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Completely Devastated
Hi All,
Hubby and I found out yesterday we'd had a MMC, was supposed to 11+2 but found out that Baby Allen died nearly 3 weeks ago, absolutely devasted. We were so close to 12 weeks, or so we thought. Just can't get my head around it! Booked into the hospital tomorrow to have the pessary, don't know what to excpect.
Mrs A x
Hubby and I found out yesterday we'd had a MMC, was supposed to 11+2 but found out that Baby Allen died nearly 3 weeks ago, absolutely devasted. We were so close to 12 weeks, or so we thought. Just can't get my head around it! Booked into the hospital tomorrow to have the pessary, don't know what to excpect.
Mrs A x
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Wanted to say so sorry about your recent loss, its so hard to get your head round especailly in the early days - I hope this forum helps a little as everyone can appreciate how you feel
Take time for yourself and dh and I hope tomorrow is over quickly
(sory can;t advise re this as had ectopic)
Daisyx
sorry to see you over here...i replied on your other post. I had the medical management so if you scroll through my topics you can see how i found this....everyone is different i know but i had no idea what to expect and it may help knowing but maybe not....
thinking of you,
Lx
I can't help you with the pessary as I had ERPC. But I think it starts cramps to help you naturally expel the baby. I'm not sure how uncomfortable it gets or anything.
Hope it is over quickly for you, so you can grieve properly. xx
its a horrible time,but we are all here for you,we have all been through the same thing,i had MMC at 10 weeks,baby had died at 6 weeeks,but i was still having symptoms,i had an erpc and physically i got over it pretty quick,but mentally it will always be there.
hugs
Clare xxx
I had an ERPC so I don't know much about the pessary but they will be very kind at the hospital and physically it should all be over fairly soon.
Take time for you and oh, its really hard at first but it does get better and we are all here to listen and answer ANY questions you have got.
xxx
We decided to name our little angel Grace, we both believed our baby was a girl and it is helping as our LO has an identity now.
How are you coping? Hug to you xxx
[Modified by: Mrs Allen on July 22, 2009 09:05 PM]
grace is a lovely name,absolutly beautiful!
we were convinced we were having a girl too,as my symptoms were so differant from my PG with my son.
i remeber seeing the screen when we had the scan,i wish i had asked for a picture.
xxxxx
Grace will be taken to the Funeral Directors tomorrow after the second part of the process and they will look after her there until her cremation day. We will be going with her to the crematorium and there will be a little service for her. We will be able to collect her ashes a few days later. They will be putting a little plaque on the ashes box with her name on it. We both feel a little better after today, this process is helping us say good bye to her x
Love Mrs A x
i will be takinga week off in october,bean was due oct 16th,i want to go for a lovely meal and release a balloon on the south downs for beans birthday..i havent discussed this with hubby yet,but i really want to do this.
i also think alot that maybe i should have asked to have a look at bean when they did the ERPC but think that the drs may have thought i was mad,i wasnt offered to look or any form or reminder or memorial from the hospital,i was just given the number for SANDS and a couple of weeks later a letter came through for counselling,which i never had.
thinking of you today Mrs Allen
huge hugs xxx Clare
i hope today goes aswell as it can for you
We waited a few hours and nothing happened, just passed a few clots and by 5:30pm we were moved onto the gynae ward as the day ward was closing. The consultants came down to see us and told us it looked like the procedure was going to fail and gave us the choice to either wait for nature, wait a few days and repaet the medical management or to go to theatre in the morning which they strongly recommended.
Hubby spent the night with me and nothing further happened so we had the operation at 11am this morning. I lost quite a lot of blood in theatre but I'm home and resting now. It's been pretty traumatic. They wanted to do some tests on Grace but we decided not to. She was so tiny and we felt it was wrong. We just want to lay her to rest now.
Thanks for listening
Love Mrs A x
im sorry you had to go thro that for it not to work and to the have to have surgery,very traumatic for you.......grace is at peace now and i think you made the right decision to leave her this way.
as littleminx says,rest up and take care of yourself.
sending you a massive hug today xxxxxClare
I miss Grace so much.
Love Mrs A x
take the time that you need your work will still be there but your health is alot more important. Sounds like your hormones are returning to normal,I know it makes it seem more final, but hopefully that will make the dealing with it a little bit easier, I used to get tearful in the few days between finding out about the mmc and going into hospital because I felt so pregnant, it even got to the point that I asked for a scan before I went into surgery as I was finding it so hard to believe. And still was hoping that it was all a big mistake...sadly it wasnt.
so so sorry you are having to go through this as I know all the girls on here will empaphise with how you are feeling, please dont feel like you are going through it on your own, we are all here to listen love and hugs Luc xxx
I remember you from the due in feb forum and when i saw the title of this post and your name beside it I couldn't help but cry out a little.
I'm not sure what else I can say to help you through this awful time but what has helped me is the ladies on this forum. I'm only 23- newly married, and felt totally alone when my mmc happened as none of my friends are at the same stage in life as I am. I had no one to talk to who understood what I was going through- i got the usual- it was for the best; there was something obviously wrong; you'll get pregnant again soon etc etc and these were words I didn't really want to hear.
I wanted to mourn the baby I had lost, the baby i had loved for the last ten weeks, the baby that my husband and i had created together out of love.
I think it's a good thing that you have got this week off to take care of yourself and get your head around this horrible situation. i have just been away for a week to portugal and i think it has done me the world of good- just needed to escape the day to day routine and have some me time.
if you want to talk let me know. and i hope we can continue on our ttc quest together
xxxx