time - the range of emotions you go through after a mc is massive and you'll probably find that you chnage your mind about things time and time again.
Although you're not TTC yet, I would come over to TTC after mc/ectopic as it's a busier forum then here and is also full of women who have been through similar expereinces and I can truly say that I dod not believe I would have got through either of my mc wihtout the support from the lovely ladies on there.
Again, lots and lots of hugs to you at this awful time
xxx